Me and my best friend, went to a guidence cousnlor about two of our good friends who are cutting themselves, and one of which was Over dosing.. We've both seen the cuts. The two of them were called to the guidemce office, and were told that two sophmore girls told him about the cutting(were the only two who know). So they somehow covered them up, and said we were lying, and that they never said anything, even though I have proof on my cell phone. So the guidence counselor told us(me and my best friend) that if we came to him again, with any more lies, or practical jokes about the two boys(cutters) we would be suspened. Is that fair? Can you suspend us for notifying someone of a situation that was incredibly serious?
2006-12-08 02:29:35 · 33 answers · asked by Shelby S 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
If the boys are truly cutting themselves and abusing drugs, then maybe you need to go over the counselors head. Talk to your own parents and advise them of the situation. The counselor was probably "snowed" by the boys and really has no authority to make them take their clothes off to check them for cuts. HOWEVER, their parents should have been notified of the allegations so that they may determine what is really going on. If you think they may hurt themselves worse, you should definitely pursue the situation with perhaps the principal as well. If you don't want to get involved, tell your parents anyway so they are aware of how the counselor treated you and then back away from the situation. The call is up to you.
2006-12-08 02:34:53 · answer #1 · answered by Michele A 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your parents about the situation. Let them know what the both of you saw, and show them the proof you have. Your parents should then march into the school and demand the guidance counselor to explain his actions.
Self-mutilation is a sign of something deeper going on in this person's life, and may lead to other not so pleasant things. Your counselor sounds like he is lacking in his job duties.
Write down everything you saw and when. Do not leave out any details. If you are unclear of all of the details, say so.
I think your school is being misrepresented by this counselor. Can you talk to another one? Or the principal? Do not fear suspension. If you are suspended, fight it. You are not being a "snitch". You were only trying to put a bad situation in the light, correct?
If you have to, go to your school districts offices and show them your proof and tell them what happened when you notified the counselor.
Good luck
2006-12-08 02:37:11 · answer #2 · answered by bux_martinfan 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well I would tell him "here is a pretty good example of what happens when a person cares, if deep down inside those boys are more troubled then you think and they do something stupid then who is the guilt going to land on now, we are taught from kids that if we see or learn something bad we should report it to the guidance counselor well I see how that works out, so when does the suspension start?" then I would talk to the principle about it and say you know "listen I was worried about them and so I put my foot in the door to try to help them and now I being punished" Is there any wonder kids are so messed up now adays? Our school systems are ridicules!!! Talk to some teachers about it. We need to be heard! Next time they write someone off someone could get killed or seriously injured. They need to learn that kids are not always about jokes and games we do also know when something is serious!!
2006-12-08 02:36:12 · answer #3 · answered by Sandy 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No, they can't suspend you. However, they probably will anyway. Argue the point. Instead of going to the guidance councilor, go to one of your school's security officers.
It is the job of the school to report even suspected violence, to one's self or another, to the subject's parents and any authorities who need be in on it. However, they often turn a blind eye to it to save themselves the paperwork and footwork.
Tell the security guard exactly where the cuts are, so your friends can't cover them up. They'll have to show the spot to prove they don't have cuts, but since there are cuts they can't hide it. Also give the proof on your cell phone.
By the way, some schools have not only security guards but real police officers (they'll be the ones with a gun on them, even on school grounds). If you have one in your school, go to them before anyone else. You're more likely to get a response.
2006-12-08 02:37:15 · answer #4 · answered by anything_but_this_again 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's not fair and you should take that to the principal. If it's true and the guidance couselor did not do enough research they can now be liable if the boys hurt or kill themselves. The principal should know about this ASAP and the couselor should be fired (this is assuming you are really telling the truth and know for 100%). If the principal does nothing also then I would call the police personally.
You're doing the right thing by being concerned about your friends well being.
2006-12-08 02:40:23 · answer #5 · answered by Cyber Stalker 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-24 22:59:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First go to your parents. Explain the situation, as well as what took place when you tried to get help from the guidence counselor. Maybe they can help you to get help for your friends. You did a brave thing to try and protect your friends from themselves. Dont let this be the reason for not trying to help people in the future. is there a teacher, that you can trust? good luck
2006-12-08 02:57:40 · answer #7 · answered by Mikez Bad Girl soCal 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No they can not suspend you for caring. I would have a talk with the principal about the threat of suspension by the counselor. It would be inappropriate for any counselor to make threats to any student for coming to them with a problem. Their job is to council not scare students off. The counselor would not be doing their job if they intimidated you in the way you say.
2006-12-08 02:36:46 · answer #8 · answered by JAN 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like the guidance counsler is a bit messed up...it is not fair that he believed the cutters stories and not you.Cutting is a bad idea and they need help. I applaud you for trying to do the right thing. I would take it to a different counsler or a dean in your school and show them the proof on your phone.
2006-12-08 02:32:46 · answer #9 · answered by Tricia B 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would say that this is not only unfair, but pretty stupid by the guidance couselor. If one of these boys ends up seriously injuring himself or worse think about how that counselor would feel. You were only trying to protect friends of yours from themselves. Go higer up if you are still concerned and tell them the whole story with what happened with the guidance counselor.
2006-12-08 02:35:14 · answer #10 · answered by williamcoulson 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋