What can I do? Serious help needed!?

Question

Hi, I'm a 19 year old, female, whom isn't sexually active. I had a pap smear that came back abnormal, so my gyno done a colposcopy on me and took a biopsy of my cervix. Today, I got the results back stating that I'm close to having cancer, so they're going to freeze it out next month of the 15th. Ever since, I've been quite devistated and distraught. You can see that I've been upset in my appearance. I have bags under my eyes, my eyes are droopy, I look pale, and as weird as it may sound, my lips are even swelled from crying so much. Also, I can't keep anything down. I've gotten to the point to where my mother had to make me bathe and do proper hygiene 'cause I'm so depressed. Now, we're talking about a girl here whom use to bathe once to three times a day, depending on how dirty she felt (I have obsessive compulsive disorder flare ups at times). So, what can I do to bring me out of this stage of depression? Something besides going shopping, realization, and breathing exercises.

By the way, I have a very supportive boyfriend. What can he do as well?

Answer 1

Well I dont know how to help you out of your depression but just realize that they are going to remove the displasia and you will heal and be ok . You will however need regular PAPs for the next 5 years but its no big deal really Ive had it done twice. Tell them you want to be asleep for it. You wake up a little sore ...thats it. seriously. Your BF can help just by being with you. Being there for you but you have to snap out of this or others are going to get exasperated.

Youll be fine and btw they told me the exact same thing the first phone call was..."u have cancer" when I went in I actually found out it wasnt even close when I looked a t the test results. I think they say it that way to scare the crap outta u so u get the procedure done without delay.

Take it easy and dont worry so much youll be ok.

Answer 2

First of all, calm down and get a second opinion from a doctor before this doctor does anything.
Sometimes doctors will tell u anything, because all they want is money.
U may be okay and it may not be what the doctor said .
Doctors have misdianogsed lots of patients.
If u feel ok inside , then the doc is the one in the wrong.
Look, dont let a doctor get u down and depressed.
Stop crying, love yourself, and pray about this and whatever u do
,Get a second pap smear, even if its the same doc,
Pray hard and God may heal u up and all this may be just a bad dream.
Your boyfriend should just love u and make u smile.
Most pap smears are unneccesary and cause more harm than good.

Answer 3

I have the same thing although I had to go through 3 different colposcopy and biopsy's but they are doing the cryofreeze this month. You shouldn't be so upset, you are close but do not have cancer. Plus this freezy thing they do takes care of everything like 98% of the time. You need to get out and get your mind off of this have your boyfriend take you out on a date that you won't be able to think about your problem only him and the great time your having. My mom and step mom and mother-in-law all have had the cryofreeze done and they all are fine. And that was along time ago and doctors know more than they did now so don't worry so much. If they can still do the freezy thing then your still okay. good luck.

Answer 4

Okay. I too had a LEEP procedure. I had HPV and genital herpes as a result. I had 2 colposcopies sp? They said I had moderate displasia too. fast forward 13 years later. No re-occurances and 12 normal paps.Once they remove the pre cancer areas you can and will be fine. I am certain of it as you caught it in time. Just get a pap every 3 months now, for the first year. I am a mom now and things are good after 4 failed invitro fertilization attemps. Talk about depressed when they did not work. SEEK HELP! They good meds if you are truley diagnosed with depression. Also lean on your support group. Boyfriend, friends, family. You'll be okay. Thanks for reaching out to us, sweetie.

Answer 5

First your reaction is normal given you have just been told you might have cancer. So don't beat yourself on that right now.

It is a more productive idea as you suggested to fight this more positively. I mean there is nothing good about cancer but most doctors and nurses will tell you that a persons reaction to their specific disease affects the outcome of the disease. I am not saying being happy will cure you or anyone else but our bodies do react physically, releasing hormones, increasing heart rate and depth of our breathing according to our moods.

I hope someone has exposed to Kubler Ross's five stages of grief.

Anger
Denial
Barganing
Depression
Acceptance

As you can see depression, the stage I think you are at is one of the normal stages of depression. But again it is not the most productive one and if goes out of control can be destructive.

I love reading the Bible it give me insight. I am aware people may not care to but personally it gives me peace and understanding and joy in times of my trials.

I can also suggest reading books written by persons going through the same condition. Their are alot of cancer help groups also that can help you cope with this trying news.

Another thing that helps me is to help others especially in similar circumstances. You can volunteer in a childrens cancer ward. I know it may seem sad but kids are so risilient. You can help them smile through their similar situation.

But I pray you get this stronger. I pray God heals you and I pray your search for Him whole heartidly and you learn what I have learned is life with God makes sense.

Jeremiah 29:10 If you search for me with all your heart you'll find me.

God bless.

Answer 6

When one door is closed, another door is opened, look forward to the adventure in your life. I'm very proud of you being 19 and keeping her morals. That means your a strong person and can do whatever has to be done. This is not going to be the end of your world, concentrate on your education, go to college if your not already there. FIND THE POWER, not the pity.

Answer 7

What are you depressed about? You are very lucky that they caught your precancer in time to take care of it. You should go play the lottery or something as lucky as you are...lol Cheer up and have a wonderful life with you nice boyfriend. Make the most of the 70 or so years you have left on this great planet. God Bless

Answer 8

you rather have to have a situation to visit like a lodge or rental, in case you cannot have enough money this stick with a loved ones member then in case you pass to a lodge you're going to ought to get a task to pay for it and pay for meals and the whole lot else. So nearly stick with a loved ones member and also you dont ought to get a task If you wish to live to tell the tale your possess you will have to paintings at a grocery retailer that means you'll thieve meals earlier than you pass residence well success within the harsh international

Answer 9

Honey - fear only makes things worse. You have given up on yourself - the not bathing, etc - because the word "cancer" is scary. Be glad that it was caught before it became a problem - get grateful, keep busy until the procedure is over and you'll be just fine.......good luck!

Answer 10

Just be thankful that they caught it early I have known a few women with the similar situations and it turned out fine