after 7 years together, will he ever ask me to marry him?

Question

My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 7 years now. We are only 22 right now, but I have been telling him it is time for the next step for almost a year. He says we are to young, but I don't agree. He says we will get married, but not now. Everytime I hear that I want to scream. We have been living together and sharing expenses for almost five years also.We have friends that are our age that are married with kids, so who says we are too young? What should I do?

Answer 1

Is marriage really any different from what you have now? You live together, you share expenses, you've been together for 7 years. Every day, he chooses to be with you. No contract or written agreement forces him to stay, he stays because he loves you. Asking him to marry you is freaking him out and scaring him. Let it be. It's not broken, don't fix it.

Answer 2

I know this might be hurtful to hear but i think he is absolutely correct. You are really young to be married. God, i hate the fact that i have to put myself as an example but there are so many woman like me out there and if i can make a difference i will try my best. Truth is i married young matter of fact i was 22, now i am 37 and been divorced for 9 years. And just like me, most of your friends will find themselves in my shoes ten years from now. I can only tell you that 22 is so very young. Get through college first, have a back up plan in case you do decide to marry young you will have something to fall back on. I did this and it saved my life and my kids. I live a comfortable life, i cannot complain. You need to think ahead as a woman and secure your future, your marriage and your future children.
If your BF does not feel ready...worst mistake you can make is push him, he will resent you and will go after his freedom whether you like it or not. So wait until he is ready and if you can't than it may be time for you to move on your own, maybe this will make him miss you and realize what an important part of his life you are and this will speed up the marriage process. Please dont wait another 7 years of your life for him to pop the question either, that would mean he is taking you for granted.

Good luck sweetie.

Answer 3

Honestly, if you guys were in your mid to late twenties, then I would say you need to ditch him. Unfortunately, I agree with him, you are still too young and there is nothing wrong with waiting. And another thing is I noticed that you have been together since you were 15 and that does not give you the oppurtunity to have dated much before settling down with each other. Take it or leave it.....but I would suggest you two dating other people for awhile and seeing what else is out there. How can anyone know if dating the same person since they were 15, if there isn't a better suited person elsewhere. Obviously, he is thinking the same thing or you two would be married by now. You are probably more like brother and sister than a couple. Go out and date or you will regret it later on.

Answer 4

He hasn't any incentive to marry you after 5 years of living together. As a rule men who have relationships for that long without marrying the woman seldom do. You need to move out and move on. What he is really saying is that he doesn't want to commit on the off chance something better comes along. He is totally taking you for granted. That old saying "Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free?" is sooooo true when it comes to relationships. 5 years ago you were too young to be moving in together. Now it's a little too late for him to use that argument. Given the fact that you have put up with the excuse for the last year means that he can continue to put you off. It doesn't take long to get married. Get a license , go to the courthouse and get it done in just under 30 minutes. I know it will hurt you but you have to move out and away from him. Tell him that you want someone who is mature enough to show you the respect you deserve and to truly commit himself heart,body, and soul to you without excuses.

Answer 5

Why buy the cow when the milk is for free?? Ever heard that?? Why should he commit to you when he has it already?? Ask him this if you are too young to be married then why are you not too young to be PLAYING house?? I'd say that he is waiting to see for sure that he can settle for what he has unless something else comes by--so why put yourself in that position?? Don't invest your time with someone that could someday cast you aside and yet has had all the comforts of home for the past years--If all he wants is a room mate then let him get one and you need to step it up --Don't cook for him .shop,clean, or even this one SEX--that's all the things that are fringe benefits for married folks They have committed a life long stand--

Answer 6

Typically there's no such thing as the right time, you just need to go after it. You must give him a point in time, inform him on the end of this year plans must be put in location to get married else its quality to really rethink being collectively. Presently he already has everything he wishes, he has you, he has his children & when you get a residence he's going to have that too, in his mind offering for you & the kids is whats important & getting married just isn't priority on his intellect proper now. That's high-quality but he will have got to reach a selection in the event you really need him to suppose severely about you & the kids possibly you will have to move out. Living collectively creates an atmosphere of being stagnant, he is already getting the whole thing so why get married? Via moving out, you will be re-shuffling his priorities

Answer 7

I'm not trying to be judgemental or anything and sorry if I am, But when you start shacking together with a guy, they stop caring and it's almost like you're married. Twenty-Two isn't really a young age to get married at but than again it is. But if he says that you will get married someday than you will if he sticks with what he says. I know this couple that has been dating for about nine years and they still aren't married and probaly want ever get married. See if you act like you're married than you might as well get married but if you act like you know friends, than maybe he'll get the picture.

Answer 8

I dated my husband for 8 years before we got married, and lived together for 3 of those years! I was young when we started dating too...I was 17 years old! I tried to push him for marriage for a long time too. But I learned that it just pushed him away. The more you press the issue, the more he'll not want to get married! You can't force a man before he's ready! Y'all are both young. So just try to back off a little, relax, and just wait for it to happen. Don't try to compare your relationship to your friends...he'll hate that! When the time is right, he will ask you! He's just not ready right now, but I'm sure he loves you if he's been with you this long! Just try to be patient :-)

Answer 9

Cow - $5000. Milk - free. Not only is it free, but you don't have to put in any effort to get the milk. It's already in the glass ready to go. That's a long time to be together with no commitment, especially if you are ready for the next step. I don't think your to young. Just don't settle for whatever someone what's to dish out to you. If he doesn't understand it's time it only means he's not ready. Point blank. Good Luck!!!!

Answer 10

You have clearly made it to easy on him. He has no motivation to get married because you have already moved in with him and he probably is to immature to even think about having kids. Age is not the only sign of maturity. Let him know that you are not happy with your current situation and start looking for another place to live. If he loves you and wants to marry you he will ask, if he doesn't then he never will.