he was once married and he is scared of loosing me the way he did with the other .but this great attachment scares me badly.cos he does a lot of weird things
2006-12-08 02:21:51 · 10 answers · asked by aschelock 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He is scared.. sit him down and tell him that you understand that he is scared he is going to lose you.. but reasure him that he isn't.. Tell him that is actions are sufficating and you need some space.... As long as he knows you love him he should be fine with that idea.. If he gets all moody or crazy then he is obsessed with you and that is a relationship that needs to end... Maybe he done something to his ex wife that made her feel the way you are now and that is why she ended it
2006-12-08 02:29:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Consider yourself blessed to have a husband who loves you. If he's not abusive towards you I would suggest to you that you enjoy each other. Why did you get married in the first place? If you think he has the potential to hurt you then you should try to get him some help. But remember you took a vow to be with him through sickness and health, in good times and bad. I don't know your circumstances but a marriage should not have the word fear between it. You and your husband have a serious communication issue that needs to be resolved. If you feel the potential for violence is there then there is no shame in getting help for the both of you. God Bless you and good luck.
2006-12-08 02:33:24 · answer #2 · answered by Dah veed 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is a clear line between love and obsession. Obsession is sometimes masked be the four letter word called love. You must already have seen signs that make you fearful. Watch out, and have those weird things on paper somewhere.
2006-12-08 02:25:28 · answer #3 · answered by Special K 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like an abuser who is more obsessed with control than anything else right now. His ex may have had a very good reason to have left him. Did you ever think of that? Don't ignore your feelings of discomfort. If it feels wrong, it IS wrong. This guy may graduate to more intense abuse over time too. Be careful.
2006-12-08 04:26:28 · answer #4 · answered by silverside 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
weired is right. Is he really loving you or hanging on to the person that he lost before you. His love sounds more like insecurity. Real love would not produce fear in you.
2006-12-08 02:56:30 · answer #5 · answered by daloveman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think of you divorced him too quickly. you will possibly desire to have long gone to counseling and in line with probability had an prolonged separation era previously going back to him interior the 1st place. loads of human beings believe 'as quickly as a cheater, consistently a cheater' yet i do no longer inevitably believe that. It appears like your hubby replaced into keen to do something to win you back and the terrific option his wrongs. Counseling might have given you an exterior opinion as to whether or no longer he replaced into relatively remorseful (the shown fact that he confessed his wrongs to you, extremely than waiting till he have been given caught, shows that he replaced into relatively sorry for what he did). a lot of human beings stay to tell the story infidelity, besides the shown fact that it takes loads of tricky artwork and a protracted time to construct that believe back up. each and all the emotions you have been feeling once you moved back in with him have been thoroughly prevalent (it relatively is why i think of you will possibly desire to have been separated longer...you weren't waiting to be 'husband and spouse' in basic terms yet). So, my advise could be the comparable as I already stated. seek for counseling and see if that's something well worth giving yet another shot. Your ex-husband needs to 'win' you yet back. He might desire to be taking you out on dates and going above and previous to coach his trustworthiness. Get a specialist exterior opinion. do no longer turn to kinfolk because of fact they are going to be biased. do no longer think of of it as letting him walk throughout you. You -did no longer- permit him walk throughout you when you consider which you left and then divorced him. think of of what's terrific no longer in straightforward terms for you, yet on your little ones. and that i actually, truly applaud you for protecting the courting amicable after divorce so your little ones can nevertheless have a physically powerful courting with their father. many women human beings can no longer get previous the anger and betrayal to allow their little ones have a healthful, prevalent courting with their fathers after something like this has got here approximately.
2016-10-14 06:38:48 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be more specific. What exactly scares you? And why did you marry him in the first place?
2006-12-08 02:37:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What does he do? There must have been more good qualities than bad if you married him, right? Talk to him about it.
2006-12-08 02:27:24 · answer #8 · answered by trickyandmysterious 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok...what is the question...and what does he do that scares u so badly?
2006-12-08 02:26:20 · answer #9 · answered by Michele 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
what kind of weird things?
2006-12-08 02:50:23 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋