I recently think about this..
Many of us, especially teenagers, face difficulties and obstacles in their relationships. Boy A told Girl B that he likes him, but Girl B said she just wanted to be friends. Boy A then tries to show her that he cares for her and keeps waiting for her, making sacrifices.
Have you ever think that at those time, the boy is not supposed to give up, because it might be the test that God wants to give us, so that with that sacrifices and difficulties, we would appreciate our relationships with that person more? So, it is like because you work very hard to get that someone, you would do more for that relationship to survive, so you would "love" that person more. That is why relationship which does not require sacrifice often doesn't last..
What do you think
2006-12-08 02:40:42 · 9 answers · asked by Life is Like A Box of Chocolate 1 in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
Yeah, but even if the boy doesn't give up and keeps trying and trying, there's still a possibility that he won't actually "love" the girl, and they're still gonna break up after a couple of months. These are not obstacles given by God, this is just life. That's what life is.
Boy A tries hard, and finally girl says yes. And then what? Boy A doesn't try hard because he cares about the girl, he tries hard because he wants to get what he wants. It's all about him.The purpose of his actions have nothing to do with the girl. And after he gets what he wanted, what next? He didn't love the girl in the first place, and now a break-up is inevitable.
2006-12-08 02:50:15 · answer #1 · answered by Maus 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well i would like to say that you are a wonderful person for trying to do something like that i think that you should though make the decision yourself on whether or not you want to pursue with trying to date her and if you do and she still feel the same give it some time or perhaps move on if she feel that she want to pass you up because judging from your thoughts you are a good guy and it would be her lost and your gain because u will learn from that experience. and i agree with you on the thing about sacrifice i have plenty experience with that and i would make all the sacrifice and the guy would do nothing and still not appreciate it but now because of the relationship I'm in now i feel it was worth hate pain maybe the other guys were my test from GOD but i hope this one is the ONE and judging from all the sacrifice he has made this may be it but this isn't about me it's about you and i want to say good luck and if she don't give you the time of the day don't bother with it it may b hard but move on
2006-12-08 11:14:20 · answer #2 · answered by brown eyes 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that's true, which is why in one sided relationships, where someone is making sacrifices and the other isn't, there are often feelings of resentment. If only one person is sacrificing, then that person is always giving, but never receiving. Both partners need to be on the same page, and willing to compromise on almost anything. Equality goes the distance...
2006-12-08 10:52:00 · answer #3 · answered by Nikki 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First of all teenagers shouldn't stress about relationships so much yet. There is still a lot for them to do to prepare for life before they will be prepared for a serious relationship. They should concentrate on building strong friendships first...afterall they are the foundation of any good romantic relationship. If a guy likes and girl and the interest is not returned, I don't think it's healthy for them to devote all their time trying to pursuade her to like him...that would only start to affect self esteem if he is continuously rejected by her.
As far as God testing is concerned. I am pretty sure God will totally understand if you say to yourself, "Okay, she's not into me so I will continue to be who God made me to be and carry on. If I stay a good person she will notice and it will happen if it is supposed to happen."
2006-12-08 11:00:33 · answer #4 · answered by tmw36 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
love is a 2 way street, true love loves unconditionally, if one party does not respond, that 'love' could turn destructive, turning into obsession, which is unhealthy, the next step will be stalking, thinking that he should 'protect her', in extreme case kidnapping, a healthy & mature love would wants the other person to be happy, no matter who she's with, you cannot force 'love' on someone, following that person around, hopping to moved her heart by your so called 'devotion or love' for her, alter to whine about the 'sacrifices' you've made
2006-12-08 11:13:21 · answer #5 · answered by Dreamweaver 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that the guy should just stop trying to get with the girl, because that could be something as harassment, if a girl says that she just wants to be friends, than the guy should leave it at that and accept that fact. If their is someone out their for everybody, than he'll find her and he want have to work very hard trying to get her.
2006-12-08 11:08:26 · answer #6 · answered by Miah 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
'relationship which does not require sacrifice often doesn't last'
I quite disagree. Too much strain is more often the reason why relationships don't last.
2006-12-08 11:07:02 · answer #7 · answered by nelabis 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I find that what is mine is attracted to me & i am attracted to it. Birds of a feather flock together. Flee from things that flee from thee. Say to your Heart with convection; Thank you for bringing to me my "true Love". then relax and wait patiently for your true love to arrive. It will be love at first sight for both of you.
2006-12-08 11:51:26 · answer #8 · answered by Weldon 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
when a boy likes a girl,he is prepared to do everything & anything for her,and in return the girl is least bothered about him.he spoils his health,education and mainly his LIFE.when she is not intrested in the boy he should be least bothered about her
2006-12-08 10:51:15 · answer #9 · answered by kiran 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋