It's not been my experience; but I see this double standard, please read.?

Question

It seems when a man isn't getting the attention he wants at home, society justifies his "wandering". When a woman isn't getting the attention she wants at home, society says she should "fix it or deal with it". How come men aren't held to that same standard?

Serious thoughtful answers please, jerk-faces will be reported.

It's not the statistics of which sex cheats more..it is half. Because a single woman cheating with a married man is cheating too.

Answer 1

I completely agree. But the same is when men sleep with a lot of women and when women sleep with a lot of men. Society thinks less of a woman in either case because of the older days when we were supposed to cater to a man. No one really acknowledges that times have changed and things are no longer the way they were. Whatever men did back then was swept under a rug and the woman was stoned or shunned. That mentality is still around today.

Answer 2

That isn't true. Cheating men are called pigs, worthless scum, womanizer, low life etc; It isn't accepted by society and it certainly isn't blamed all on a wife that isn't putting out at home.
Men are held to those standards, but alot of women stereo type men into the womanizer catagory. Fact is, if your not taking care of your significant other sexually; and you are not or not intending to resolve the problems, you really shouldn't complain if they go get it elsewhere. It doesn't make it right by no means. But after a couple of years going without; no telling what any of us would do. But to answer your question, me are held to the same standards as women; at least where I came from.

Answer 3

Men are held to the same standard.

Remember, men are not cheating with other men, they are cheating with other women.

From my perspective, if a man cheats, society blames the man. If a woman cheats, society STILL blames the man.

Personally, I think women get a pass in this topic as few look at cheating objectively, properly noting that both genders are cheating in even numbers.

(I define cheaters as anyone involved in a relationship where one of the partners is married, but neither of those people are married to one another. I.E. married man and single woman, both are cheaters, both the man and the woman.)

Answer 4

I agree with camysdad - I don't think most people cut men any more slack then women. They chalk it up to his "inability to control himself".
When a woman cheats they chalk it up to what a jerk/neglectful guy her husband is. They still blame her somewhat, but shift some onto him.
I blame the cheater always. The spouse may have given many reasons for divorce, but there is never one for adultery.
I have a nutso woman I work with (see previous question) who has had affairs (now divorced) and thinks that was OK cause her hubby was in the navy and left her alone for long periods and she needed attention. His fault. She carries on an affair with a guy here - the guy wants out - but she says if he ever stops "servicing" her she will tell his wife. I won't defend what he did but to force a continuing affair with blackmail is just evil.
I think I will tell her boyfriend......he is a nice guy and has no idea what a monster this woman is.
Sorry to digress. Cheaters all suck.

Answer 5

I do not agree with you on this one. I have seen many examples of the following:

Man not getting what he wants at home cheats. He is called a pig without any regard to her part in creating an opportunity for temptation.

Woman not getting the emotinal support he wants considers an affair or has one.

She is looked at as a victim to the cad of a husband that was really a jerk.

This is based on my observations only your experience will vary............

Answer 6

I actually think its reversed. Where its more apparent is if you look at how people respond to posters here who have issues in their marriage.

If a woman says her husband doesn't want sex with her, she's told he's cheating.

If a man says his wife doesn't want sex with him, he's told its because he doesn't help enough around the house and show his love for her.

It seems to me that with cheating its similar. Woman cheats - husband must have been an emotional abuser. Man cheats - he's a pig.

Answer 7

Men have never been held to the same standard when it comes to fidelity, sex, or relationships. It's simply a deep rooted part of our culture. Think about how long it's taken for us to progress in racial equality! I think that's starting to change a bit, but it's going to be a lot longer before we see true equality between the sexes. I am all for equal pay, equal status, voting rights (ha ha), etc. I can't wait for women to start taking me out on first dates and opening doors for me.

Answer 8

There is no double standard. Both of course are equally wrong. However, it seems to be more juicy when a guy does it.

Answer 9

you know I would like to know the anwser to that too, it's just like when a man screws alot of women he's praised for it but when a woman does it she's a ho