Hiya, Pls help me?

Question

Heya, I am being mad really, i don know wat to do ? Pls help and guide me to come out from this pain. I am 26 years male staying London, UK. I belong to India but now staying here, There is a solidpain what i feel still with me is about my ex gf. I had a girl fried, she is a worst mexican, who used me a lot and then a sad breakup which broken me completely. I am simple and genuine and i was serious about relation but it was a game for her. She had 2-3 affairs after this break up. I am still single and lonely. I dont know i feel so much pain though ,so hate too. so much tears, feel jealousy, very sad and lonely some time though. Please guide me that i can forget her and forget all the feelings which is connected about her I really feel very very sick passing through this situations.I left my country because i wanted to stay far from her. I just want to come out from this or will die coz i am very sensitive and emotional that i can;t see her with someone else.Pls help me D :

Answer 1

That's very sad, and horrible what you went through, But someday you'll find that it has made you stronger. I understand what it's like to be heartbroken it's not the best feeling in the world, and I know that you're probaly depressed and you want to get over her but you keep wanting to hold on. Somehow you're going to have to find a solace place within your heart and know that you are stronger and know that just because one gurl came in your life and broke your heart doesn't mean all of them are going to be that way. What she did she can not change, but you can change the way you feel about her. You have to learn to forgive & forget and move on with your life. If you keep holding on you'll never become stronger, you'll always remain intact to her and you'll always remember the pain that she left you with. I really hope my advice helps you somehow and I hope that it opens new doors for you so that you become a stronger person than what you are.

Answer 2

Hello Star,
I have to be brutaly honest with you my friend, i am going through a similar thing and have done in the past. There is no easy fix to this sort of pain and hurt. On one hand i'm sure there is a part of you that still cares and loves her, on the other hand there will be a confused, hurt lonely side to you. This is obviously going to cause a lot of conflict emotionally. All i can say is you have to take each day as it comes, you will have distractions some days where you won't think of her and everything wil be ok, then moments where you are doing nothing and it will all come flooding back - this is when it has killed me in the past. You may not be able to but sometimes crying helps, i'm a guy and have to confess that i do cry at times (trust me i'm no sad geek either). I have found crying can sometimes help release that built up emotion leaving you feeling clearer headed which will alow you to be a little more rational about it. I mean it was her that has let you down, you sound like a decent guy who has a large heart and wants to share it with someone - well do it with someone who can see this and won't take advantage of it (you are not a doormat, you deserve to be treated with love and respect like we all should)
I know you said you have come over from india, i really hope that you have managed to make some decent friends to surround yourself with, it has helped me alot. Again i guess it is all about distracting yourself for a while until you aren't thinking about her all the time. Then as they say time is a healer which is true. I have an ex i was with for 5 years (i'm only just 27) when we broke up my world fell apart. I have slowly re-built my life and not to be nasty about her as i truly did love her but i spoke to her recently and it really hit me that i'm glad we are no longer together. I have developed into a different person and remembered how much i can survive on my own.
If you are ever feeling low enough to do some silly then e-mail me [e-mail] and we can talk. Just be strong and remember 'to get to where we want to go, sometimes we have to take a dark journey' be strong.

Answer 3

Why be hung up on someone that obviously didnt care about you..
Maybe it's not about her and that you miss her, maybe you miss being 'loved'
I have a friend in a similar situation, he too moved away to get away from the woman (which i think is stupid - moving a whole different country to be away from them..) anyway, she was using him for sex and he let her 'cause he was obsessed by her. I've not spoken to him since he moved so i dont know how things are but i bet he hasnt gotten over her still..really needs to

Theres more to life than clinging on to your past. Move forward but dont go looking for a replacement just enjoy your life and the right person will come along at the right time.

Answer 4

Trust me, there is a light at the end of your pain. It's normal to feel the way you are and sometimes you feel like it will never get better but it does. It makes you a stronger person in the end. Have you ever heard the song by Garth Brooks called "Unanswered Prayers"? I never could understand why God never answered my prayers when I was with my ex but then one day he showed me why. I met my husband of 16 years now and I couldn't be happier. I had lunch with my ex the other day after not seeing him for 16 years and I must say I thanked God for my unanswered prayers. It will get better, but you must get out there and live once again. Life is too short to waste it away. I feel sorry for the guy she's seeing now and you should too. Now go on, get out there and live!!!

Answer 5

When my ex broke up with me i was heart broken for a while, i nearly broke down when i saw him in the street and i had a horrible pain inside me all the time. after a while it got easier and easier to the point where we are now friends. even though it may feel like hell at the moment most people have been through the same thing, it will get better. if someone makes you cry they arnt worth your tears, and someone who is worth your tears will never make you cry.
good luck and stay strong

Answer 6

You got to toughen up. This is life. You sound so depressed I think you need to see a doctor - get some help. THe doctor my give you tablets or refer you to see a counsellor. You will get over this women in time - learn to trust again and find new love. So, get help with your loneliness and remember that the way you feel now is not how you will feel in the future - one day you will have a lovely wife and children who will appreciate you and adore you.

Answer 7

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Answer 8

take this prayer with ask the creator to give you the strength to accept the things you cant change, and give you the power to over come anything life throws at you, but you must be warned
when you pray for things you just might get them, you mean what you say and say what you mean, trust in him only not in man, then you,ll see what i mean, try this i know it will work .

Answer 9

Stop being a loser. You are wasting your life with those miserable thoughts. Find a new honest girlfriend. Look forward not back.

Answer 10

if you think you can kill yourself over a breakup, either you don't really apreciate life or you are just plain crazy... Look at the other things around you, the sun, the moon, friends perhaps? a person who has hurt you doesn't deserve your sufering...