my friend just found out the that she was 2 1/2 monthes pergent and her family and boy friend are making her get in abortion and if she dont then her grandma will kick her out of the house is that right??? and she says shes not ready for the baby so she might have an abortion....
2006-12-08 03:20:23 · 30 answers · asked by ashley d 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
well her bf parents said if they keep the baaby then they have to get married and shes onlly 16 and i think hes 17 but iam not for sure and i told her if she did it would be killing someone and i mention that she could live with me or she could have the baby and put it for adoption cuz so many people would love to have a baby that cant have them like ya'll said
2006-12-08 03:32:21 · update #1
It's not right at all for them to force her to have an abortion. If she isn't ready for a baby then perhaps she should give the baby up for adoption instead, it's a much better option.
2006-12-08 03:23:27 · answer #1 · answered by Just Me 2 · 6⤊ 0⤋
You are a very good friend, to write this question. It shows that you care about your friend and what happens to her and her baby. I counsel at a pregnancy clinic, and see many young girls like your friend, whose family says they will kick her out of their home if she does not have an abortion. That is wrong and very sad. However with help from a pregnancy help clinic she could find housing. My greatest concern is for her baby and for the girl. Abortion not only takes a life, but it can effect the one who had the abortion, with infections, pain, and also emotional trauma that can last for years, if not for the rest of her life. Life begins at conception, not when it is convenient for the mom. Adoption is always an option. If it was not for my birth moms decision to carry me to full term, I could have been an abortion statistic. Also I have 2 adopted children. Their birth moms went against their families to give life. Tell your friend, to think long and hard about abortion, it only causes other problems. God bless
2006-12-08 11:29:01 · answer #2 · answered by AdoreHim 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I believe that; people who think they are " responsible " enough to have sex knowing what " might " happen i think you shouold have to deal with the consequences. This is why people tell younger people not to have sex because they are not ready to deal with the consequences. I wish i would have listened to that advise a long time ago, because i was a young mom, I love my son to death and wouldnt change him for anything in the world, i dont regret a thing. What i do regret is thinking i knew what i was doing and not listening to anyone. but i was still happy when i got pregnant, because i was going to be a mother and there is no greater joy in the world than to love somebody as much as you love your child, there is no other love like it. Tell your friend to consider adoption, I know it would just be a lot easier to just get an abbortion and go on with your life, but life isnt always easy is it ? People have to make sacrafices in life, and that is just the way things go. So many people out there are dying to have children but cant, and if she dosent want that baby then. What is 9 months out of her life, to give HER baby the chance to live and have a life...and give the chance for someone else to feel the joy of being a parent
2006-12-08 11:55:14 · answer #3 · answered by TwoplusTwins 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I think she should not have a abortion it is she is pretty much going to be killing her baby! There is always the option of giving the child up for adoption! There will always be a welling family out there to take care of the baby and give it a good and stable family life. There are so many couples that can not have a child of there own that there only choice is to adopt! Maybe she should really consider adoption before abortion!
2006-12-08 11:27:05 · answer #4 · answered by ~*Sweet Pea*~ 5 · 4⤊ 1⤋
adoption is a better way! but hey its not right to kick her out but there are places that will take her and the baby in and teach her the things she needs to know and really help her! there are tons of women that cant have babys of there own that would do anything for her child! tell her to be strong it will work out and make sure if she gets a abortion that she knows the risks as there is a chance she might not have any kids in the future!
2006-12-08 11:24:39 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Adoption is always an option. She should have the baby and give it up for adoption. There are lots of couples that want a child and cannot have their own. She could find a good couple that would cover the cost of having the baby and then have them adopt the baby.
2006-12-08 11:29:21 · answer #6 · answered by ICARRYABIGSTICK 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Isn't it ironic how feminists say that abortion is the "right of a woman to choose" but simply the fact that it is legal is an excuse for others to threaten to abandon a woman in order to coerce her into killing her child. How is that standing up for women? How is that empowering to women? Why should she be forced to do something that she is morally against just to make ANYONE else happy? What her "parents" and "boyfriend" are doing should be illegal, along with abortion.
It seems to me that abortion has had the exact opposite effect that feminists intended, yet they continue to stand behind it. Go figure.
2006-12-10 17:13:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Many young women decide to have an abortion because they believe it will be a quick resolution to a difficult situation. In a survey taken of women who have had abortions, 63% of them felt “forced” by other people into the abortion, and 74% of the women surveyed said they would not have the abortion again.
What types of abortion procedures are there? There are two methods of abortion:
Surgical abortion is the most common type of procedure. This is an invasive medical procedure that is done in a hospital or abortion facility. There are different methods of abortion that are performed throughout all 9 months of pregnancy. It is important that you know the exact method involved in the abortion and the possible risks and complications that can occur.
Chemical abortion, also known as RU-486, is a combination of pharmaceutical drugs that can be taken orally or by injection to cause an abortion. The process requires multiple doctor visits and induces severe cramping and bleeding which women experience on average 7-30 days. There is the possibility of adverse side effects and/or other complications.
Are there complications? There are risks involved, and it is important that you understand how the complications and side effects can impact you. There are many possible physical complications which may include: infection, damage to the uterus, infertility, increased risk of future miscarriages, premature births, and an increased risk of breast cancer.
Psychological complications are often experienced by women who choose abortion. After an abortion, both women and men can experience: depression, low self-esteem, crying episodes, nightmares, anxiety attacks and difficulty in personal relationships.
What are my rights as a woman? Know your rights and be persistent. Don’t let anyone pressure or coerce you into anything that is not in your best interest.
You have a right to:
Have a licensed physician perform your abortion.
Know if the physician has had his license suspended.
Confirm that the physician has medical malpractice insurance to protect and compensate you in case of injury or death.
Be transferred by ambulance to the closest hospital if you are injured during the abortion procedure.
Refuse to sign a waiver releasing the doctor, abortion clinic and staff from liability for abortion-related injuries
The Pregnancy Discrimination Act - is an amendment to Title VII of the Civil Rights Act of 1964. It guarantees a pregnant woman the following:
Protection against discrimination during the hiring process.
Protection against being fired because of being pregnant. If she is unable to perform her normal duties because of her pregnancy, she must be treated in the same manner as any other temporarily disabled employee.
Health insurance coverage for pregnancy and pregnancy related illness must be equal to coverage for other medical conditions. If there are limits on benefits or restrictions, such as exemption for pre-existing conditions, pregnancy related benefits can be limited or excluded in the same proportion as other medical conditions.
Disability benefits for pregnancy related conditions must be the same as benefits for other temporarily disabled employees. For more information about Pregnancy Discrimination check out the U.S. Equal Employment Opportunity Commission (EEOC). If you think you have been discriminated against contact a lawyer.
She can call this Adoption Network Law Center at 800-FOR-ADOPT.
and get the help that she needs to carry the baby full term and not have to deal with abortion, they can help her find a place to live if need be...hope all that helps take care and god bless :)
2006-12-08 11:36:53 · answer #8 · answered by ladytaximom 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
She is already a third of the way through her pregnancy. Essentially, she only has 6 months to go. Half a year, that's all.There are so many people out there who would love and adore her baby. They have been on waiting lists for years, just waiting for a baby like this. Has she considered giving it up for adoption? It would be a way more loving, kind and unselfish act.
2006-12-08 11:25:57 · answer #9 · answered by The Y!ABut 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
She needs to make her own choice here! Not her family and not the "boy"
Abortion can cause her to have trouble getting preggo down the road. Not in all cases but in some!
This child is her responsibility now. I would advise not to kill it but give it up for adoption. Lots of family's cant have kids and would love to have her baby!
2006-12-08 11:25:49 · answer #10 · answered by angelmwilson 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋