Pregnant with cousin's baby?

Question

I'm an amateur editor for a local newspaper and I answer questions sent in by teens. One of them was that this girl fell in love with her cousin. They had this secret relationship and fooled around and she ended up pregnant. She really loves her cousin and she doesn't know what to do with the baby. She's 22 yrs old. How am I suppose to answer?

Answer 1

You are responsible for your personal actions welcome to the real world, you made a Y in your family tree.

Answer 2

Ask her to abort the baby. Tell her that nor is this right morally, but also genetically as the child would be born mentally or physically challenged. Ask her to first sort out the relationship, decide what she wants and makes sure that it is not just a "crush" before complicating things and making the yet to be born child, bear the brunt of their stupidity. Tell her that having a child is a big responsibility- and both parents should be willing to take it on. It will be financially and emotionally depleting. Specially since their families are likely to be against their relationship, and the couple would have to take care of things on their own. Tell her that she should sort out everything, and not bring the child into this world, because he would have to suffer because of their mistake. And most of all, ask her to give things time. She is still young. Even if she and her cousin decide that they want to be together, the decision can be taken after 2-3 years, i.e. after they have spent ample time together. Although there can and will be lots of problems, like parental pressure, society, medically, etc. Tell her to give it time... to wait it out... abort the child and make a decision after shes 25! She really doesnt want to end up having a divorce and with a mentally/ physically challenged kid whose life has been ruined. Ask her to use her wisdom. And not be selfish.

Answer 3

Well, that's pretty crazy. First of all, she needs to know if her cousin loves her back. She can't have a baby that is being cared for by an unloving father. Second, she needs to deal with her family. Of course, they're going to be scandalized by this and I highly doubt they'll let her keep the baby. An unwanted child has problems from the very beginning and also, one who is convceived by two people related to each other. If they have history of heart disease, obesity, mental illness, or any kind of medical history that could affect them, you have one screwed up kid. They have to check up on that first. But most of all, she has to keep in mind that abortion should be a decision taken by both of them, and should be the very choice.

Answer 4

That she needs to end this thing with her family member.. get some counseling and maybe give the baby up for adoption because it will not take long for people to figure out who the father is an then the child will be tainted it's whole life... better to give it a fighting chance then make it live a life of hell..... Tell her that there are p;enty of other men out there that will love her and she will love other then her family......

Answer 5

that is super, do not pay attention to each physique harassing you..if this *is* a real question, i might record rape costs..what a creep for doing that to you. I comprehend that that's traumatizing sufficient to be taken income of and that i don't think of even *I* ought to stand to advance a newborn whom I knew became right into a fabricated from rape. besides, what are you meant to do at relatives purposes? "Oh, right here is my son/ daughter, you recognize, my cousin's infant?" i don't care how all of us feels approximately abortions, you could not could pass by using that; that is not honest to you and you in all likelihood should not be waiting to love the youngster as though it have been a fabricated from affection and not rape. If I have been you, i might get an abortion or in case you could not stand to even *stay* for the duration of the being pregnant from all the emotional scarring, provide the infant up for adoption. do not think of he/she is going to be gruesome...purely attempt to handle issues and that i might heavily think of roughly submitting rape costs in view that's a gaggle of crap what happend to you. good success with each thing

Answer 6

that's a hard one well first you need to see if the girl want to deal with all the things that comes along with getting pregnant by a relative. she needs to think about how her baby's live may turn out, the baby could have birth defects. there's a lot of bad factors in this situation so in the end its all up to what the girl wants. so just tell her to make the best out off it

Answer 7

one of my friends is married to his first cousin, but tell her as long as its past 5th cousin its okay and have the baby. after all its not the babys falt that she cant find someone other than her family member.

Answer 8

Well Franklin Roosevelt married his cousin (Elenor). It is not illeagal for counsins to wed on most states. So I think that if they are that in love they need to go to the families and explain what is going on don't you?

Answer 9

How sick to sleep with your cousin -- a family member. I feel very sorry for this baby as it will be the victim.

Answer 10

yeowzaahs..
tell her to go and see a doctor becuase obviously the baby is gonna be really screwed up.
and tell her that if she loves her cousin, stay with him.

Answer 11

Okay tell her not to worry but to seak some help. I think she should keeep the baby but not nessiscarily tell her familey that it is her cousins!!!