Help me! I am fat and ugly and I will never have a boy friend. What should I do?

Question

Out of all my friends I am def. the fattest and ugliest. I wear makeup, but I still look nasty. Why can't I just be pretty. If I only could look like my avatar...I cry when I look in the mirror. Guys make fun of me all the time and so do girls. I am really considering plastic surgery when I turn 18 next year.

Do any guys like ugly girls? My nick name is Ms. Beast ..thanks to the guys.. Help!

I know beauty isnt a fat blimp with pimples, that has a huge nose, small ugly eyes..their is no helping me//

Even if I accept myslef the way I am ..I will still be ugly so surgery be good for at least my big nose.

Answer 1

Don't worry about them.. in ten years you probably will not even remember their names... In high school i wore a size 10 not fat...but not skinny
13 years after high school size 12 and all the little cheer leaders are plus sized... Not every one is meant to be tiny and the average size in the US is 14. if you are confident in you body others will find you attractive. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder some cultures the women are even hairy... if you ever need a shoulder email me....

Answer 2

Plastic surgery won't do much when you are this insecure about yourself. While you may see a better reflection, it won't fix whatever is wrong on the inside that makes you so miserable. Plus, plastic surgery isn't forever when you are talking about your body.

Talk to your doctor, or other health professional, about starting the right diet and exercise routine for you. Liposuction will take away only so much excess weight, and if you don't know how to live healthy, the fat will be back in a few years.

Get a cosmetologist to help you find the right makeup for you. Looking "nasty" can be fixed with the proper colors and application techniques. You can't go by what friends use, or what looks good on your favorite celebrity. Ask her, or another one, about a good hairstyle too. What cut will suit your face shape, and maybe even a color boost.

Then find a personal stylist in your area who can help you find the right clothing for your body type and coloring. No matter what size you are, there are different fabrics and styles that will flatter your figure. And wearing the right colors can slim your figure, and give your skin a beautiful glow.

Or get a beauty analysis done on line, but I wouldn't reccomend it. As unhappy as you are, you would be better off with help in person.

I would also reccomend that you consider seeing a therapist. Self esteem and confidence have to come from within. No amount of changes to your looks will make you fall in love with yourself. If you change one thing, but not your insecurities, then you will always be able to find something else wrong with your appearence.

Your money will be better spent learning how to look your best, and feel your best for the rest of your life than paying for a temporary alteration.

Answer 3

Why do you put yourself down? If you keep saying your fat and ugly then that's all your gonna see in the mirror. Try being positive for a change. If you could be positive about yourself and love yourself then what you see in the mirror will change! Who's to judge what's ugly and what's not? When people make fun of you it's because they too feel ugly and insecure. By making fun of someone else it gives them a sense of satisfaction and power. Don't let these people do this to you and when they do just remember that they are not happy with themselves either. You could lose the weight, put on all the makeup in the world and get all the plastic surgery there is, but if you don't love yourself then that same "ugly fat person" will still be in the mirror. Work on your inner-self first then everything else will come into place like boys, your friends and respect from strangers. You'll want to lose weight, you'll want to be positive and you'll show self confidence when you walk through those doors. Don't give up on yourself. Give yourself a chance.

Answer 4

Honey, you need to love yourself,and not listen to what mean people say. If you really are overweight you can lose weight by eating better and exercising. You need to eat lots of fruits and veggies and limit the amount of junk food and sweets you eat. Also walking at least 30-45 minutes a day will help. As for acne there are many cremes you can try. If none of them work go to your doctor and they can prescribe something stronger. The main thing you need to do is boost your confidence and love yourself. Please don't think plastic surgery is the answer,you should be happy with the way your parents made you. Maybe you need to find new friends. Kids can be so cruel, I know, but if they were really your friends they would not make fun of you for your looks. True friends love you for who you are on the inside, and they should be lifting you up, not bringing you down. Next focus on the things about yourself that you like, make a list, for example I love my eyes, teeth... whatever. When you focus on the positive instead of the negative you will start feeling a lot better about yourself. It will get better I promise. Good luck!

Answer 5

I'm so sorry that you had to go through that...but remember (and i know this sounds really cliche but its true) beauty is in the eye of the beholder. The society has a very messed up view of how "pretty" is. Like in the 1800s, pleasantly plump and super-pale was "hot". It all depends on the era you are in. Just focus on the inside, believe it or not, you look sooo much prettier if you have confidence in yourself and try to be yourself. Be nice to everyone (even if they are not nice to you) and pray to Jesus that he will help you see yourself as he see's you (which is gorgeous.) I know some people who arent considered "attractive" in todays society but arent afraid to be themselves and that makes them pretty. I wouldn't go for plastic surgery if I were you. You were created to have your OWN beauty. If we all looked the same, life would be a pretty crappy place. Believe in yourself. Email me if you have any questions.

Answer 6

The only reason you're fat and ugly is because you think you are!!! Why don't you try being the way you are in the most likeable way ever? All you need is a positive state of mind and people will accept you as a proper person. Tell me, is Oprah so darn slim or gorgeous? I think not but millions of people love her! If you have little on looks try to go big on personality.

Answer 7

I will tell you from personal experience that the way you feel now will change in your 20's. In high school I never had a boyfriend. All of my friends were beautiful, skinny and petite, meanwhile I was tall, chubby and had really curly hair. I never felt comfortable in high school, and was glad when it ended. When I hit my 20's, everything changed. I started working out, and I learned that what I thought were my worst features, everyone else thought were my best features....just hang in there, you are only 17. Once you are done with all of the idiots that go to your school, you will see that not all men are so shallow. Good luck to you darlin.

Answer 8

u just need to change ur mentality so that u can see the Positive things instead of the Negatives.


the more u work on urself, the better u will feel. *trust me*.

so having said that, work on:

1) your appearance: work out. exercise. take care of ur body. take care of ur skin. get new haircut. try on new clothes. buy Flattering, stylish clothes, make u feel good and look good.

2) your mind: study. read more. learn more about current events. find a hobby, and excel at it. the more u KNOW, the easier it will be for you to develop your own ways of thinking, as well as be able to TALK w/ others about it.

3) your relationships: as u build ur confidence in urself, and keep in mind to be Open Minded, Non Judgemental to others..... u will be able to speak out more, talk to ur friends, family members, practice talking about anything and everything u are learning, or find out what they are interested in. the more u practice, the easier it will be for u to do that with Strangers, or friends of friends, and not feel as shy...because remember, 1 & 2, u are already working on ur appearance and your brain, so u don't have as much to be "scared" about.

:) good luck...the more Positive attitude u have (remember, u can Always change something if u make a mistake, u can learn from it, u can always grow, and do something different tomorrow), the more opportunity u will have in ur life. confidence will lead to easier job interviews, class discussions, making friends, getting to know teachers, etc etc.... huge impact on ur life. but getting over ur shyness is the first step, and working on ur confidence will help u become less shy.

Answer 9

not all guys only care about how you look. if you really think that the plastic surgery will help you feel better and look better then do what you htink is the best for you. you really should not be judging yourself all of then time and if your friends are being mean and making fun of you then maybe they arent your real friends. Good Luck!!!

Answer 10

confidence is ttly wot makes a person hunni, if you walk in2 room and strut ur stuff no matter wat u luk lyk, youll look a millon tyms better al ready!! mayb try going on a diet if u feel ur overweight and also increase ur excercise! and try get someone professional to show you how to apply your make-up better im sure someone at a make-up stand wud b more dan happy to help! and den treat yourself to a new hairstyle! dont put yourself down sweetie or others wil too, people can always sense wen people have low self estem! im sure u are really pretty u jus need 2 accept urself as u are!! and remember never frown cos u dont know whos falling in luv wit ur smile :)