I AM PREGNANT, AND IT SEEMS LIKE HE DOESN'T CARE. I TOLD HIM TO PLEASE QUIT DOING IT IF HE REALLY LOVES HIS FAMILY BUT HE REFUSES TO DO IT. HE SAID THAT HE NNED TO DO IT, SO HE DOESN'T FEEL STRESS. I AM SO SCARED FOR MYSELF AND MY KIDS. I DON'T REALLY KNOW WHAT TO DO? ANY ADVISES?
2006-12-08 03:35:47 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
If it took 8 years to find out , doesn't sound like its affecting his ability to be a good husband. You've made your point, he's made his. Let it go
2006-12-08 03:46:16 · answer #1 · answered by Foss 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its just pot, it is no real danger to you or your family unless he is selling. Honestly, depending on the state laws you can even have a certain amount and only get a fine if your caught. So long as he is not dealing. If he has been smoking for 8 years and you havent noticed, you have bigger more pressing issues than a little wacky weed.
Like, how could he hide something from you for 8 years?
Why didnt you notice earlier?
What does that say about your communication as a couple? What does that say about trust as a couple? He didnt trust you to share that important part of his life because he knew what your response would be. Now you cant trust him because he lied by omision to you.
So no communication, no trust.......sounds like those are the issues you need to address. And quickly, before you end up single.
Try mairrage counseling, a safe place for the two of you to work this out. Good luck.
And for goodness sake, go to the NORML website and research marijauna before you talk to him about it again. Dont rely on reefer madness propaganda.
2006-12-08 12:02:29 · answer #2 · answered by absintheveil 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go to an ALONON MEETING (family and friends of substance abusers), in your area! There is no really simple answer to your question, because of the many many questions I would ask if you were to visit me as a substance abuse counselor!! My first thought would be your and your children's safety, although pot users are not usually violent it is against the law and this is a major consideration when minors are involved, for the simple fact that if the law were to bust him when the minors were present you would loose custody of your children even if you were not using the pot yourself (this is true in every state in the U. S.)!!! This being the case, you need to take a firm stance on your spouces pot use!!! Again I recommend you visit your local ALONON for more personal info and help!!! Good luck kiddo
2006-12-08 11:54:38 · answer #3 · answered by xxx69forall 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
8 year and you didn't know ... sounds like he doesn't have a problem to me ... I've been around it my whole life ... I have great grandpas that sit down with me & my cousins and smoke a joint every now & then ... I also have family members that have their medical cards ... it's legal here in SoCal with that ... as long as he's not selling or trafficking I think you'll be just fine ... if it's controlling his behavior, messing with his ability to work or affecting his parenting then there's a problem ... other than that ... let him get rid of some stress for goodness sake he's living with a pregnant woman ... lol ... I know he's stressed ... !
2006-12-08 12:23:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get your kids (if you have any) and get out ASAP. If you can go to a relatives house or go to a women's shelter. His behavior shows that he has been hiding things from you. What else is he hiding? If you can't trust someone then you shouldn't be with them. Good luck!
2006-12-08 11:44:06 · answer #5 · answered by chickadee2624 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Call the police.
2006-12-08 11:41:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋