How do you get through a sad day in your life?

Question

An anniversary of a tragedy.

Answer 1

My therapy is surrounding myself with uplifting songs. I had a terrible time in law school, and I kept playing "You've Got a Friend" by James Taylor. I also relied heavily on some of the lyrics in "I Got a Name" by Jim Croce, especially:

Like the north wind whistlin' down the sky,
I got a song, I got a song,
Like the whipporwill and the baby's cry,
I got a song, I got a song
And I carry it with me and I sing it loud
If it gets me nowhere, I go there proud

Like the fool I am and I'll always be
I got a dream, I got a dream
They can change their minds but they can't change me
I got a dream, I got a dream.

I hope this helps.

Answer 2

AS stupid as it sounds - try not to think about it. Do something special for yourself...get you hair done or buy a new outfit. If money is an issue - like it is for me. On those sad days I just relax...take a hot bath.....read some magazines....and eat a lot of junk food....surround yourself with friends today....they will try to help you stay positive. If all else fails...cry...its okay to cry...I don't know what kind of tragedy it is so its hard to slim the options down...anniversary of a death - go ahead and cry...we have all lost loved ones and you are not alone....take faith and support in that. Good luck and I know you can get through it

Answer 3

even sad days have happy parts..... an aniversary of tragedy has the remberance of joy and the celebration of the times you had before that happened.. think of the good times you spent together all the special moments ..put on some music and look through pictures and yes you may cry your heart out but it is a part of healing to look back and remember the good times

Answer 4

First, ask yourself -- what has help you get through tough time in the past? If you can think of something that has helped before (that is healthy) then do it.

I believe the best way to get through a difficult time is to find a way to give to people who are less fortunate than you. There is something powerful and healing about serving others in need.

You are making a great start but reaching out to people (even though we are strangers) and asking for suggestions. As much as I want to isolate when I am in pain it is most healing to be with others.

I will keep you in my prayers.

Answer 5

Maybe I'm a cold-hearted wench (wouldn't be the first time I've been called that) but I choose not to dwell on the past. When "sad" anniversaries come up, I usually don't even notice. I prefer to think about things when they hit me, rather than when I'm forced to think about them. I don't think it is healthy to "mark" certain events (deaths, divorces, fights, etc) becuase you're never able to move on if you're still obsessing over what once was.

Answer 6

I know sad times happen and good times are around the corner.I lost both parents a year apart and naturally grieved,but after the grieving process,I knew it was time to get out of the sadness state I was in .I prayed for help and slowly got what I needed.Love and support helped of course.I guess I think about the happy times and seek out people to unload on,people that are concerned and want to help.I would like to think I will see loved ones again some day and I tell them I love them for I feel they hear me

Answer 7

Spend some quiet time thinking about the person(s) you miss.

Then schedule a busy day with family or friends who know about the tragedy. You can try to distract yourself, but you'll have a hug available if you need it.

Answer 8

LOLOL I am reminded (as I often am) of something my dad said to me one time. I was about 18, and I was supposed to go and join a party of people at a certain place for what was going to be a marvellous day touring some famous State Homes of ancient British Nobility. I had been looking forward to it for weeks and was very excited. I had to catch the "red-eye" train to London at five in the morning, so I needed to get up a 3am. to get my stuff together and get a cab to the station. I told my parents not to bother waking me up because I would set my alarm, and they would not be disturbed.
For some reason I messed up, set the alarm wrong, it did not go off at the time it was suppoed to, and I overslept. I missed my train, and there was no way I could get there in time to meet the group. I said to my parents "Ohh, this has to be the worst day of my life. My dad laughed and said. "Yeah, well, the good news is that it's still only 24 hours long." Then as an afterthought, he added "And, by the way, if this does turn out to be the worst day of your whole life ,lucky, lucky you" LOL>
From that time to this present moment, every time I hit a bump in my road, or am having just "one of those lousy days" when I can't seem to go right for going wrong" I think to myself " If this is the worst it ever gets, lucky, lucky me
Of course, I am most certainly not making light of some very sad moments that people often have in their lives. But I recall in a research study that was once done where they tried to evaluate the lives of people who lived to a very old age, and had ridden out the storm of some extremely difficult or sad times in their life. Interviewing their several hundred study subjects, they noted one recurring theme. Almost all these people had the same basic attitude to life. Their approach seemed to be...."Roll with it. NEVER waste time thinking of a particular bad event as being "unfair" because nobody promised you "fair" from the git-go- and think only it has to be let go of so that it can pass INTO the Past, where it belongs, leaving YOU free to go forward into your future.
I also try to focus on all the terrible things that NEVER happened to me. When I do that - as many of those terrible things as there are out there - I really do consider myself lucky.

Answer 9

well as my high school principle used to say, stay positive. i know that it can be really hard but that will make the effort all the more rewarding. just think happy thoughts - hehe...like peter pan. there are so many positive things around you every day. go out and experience all the good that life has to offer and you'll see that you had happiness inside you all along. this answer sounds a bit corny so i'll end here.

Answer 10

Decide on an amount of time to reflect, remember, and deal with what happened, however that may be for you personally..... 15 minutes, an hour.
After that amount of time, accept that this is just another day; and every day will get easier, every year will get easier. Don't feel guilty for trying to have a good day. Everyone that loves you would want you to be happy, regardless of what day it is.

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