Help me, I gt so much pain?

Question

Heya,
I am being mad really, i don know wat to do ? Pls help and guide me to come out from this pain.
I am 26 years male staying London, UK. I belong to India but now staying here, There is a solidpain what i feel still with me is about my ex gf. I had a girl fried, she is a worst mexican, who used me a lot and then a sad breakup which broken me completely. I am simple and genuine and i was serious about relation but it was a game for her. She had 2-3 affairs after this break up. I am still single and lonely. I dont know i feel so much pain though ,so hate too. so much tears, feel jealousy, very sad and lonely some time though. Please guide me that i can forget her and forget all the feelings which is connected about her I really feel very very sick passing through this situations.I left my country because i wanted to stay far from her. I just want to come out from this or will die coz i am very sensitive and emotional that i can;t see her with someone else.Pls help me D :

Answer 1

Good. thats cheered me right up :-)

Answer 2

Dear friend in pain,
Looks like your girlfriend was not somebody you could have trusted and lived happily with for years, maybe having kids.. I know, it is very painful and it might take a while to accept she's no longer there. They call it love when you just want to be with somebody no matter if the person is good or bad or even cares about you.
Try to find new things to look at, visit old friends if you can, just take yourself to think about something else than her. Maybe you can try meditation or sports.. you might find new friends. You are young and have a lot to see and experience, don't let her be between you and your possibilities and happiness. Good luck, you'll be ok. Pain will go away.

Answer 3

The only advice I can give you is to try and meet new people make friends and go out try not to think about her, Really I have never been through that but all mexican girls arn't like that I am mexican and live in california I'm real sorry for what she did to you, you sound like a real nice guy!!!

Answer 4

I say actual soreness is worse, i will cope with the different stuff, emotional & psychological soreness are the two 2d. because of the fact as quickly as I pay attention psychological soreness i think of of retardation, and that i don't choose that(not something against retarded ppl.) and on the different hand emotional soreness sucks yet does not final continuously so... (>=worse) actual>psychological>emotional BQ: in demand pains?? BQ: sure, that is loopy.

Answer 5

I'm very sorry you have been used and hurt. Please know that many people have had the same thing happen to them. First off you can not forget and whip this memory away as you had asked You have been through to much with her and of course you will have memories. the point is how you manage them and how you let them take control over you.

We all get hurt in life doesn't make it any easier nor is it fair. But what you have to remember is that time heals all hearts and although right now your hurting. You will come out of this.

No one likes to be used or taken advantage of and of course this angers you, and understandable. but you should take this anger and put it to something useful for yourself. getting mad at her and pinning and missing her will do nothing for your well being. Keep in mind all the terrible things she did to you as you said up above. write them down on a piece of paper if that helps to remind you of how bad she was. and the next time you get lonely and miss her you reflect back on that piece of paper and you will realize your not missing her for herself but your feeling lonely in a strange country and thats why your missing her.

Also rememberwhat your relgion teaches you . God will look after her in his own way. You move on and continue on with your life. I know its easier to get revenge and continue to feel hatrid but this will only sour your heart and make you a bitter person. YOu don't think this woman back home will be sitting at home feeling bad for what she has done . So you must not sit in uk london feeling this way for her. You are the better person here. You loved someone for real and with all honesty yes you got hurt but you will love again and find a better woman. At least now you know the signs to watch for when you meet another woman I hope.

and although she had 2-3 affairs while dating its better you should come to realize this woman way of living before marriage and introduction to your family and children you would be more humiliated later and not always easy to get a divorce in your culture. So in a way she sacving you from pain down the road. you have to look at this in another way. yes its bad what she did but it has saved you a life time of pain. So what is better here a few years of pain or a lifetime of misery. I think you did well to get out now while you could even if she was the one that ended it. You are now free to find a good woman and give her your honest love who would appreciate it from a woman like her who used it and stomped on your heart.

Remember this is a learning expereince for you although painful you will come out of the fog in time and the sky's will once again be blue for you , and you will have learned a very important life lesson on people.

So please don't feel discourage and saddened God did you a favour earlier on in life rather than having a lifetime with this woman.

Be strong and look at it as a growing expereince in your life.

Next time you will be wiser to choose and do better.

Good luck

Answer 6

So sorry to hear that bro. You have to snap out of it mah friend. Im in a similar situation where my wife now is actually interested with my friends, her boss, her ex & her ex's friend. Before we got married I thought she was really in to me that's why I flew half way the country just to be with her. Now that Im here I felt the manipulation and the lies and now I myself is thinking of moving on. What I could advise you is get yourself busy. Just do everything that you can to get her out of your mind. With me, I just watch endless TV, drink beer to get me drunk and just fall asleep or go see or talk to family and friends. I have to say it is really hard mah friend but the change starts with you. I hope I helped. Keep your head up mah friend and remember that suicide is not an option you're just saying that your crazy and a wimp. Proove them wrong. Good luck.

Answer 7

dont worry. that is normal after a hard breakup. you need to realize that this is her fault and she should be the one feeling guilty for doing the horrible thing that she did, not you. move on, and start over wit someone new. don't feel horrible! it's not ur fault that she is a girl who feels she can use you like a tool, it's her own. just move on from it, and maybe you'll find the perfect match for u! just trying to help!

Answer 8

Right now, you aregoing through a grieving process. It might take longer for you than it would for another guy. You don't realize how fortunate you really are. You will.....as time passes. You deserve someone better than her, and you will find that person some day.

Answer 9

Hey, hey! It is whole new life infront of you just start thinking of work and treat yourself with the things you like most! It is not the end of the world and there so many girls left in this world and sure at least one of them is trying to find YOU!

Answer 10

sumtimes things dont work out the way we want them 2 be coz they are not meant to be, u never deserved dat lady coz she is dumb ans stupid she cud not understand ur true luv and she is so unlucky she missed true feelings, luv and happiness, dont waste time on dis gul u deserve far moe better guls who can understand u and and ur luv , who can give u luv and care in return. get out of dis emotional hell its difficult but once u find ur heaven ull forget all da pain. for now indulge in sum other work and start finding ur TRUE heaven!

Answer 11

Only you can change the way you feel,you have to move on as this situation is making you unhappy,get out and meet new people.