Please - urgent help needed here! Perhaps some expert advice?

Question

I'm desperate.
2 days ago I answered a Q from s/one who wished to take their life, with a million reasons why not to. So how can I be so close to that point, right now?

I feel so completely hopeless, pathetic and helpless as to think it would be preferable to this pain that is tearing me apart so far that there are only wisps of any "me" left.. My man and my life is in the hands of someone so hateful, that she has threatened to kill me if I do not allow HER to move in on the only man I will ever love?

Irony?- I asked a question about feeling stalked - Someone answered it's MAFIA or big brother. Spot on friend- cheers, (as I pop another tranquiliser).. my every move is watched so I have no choice, no matter where I go.

I end it with him or she ends me, and then again, in ending it with him, I end me anyway.. what's the point? And where's he in this? He cannot say a word, for reasons no need to use your imagination on..don't know where he is - 1st time ever. Help.. anyone?

Answer 1

Hey, Listen up. You cant' take this all on yourself, you need to get tough and tell him what he has to do. He can choose not to be with her and protect you, or you can stand up and walk away. No life if worth losing over situations like these. You're being threatened, chances are it's because they can't win.. If your Man isnt' doing his job as the protector, he can't be worth all this anexiety. Let him know how you fel and let him know that it's also his decision to be with you.

DO NOT DO ANYTHING RASH TO YOURSELF!

Keep us updated, okay?

Answer 2

I really don't know what I would do in a situation like this. But I will tell you this-- if you are of age to possibly have a gun in the house to feel safe, I say go for it. Also, get your concealed weapons permit so you can carry it w/ you if it is hidden. Some may think this is a little extreme, but there are EXTREMELY crazy and violent people out there. Who agrees?

P.S. At times, I feel, all of us have felt like not being here, but you need to think about the big picture. You have a very long life to live and if this relationship doesn't work, I promise you, you will find someone who will complete you. If you take your life, you will never find him.

Answer 3

First of all let's talk about you. You are identifying yourself through him. That is not good. You are not at lifes end because your relationship with him has ended. So try to stop thinking that way. You were okay before you met this jerk and you'll be okay after him.
If I were you, I'd go to the nearest court house and file a civil complaint against this other person. She has threatened your life. And believe me, your ex is aware of it. Don't fool yourself.
Get a restraining order against her and take her to court. Have some kind of documentation somewhere on file just in case something does happen.
You're better than both of them, don't you forget that. Quit beating yourself up over some losers.

Answer 4

First of all, I empathize with you. I recently seperated from my wife and children and it was one of the darkest places I have ever had to go to... and emerge from. If I can do it with a marriage and children in the picture, you can too.

One thing to tell yourself all the time is that 'this too shall pass'. It seems like your life is over, you will never be happy again, you will never know love like that again... I know, I feel for you... please keep perspective... there is no way to go any lower, this will pass... just keep going. Hang on no matter what and I promise things will get better.

Start looking for the light. Pray good thoughts to yourself. Seek the company of positive friends, places, groups, hobby groups, exercise groups....

I think you may need to face the fact that this man doesn't want you anymore. It is easier to blame her, but that is not the whole picture. He is an adult with free choice and for some reason, at this point in his life, he choice to be with her instead. His loss... but you must come to accept that it is his choice too.

Get in touch with your anger. Imagine your bed as your ex and this woman. Kick the crap out of them and tell them everything you've always wanted to tell them, leave nothing unsaid, undone.

You may still need address one or both of them and let them know how hurt they made you feel.

Then forgive, forget this man will ever be part of your life and move on!

Remember, keep searching for the light, the positive things, think/pray positive thoughts... and by all means, just keep going!

Peace and Love and hugs,

David

Answer 5

You seem to be swinging from one mood to another. Have you thought about speaking with a specialist? Also, this feeling that, all your options in life are now at a dead-end, and your feeling of being stalked, sound a bit paranoid, in my opinion.
Whatever it is: your post sounds very 'off-centre' and desperate - you need to find a sense of normalcy and balance again. Talk to a professional. Go to a clinic or hospital.
Why don't you help someone who is worse-off than yourself? Suicide is egotistical, unless one is very mentally ill, in my opinion.

Answer 6

Your situation seems all so unreal. Why would a woman have this kind of power that she decides she wants your man even though he does not want her? I say if all you say is true, move on and leave this man even if you love him. Move away from all of the chaos. No matter if you hold your ground and stay with him more drama will produce itself later in life. What kind of life would you have? Whats the point of being with someone if you cannot enjoy your life together?

Answer 7

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Answer 8

Well... it all depends on specifics of your situation and the people involved. Your boyfriend is the one who needs to decide what is going to happen. If he is not keeping in touch with you, and does not return to you, then that is his decision. If he is involved with organized crime, then that is a good reason to find somewhere else to invest your affections.

Each community has a community mental health clinic. There are nice people there that are good at helping people through difficult periods in their lives.

Answer 9

clear out your field, the person who you helped has dumped his or her bad vibes on you.
Subconsciously we all do that with eachother
your field can be cleared out by doing
breath of fire (kundalini yoga technique
go have a seasalt bath it will make you very yang but at least out of the bad vibes
sports help
www.emofree.com helps = EFT
google eft with mages and you 'll find a manual
I wish i could help

Answer 10

Call the police!