My boyfriend and I have been together for a 1 year. Iam 27 and he is 26. He says he wants to marry me but doesn't know when. We have had a few problems one of them being that my mother doesn't like him thinks I can do better and has told him this. Should I be worried that he hasn't made up his mind about when?
2006-12-08 02:58:35 · 24 answers · asked by honeyluv_2010 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I would just enjoy the relationship for now and let it continue to grow. I would not even mention marriage to your boyfriend and when he is ready let him come to you and propose. It will be so much more exciting, romantic and memorable. You don't want to be the girlfriend who hounded and hounded on your boyfriend until you get what you want. Maybe you are ready but I wouldn't be ready to marry someone unless they were ready as well. Enjoy your boyfriend and put this thought away or your relationship will turn into this battle to get married. What fun is that?
2006-12-08 03:07:49 · answer #1 · answered by Maizy * 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is not marrying your mother but you. You do need to give some consideration as to why your mother doesn't like him. Maybe he thinks she is validated and doesn't want to hurt you, but is in the relationship because it is what he wants for the time being. A year is not a long time to get to know a person, but it is enough time to start considering whether or not you are marriage material. I don't think you should toss him out just yet, hang on there for about six more months and see what happens. But do listen carefully to why your mother doesn't like him.
2006-12-08 03:04:59 · answer #2 · answered by stacey h 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow big item here i will make it simple
i have been married for 24 years and did it youg im 42 now
sounds like he is unsure or worried about the whole seen
never rush in to this 1st of all need to make sure that love is there
trust and respect 2nd is money can he take care of you long term does he have a college degree or any type of trade and your self ?
money is the most reason people dont make it is a must have
reguards to mom is normal or is it what does she see ?
remember parents are for ever we had the same problem
and are doing great
regusrda to should he know ?
well honesty comes in ask him
honesty,love,and respect will all ways bring a good life
JC
2006-12-08 03:20:27 · answer #3 · answered by johnchairez 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"He says he wants to marry me but doesn't know when".
.... Well, marriage is a huge commitment that should not be taken lightly. 1-year may seem like a long time to you, but the marriage *should* last forever.
You might want to ask him what things are holding him back on the date issue...... Maybe he has some goals that he wants to reach before you get married.
I recommend that you don't pressure him too much on marriage, If it's something he isn't ready for.
However, if *being married* is important to you while you are young, you may have to consider that this guy might not meet your expectation in the timeframe you want.
...... heck, but what do I know? I have my own set of problems. only take my post above as one person's opinion.
Good luck
2006-12-08 03:12:09 · answer #4 · answered by JustinHayes 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love him enough to marry him then do it. Your mother is not marrying him. She may be looking out for you, as she should. You didn't state what kind of problems you have had in the past.
If the problems aren't that major, then I think your mother will have to get over it. But, if there was any type of illegal activity, domestic violence, or cheating going on, then I think your mother is right---you can do better.
Good luck
2006-12-08 03:02:32 · answer #5 · answered by bux_martinfan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems a little shady, but you shouldn't push too hard. This isn't really something I can give advice on. Life just has to happen. The guy I'm "seeing" won't commit to me with titles. We live together, and act as a couple, but we don't call ourselves that. Maybe it isn't that he doesn't love you, or your mother, maybe there is something between you two that hasn't been solved. Good luck.
2006-12-08 03:01:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't understand why everyone is always in a hurry to be married. Isn't being in love with eachother enough anymore? After only a year you shouldn't be putting pressure on him to marry you. He will propose when he is ready and if you pressure him into doing it before his time, he may end up regretting it later. Just take your time and enjoy eachother's company. Life is not a race...the quicker you live...the quicker you die.
2006-12-08 03:03:06 · answer #7 · answered by jenny 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have the same problem except im 22 and he is 24. i think that you should not worry about marriage now, get to know each other better. if you marry early you might divorce early. if you wait and get to know each other then it might be better. beside you are still in you 20s you have time
2006-12-08 03:03:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
After one year you can't possibly know a person well enough to be deciding whether or not you want to marry someone. Give it a couple more years.
2006-12-08 03:01:01 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. I think you know if you want to spend the rest of your life with someone within the first three weeks. Then again I'm not married.
2006-12-08 03:00:55 · answer #10 · answered by thewarrinoates 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋