I have been having an affair with a married woman for a year now,she is planning to leave her husband for me,but yet she has not told him that she is planning on leaving,her husband knows that she is having an affair but says nothing,I have been trying to convince her that the best thing to to is tell him so he dos'nt have to suffer any more than what he has,what should I do,any advice will be appreciated
2006-12-08 03:36:20 · 41 answers · asked by james g 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
do not be impatient, let her come when she is ready or you might regret her actions. Don't worry about her husband, I mean do you really care how he feels?Do not force her hand. Let her come to you under her own free will!
2006-12-08 03:53:07 · answer #1 · answered by dominicaquilino 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You have not figured it out . She has her cake and is eating it too. She is married having an affair with another married man. She has the best of both worlds why rock the boat. Are you that big a fool. If she cheated on her husband who says she won't cheat on you. You are not getting much of a person , she is a liar and thief and a cheat. But she is not getting much either you both are cut from the same cloth. Neither of you can be trusted. Your life together will be based on lying, cheating and dishonesty. You are hurting 4 people and lying to yourself. Is this what you want your life to be . You better think about what you are doing. Life is too short to be living a lie.
2006-12-08 04:24:19 · answer #2 · answered by springer 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Wow. I will try to be as nice as I possibly can, but shame on you! Now that I have gotten that out of my system, I will give you my opinion. Please be aware that part of the thrill of an affair is the secrecy and the deceiving. I think that once she leaves her husband, her attraction towards you will slowly fade, because what y'all are doing is no longer taboo. I don't think that you should be in a relationship with a married woman to begin with, and I think that you should end that relationship before anyone else gets hurts. Good luck.
2006-12-08 03:57:05 · answer #3 · answered by BeezKneez 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
The same thing will happen to you, in a few years when she gets bored. If he doesnt know she shouldnt tell. She should just leave him . No reason to cause the guy more pain in admitting she has been having an affair. Relationships that begin in betrayel never work.. Have you never heard the old phrase "what comes around goes around?" Did you ever stop to think maybe she wont ever leave him?...
2006-12-08 03:41:02 · answer #4 · answered by luckygirl 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I have been there. I was married too. It all seems so good (mistress) but I have found what I had was misery loves company. I was miserable in my marraige and had a girlfriend who was married. Thank goodness I left the mistress. If she is having an affair with me, why would she not have an affair against me? This matter is not good. Nothing good can come from it. Have her resolve or dissolve her marraige first. I will say that trust is essential in any relationship...so would you "really" trust your mistress when things get rocky for the two of you? One last point. Have you ever heard of love-triangle murder/suicide? Self explanatory
2006-12-08 04:37:01 · answer #5 · answered by Rudy 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I know it sounds bad but EVERYONE who is married and having an affair tells the person they are having the affair with that they are going to get a divorce. They usually dont. How do you know that her husband really knows? If you want to be a real man dump this cheating hussy and find a SINGLE woman that will devote herself only to you, believe me there are plenty of us out there!!
2006-12-08 03:41:33 · answer #6 · answered by chickadee2624 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
UM, YeS! firstly, sweetie, you shouldn't have an affair with a married woman! She's taken!! and you don't know what she's telling her husband about you! She's probably just cheating on you both and playing you guys like fools. If she cheated on her Husband, what makes you think that she WONT cheat on you, too after she leaves her husband?? My opinion, leave her. Let her deal with her own problems with her husband, if not, she'll just create you more problems!
Good luck & God Bless!
2006-12-08 03:40:29 · answer #7 · answered by m. z. 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You may be setting yourself up for a disastrous fall; Wherever you go there you are and the grass only looks greener. This conotates a need for a better understanding of yourself and the attraction of an illicit affair. Her definition and yours of a meaningful and committed relationship probably are not the same. Know what the weather is like before you go outside.
2006-12-08 03:57:05 · answer #8 · answered by Humpti 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I dont know if you will appreciate my advice or not but here goes.
Walk away from this situation now. Nothing good ever comes from having affairs with married people, and besides how can you ever trust her, she cheated on her husband, why wouldnt she cheat on you?
2006-12-08 03:45:40 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think that this is the type of crud that people get killed over. I can understand her seeking out comfort from you to help decide whether she really wanted to be with him or not, but when she decided that she did want to be romantic with you, she should have left her husband....and even at that, still at least tried to be discreet about her new relationship to prevent hurt/enraged feelings. Some people just can't handle having their strings yanked like that which is why there are so many so-called "crimes of passion".
2006-12-08 03:42:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
While sex is the strongest emotion in life, EVERYONE likes to feel important!! I would seriously check to see if your married lady mistress has false teeth. My dog when any mates call in for a frothy seems to quickly forget the hand that feeds her and is happy to play with anyone at anytime who makes her feel IMPORTANT. I beleive you can learn so much from man's best friend, you know the loyalty thing etc, and It seems your married lady mistress may have similar traits to my dog. However, I have never known of a dog with false teeth, so in this case you may well be on a WINNER . !!
2006-12-08 06:35:16 · answer #11 · answered by deedubya 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋