he keept looking for me here and there after the break up,I admit the fact that it was me the one who messed up and I asked for forgiveness from the deepest of my heart.Well he kept looking for me and just when I would think every thing was starting to work out again between us...he would surprise me with a low down degrading abusive break up followed by a violent asult against me and almost convincing me of having to accept him beating on me ,according to him it is only fair since Ive put him through hell in the beggining of our relation ship.I love him so much and I miss him dearly, but some how I started to get out of my depression and continued step by step to get on with my life.....and when I least expected it ...........there he comes again...calling me looking for me askiing for me....Why ????
2006-12-08 03:29:45 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The worst part of abuse is not necessarily the battering. It's what this man has done to your self esteem! He's got you all conditioned to blame yourself and apologize for breathing. He doesn't "love" you. Someone who loves you wouldn't treat you this way. He is incapable of loving anyone. He is a narcissistic abuser who is only interested in controlling others. You need to see an counselor who is EXPERIENCED in dealing with domestic violence and the emotional damage of domestic violence and work on a safety plan to get safely away.
2006-12-08 04:21:40 · answer #1 · answered by silverside 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i imagine you need to do what makes you sense mushy. anybody's personality is different and some human beings does no longer dare confront the female with the question of why or if she took the images. in my view, i'd call her. perchance only commence the communication by thanking her for returning the handbag and how grateful you're for the very truth of the money nonetheless being there. Then bypass on about how there are only some worry-free human beings left in this international yadda yadda..then nonchalantly aspect out the images and make it sound like perchance someone stumbled on the handbag earlier she did and say the way you imagine it really is extraordinary someone may opt to take the images and by no skill the money ...her reaction may grant you with some perception as to what befell. if you're no longer satisfied with the outcomes to press extra may be your decision.
2016-11-24 23:05:00 · answer #2 · answered by loffelbein 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not, your letting him come in and of your life the whole time while he does nothing but abuses you. It seems to me he comes around when he wants somehting and thats about it once he gets what he needs he is so gone until he needs something else again, Good Luck
2006-12-08 03:43:02 · answer #3 · answered by Shanana 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you keep letting him. Why in the world would you keep taking him back ? How in the world can you love someone who does this to you ? You really should get yourself some counseling so you dont let men treat you this way.
2006-12-08 03:34:48 · answer #4 · answered by JustMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Way past time to forgive yourself for your mistake !!
Now its time to regain your dignity and self-esteem!!
He has ZERO right to physically or emotionally abuse you regardless of your prior affair.
Get away from him- Stay away from him,, he’s toxic and sadistic !! File a restraining order if needed but stay away from him.
Get some professional help (if needed,, n sounds like its imperative!) rebuild your self-esteem, self-confidence, self-assurance, and belief in Yourself.
Then move on with your life, everyone deserves happiness-fulfillment in their life. Regardless of a prior mistake!
2006-12-08 04:03:30 · answer #5 · answered by logicalanswer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
then why be with him and nothing should result in abuse . cut all ties now. dont take the calls dont take the emails or the letters or pop up visits. let it be and dont respond this relationship should be over for both of ur sake b4 someone ends up dead or in jail
2006-12-08 03:34:32 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cause he knows you haven't gotten him out of your system yet and are leaving the door open for him to come back. You do know that you can do better than him?
2006-12-08 03:40:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is obsessed with you. Get rid of him for good, restraining order if you have to. Sounds like you were getting along better when he was not around.
2006-12-08 03:34:05 · answer #8 · answered by eharrah1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
BECAUSE HE KNOW YOU ARE WEAK AND THAT YOU WOULD JUST TAKE HIM BACK. YOU IS HIS EMOTIONAL OUTLET AND THAT IS WHY HE KEEP COMING BACK. HE KNOW HE COULD DO WHAT HE WANT TO DO TO YOU AND YOU ARE GOING TO JUST EXCEPT IT THEN HE COULD LEAVE AND COME BACK WHENEVER HE FELT LIKE IT BECAUSE YOU THINK YOU LOVE HIM. YOU GUYS BOTH NEEDS COUNSELING AND HE MIGHT NEED TO STOP GETTING HIGH.
2006-12-08 04:40:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He keeps looking for you because you are foolish enough to keep taking him back.
2006-12-08 03:57:33 · answer #10 · answered by Karen L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋