Have you ever fell out of love?

Question

Have you stoped loveing your husband because of the way he treats you and fall in love with another person ..

What would you do .. Besides not cheating

Answer 1

“It is impossible to fall out of love. Love is such a powerful emotion, that once it envelops you it does not depart. True love is eternal. If you think that you were once in love, but fell out of it, then it wasn't love you were in. There are no 'exit' signs in love, there is only an 'on' ramp.” - Anonymous

To answer, personally, however. I thought one of the reasons why my husband and I seperated (we were together for 10 years before that, beginning at the age of 15) was because I was falling out of love for him, but that wasn't the case.

Dispite his faults and the way he treated me (so badly to the point of seperation) I still love him; and always will. I am not "in love" with him now, probably haven't been for some time (we seperated last year) but with eveything we've been through, with all those years we've shared, I could never fall "out of love" for him.

It's like that corny little saying... "I love you but I'm not in love with you."

You probably still love your husband very much, otherwise you would'nt be so concerend about the result of your actions, or possible actions.

Just make sure you really think it through before making any rash decisions because once you open those "gates" there will be a "flood" and you have to remember, you're not the only one in this "situation" that will be affected. Remember, your husband is loosing someone too... you.

.pEace.

Answer 2

fell out of love?
to answer that question you need to first decide this: WHERE is love? How does one fall in or out?

The answer is this; There is no such thing as being in or out of love. Love is confused with LUST, which is natural attraction to other people. This attraction often leads to friendship and then sometimes to comittment. Love is a decision, a choice and a VERB. It is the way you chose to behave. It is an action. Love is when you stay with someone because you choose to honor your comittment. Love is when you still treat him with kindness even though the ooey gooey feelings are gone. Love is washing is undies, making him a sandwich, handing over the remote, agreeing to vacation in a place that makes the other happy, and it should be MUTUAL. However, real love is when you decide I am going to be kind this person because I promised I would, even when he is a jerk, even when he doesn't deserve it. That is love. That's the same love that you see when a spouse is very sick and the wife doesn't leave him, even though her "needs" are not being met at the moment.

Whether you love your husand or not is YOUR CHOICE and it is not because of some imaginary place called "love". Take responsibility for your choice and don't attempt to blame it on something that doesn't exist.

Answer 3

Yes, I stopped loving my husband because of the way he treated me. He was a controlling, manipulative person who eventually stopped me from having anything to do with my family and friends. (I stayed for 19 years like this). It got to the point that my life was all about fulfilling his needs only and if that didn't happen, he got miserable. So yes, it is possible to fall out of love with your husband because being treated this way quickly makes feelings of love for a person die. There was a very close friend that I had, I never cheated because I was married and I took my marriage vows seriously. We were just friends but we did fall in love and we were soulmates... however, he died shortly after I separated from my now ex-husband (almost 3 yrs ago). Try talking to your husband about how he treats you, my ex-husband always blamed everything on me and didn't see anything wrong with the way he treated me but it was abusive behavior. IF your husband is abusive to you, leave him hun, because unless he gets help, he isn't going to change. Do the two of you have good communication between each other, where you can be honest with each other and talk about everything? Try to get him to understand how you feel about the way he treats you and let him know that it is destroying your feelings for him. Maybe that will help him to understand. If he doesn't listen to you and thinks its all in your head, maybe its time to get out. Good luck.

Answer 4

You can "fall" in and out of love all your life! Love is a verb! It is an action word. You have to work at being in love. It's not just a feeling like in the movies.Even if your "in love' with some one, another person can come into your life and love them to.This can happen over and over.What would you do,never settle down?Go through divorce over and over and over again? That's one of the wounder full things about being a human.We love other humans.Not just one many . God wants us to love all of them.I have a hard time loving my next door neighbor right now though with their barking dog and all.But that's another subject for another day.I even love my former wife.I don't love her enough to stay married with her because of some things she did I will never except. We love some more then others and in different ways.I believe we find some one that has their head on straight,some one that loves us and us them then we work at it the rest of our lives.If we let one of those other people that we love or could love that come our way through out our lives interfere with our committed relationship,then we have a problem.This will happen over and over.Second guessing sadness the whole works.I"ve told my kids that love isn't enough by it self a reason to marry some one.Who are they,where are they going in there life.What do they stand for etc..I hope I helped some here.JenniferDhad some good advice I belive also.Way to go JenniferD ;-)

Answer 5

if your husband is mean and cruel then you leave, but if he is just distant or not attentive, then you talk with him about what you feeling and see what becomes of it. What you think is love for this other person, may not be really love. It could be the grass is greener situation. You are unhappy in your current life, so you look around seeing what you think you want in someone else. You need to work on the marriage and see if it is salvagable. How bad is it really? is the first question to clear up. Communicate your unhappiness to your spouse, he could be unhappy too or not realize that he is making you unhappy.

Answer 6

I think think you can fall out of love with somebody once you put your self in that pace your feeling can't change that easy.Unless you are a person with no heart.I personally don't think that that is true.The first boy I said I love you too broke my heart but we're still friends.I don't like some of the things he did but i still love him but when he ask me i just say i still care for you and i always will.You gotta be careful what you say to ex's cause next thing you know your new mate will have a problem.

Answer 7

"Real" Love is a constant and endures eternally, just like the source from which it comes. To fall out of love is an indication of not knowing what it is. We engage people for a variety of reasons, usually physical ones. Love is spiritual and on a different level. You don't leave love for something else; you're attracted to the physical and you nurture love with a spiritual diet.

Answer 8

I'm not married but many people fall out of love with their husbands because of how they treat them. But u can talk him tell him how u feel counseling,and explain to him in a nice way what's bothering u. He'll understand.

Answer 9

i have been with my husband 17years now i love him but not in love with him
there is a big different and at times i feel i could run then other times i feel i can not go
you may love your husband but you may
be like me and no you are not in love no more this is a hard question if life with your husband is getting you real down go because it wont do you any good being there
i wish you luck in the future
respect
shaz

Answer 10

oh yes u can fall out of true love. things change in a relationship and some ppl change thus makin the love u once had dwendle but u can find love again with them if u find what it was that u loved about them and get it back