22 Weeks pregnant and sent to bed rest !!!!?

Question

im 22 weeks pregnant on bed rest cant stop my panic attacks, cant stop the crying over things i cant do or provide for my baby im stressed over the fact that my boy friend it going to be paying for every thing by himself and i fell bad about it i some time cant sleep because i cant stop thinking about what has to be done and the things i cant do.......I need help i need to find a way to realx and not stress myself into pre-term laybor

im on bed rest because when i went to my first ultrasound the the doc saw that my services was shorter than norm the don't want me doing anything that can cause me to dilate

IT'S A GIRL

Answer 1

I know it seems overwhelming now, but hopefully all of those little worries will just drop right out of your head once you hold your beautiful baby. I was a nervous wreck the entire time I was pregnant, suffered from severe depression, and was even violent on a few occasions. My hormones were INSANE! As soon as I held my son for the first time, though, it was like I knew. I just knew that everything would be okay, and even though I had no idea what I was doing, I would get better. Everyone was so worried about me getting PPD, because I was depressed while I was pregnant, but that wasn't the case. Hopefully, it will be the same for you. You can talk to your doctor about anti-depressants, although depending on the severity of your case, the risks may outweigh the benefits. Here is a little info:

So far, bupropion (Wellbutrin) has not been associated with risks to a developing baby. But researchers have identified various risks with other types of antidepressants. For example:

Paxil.
Paroxetine (Paxil) has been linked to fetal heart defects when it's taken during the first three months of pregnancy. The benefits of continuing the drug may outweigh the risks for some women, however.

Other selective serotonin reuptake inhibitors (SSRIs).
Taking SSRIs — including citalopram (Celexa), fluoxetine (Prozac), paroxetine (Paxil) and sertraline (Zoloft) — in the last half of pregnancy increases the risk of a rare but serious lung problem known as persistent pulmonary hypertension of the newborn. This condition occurs when a newborn's circulation system doesn't adapt to breathing outside the womb. Again, the benefits of continuing these drugs sometimes outweigh the risks.

Tricyclic antidepressants.
These older antidepressants — including amitriptyline and nortriptyline (Aventyl, Pamelor) — are generally discouraged during pregnancy in favor of newer, more effective medications. Potential risks of tricyclic antidepressants to a baby may include damage to the central nervous system, physical deformities or developmental delays.

Answer 2

Ahhh, been here. You're on bed rest to ensure you have a full term, healthy pregnancy. You are counteracting it by stressing out so much over something you cannot control.

First thing you have to do is realize you ARE providing for the baby - you are providing a healthy home for him in you, so he can come out healthy and happy when he's supposed to.

Talk to your boyfriend - likely he's not got a problem with doing this for you to ensure you have a healthy kid.

Make a list of things that have to be done - then delegate those things you can't do. Rely upon family and friends for help. Let yourself be pampered.

Do you sew? knit? crochet? Into crafts? Ever wanted to learn something you never had time for before? Well then, take advantage of this time to do some of those things - it'll be a long while before you get the chance again.

I was on bedrest before the internet - now there are all kinds of things you can do while having to stay in. You can get the baby clothes and furniture via the internet, you can find a work at home computer job, talk to other people (like now!)

Enjoy this time and learn to let og of the things you cannot do. Believe me, the laundry will be there when you get back to it, the dishes, the chores - consider this a vacation and don't be guilty. You have a job right now - keeping yourself healthy so the baby can be healthy. That is your full time job, the only one you have to do.

Stop crying, stop feeling guilty, SLEEP and get on with enjoying being pregnant .

Take up those crafts - they are a life and attention saver - and read those books you've always wanted to read!

Answer 3

When you feel overwhelmed it is really hard to get your breath back, isn't it? Just take a deep breath in. TRY to relax, you have to learn to do this anyway so that when yu go into labor you can breathe through the contractions. Breathe in through your nose, exhale through your mouth. Do that a few times until your heart stops racing. Close your eyes, when you breathe in, think of a color you are breathing in, when you breathe out, think of another color. Keep doing that until you have calmed down. Consciously relax each body part , starting with your head. Imagine you are a block of ice and you are melting into the bed. Relax your head, relax your face, relax your neck, relax your shoulders, relax your arms (they should feel heavy and floppy) keep going all the way down your body until you are relaxed. This should help to decrease the panic episodes, somewhat. Those things that have to be done, will have to wait. You have a baby to protect and make healthy. Those things will be there when you get back to them.

Answer 4

You've got to calm down. You're lucky that you have help some women don't have that. Think about it this way you're doing the hard part, you're having the baby. He's doing the easy part providing for the baby. When push comes to shove you're equal. Relax everything will be fine.

Answer 5

stress is possibly what put you on bedrest in the first place so adding more isnt going to help!you need to relax at least till the baby is here because worrying doesnt do anything good for you.i was put on bedrest and meds to stop contractions at 25 weeks during my last pregnancy.but i had to work because i was the only income.i just tried to relax and not let things get to me and i delivered him 1 week early!just do what your doc says and it will be ok!

Answer 6

You should do what's best for you and baby now. Try to clear your mind, meditate and relax yourself. You're fragile at this moment and you need to take as much precaution as you can to keep this baby healthy. Good luck!

Answer 7

Well, Why are you on bed rest... is it because of the panic attacks or something else? I can not tell you what to do unless I know why you are on bed rest.

Answer 8

all this needless worrying will not only send you into pre term labor it could kill your baby,so stop worrying it will all pass,write down your worries daily and you will see what you are worried about today you wont be worried about it next week,life is to short to worry,and when the baby comes you will have even more to worry about

Answer 9

hunny...just breathe...God gave you the gift of being a mother, it will work out for you...just relax

you will be a mother the greatest job ever so be happy and think positve...