i like this boy but sometimes when im with other girls i stare at them and their breast. But when im with a boy i kiss on them or flirt whit them with a girl im too shy to do any thing with them and it makes me feel scared of how they would react when i say something like that. it also makes me feel scared of how my family would react if i told them i was gay.
2006-12-08 02:10:31 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
You are not gay, but you are probably bisexual. I assume you are female, and if so, then you may find that your sexual preferences change throughout your life. This is not unusual for women. (Men's sexual preferences can change too, but it is not very common.) My suggestion is to keep your options open. Don't believe anyone who says you MUST like boys, or you must choose one or the other, etc. If you truly are bisexual, then your sexual preferences will be determined more by the personalities of the particular people you meet, rather than by their gender. This is perfectly wonderful and there is nothing wrong with you.
Obviously some people will get their undies in a bunch and blabber about you offending God, going to hell, etc., but I can promise you that these people really don't know what they are talking about. Love is a wonderful thing, and the more love you can feel for people – whether they are male, female, hermaphrodite, or transgender – the more blessed you are and the more rewarding your life will be.
Of course sexuality can be dangerous, so you should plan to always play safe. As a young woman you will find that plenty of people want to have sex with you, so relax and take your time. There is no need to jump into anything quickly. Don't give in to pressure from anyone and don't do anything you don't feel ready to do.
As for your parents, you should try to respect their wishes at least until you are 18. After that, you should plan to make your own decisions and don't feel pressured to be what other people want you to be. You have a right to feel your own feelings and enjoy the sort of life you feel is right for you. Stay respectful of others, but don't live your life just to please others.
The world needs more independent thinkers, NOT more people who give in to every form of peer pressure.
2006-12-08 03:56:01 · answer #1 · answered by eroticohio 5 · 4⤊ 1⤋
It sounds like at the time you are more comfortable with guys, but its curiosity at this age. When you get a little older you may realize what you really want. You may be bi-sexual and you may be straight or maybe gay I think you are too young to know yet, although most gay people know by the age of 15 that they are gay. Is the guy you kiss around on a good friend that might be experimenting with or curious about sex with a guy? I still think that let life take its course, and sooner or later you yourself will know the answer to your own question.
2006-12-08 02:34:04 · answer #2 · answered by jumpinjackdw 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
at 15 its very hard to to sure of anything the stereotypes and labels our society places upon us are not what defines us our own self image and inner vision is what defines us. your attraction to boys and girls is normal at your age yet if your discover you are gay or bi then don't be ashamed or scared Gay people are just that people and if you end up counting yourself as one of us then you will be person nothing more.If you are gay or bi consider yourself blessed you'll get to experience love and pleasure that the majority of people don't. As to your parents certainly wait until you are sure this could be years then reach out to the gay community for advice on how to come out all parents are different. But all parents love there children unless your parents are extreme in the opinions your parents will continue to love you. Maybe there very cool about it maybe they will never want to bring it up again wait and see rally whether or not they know is only as important as it is to you many gay people never tell there parents and some parents have thought there child might be gay before there kid did take it easy enjoy yourself and ignore the ignorance around you in the end you only have to answer to yourself
2006-12-08 03:42:58 · answer #3 · answered by benbear 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-05 01:17:29 · answer #4 · answered by wheelwright 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you are a bi-sexual if you are attracted to both sexes. As far as other people or your family not accepting this, you are what you are and should feel comfortable in your own skin. People don't always agree, but you need to live life for yourself. They will learn to accept this if they love you and want you in their life. I hope you find the direction you need. Good luck.
2006-12-08 02:16:13 · answer #5 · answered by june clever 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Many of us spending YEARS and YEARS trying to "tell what we like" or identify our sexual orientation. One's sexual orientation goes beyond sexual attraction. It has to do with many many things - sexual fantasies, lifestyle, emotional and social preference. Sometimes, it is cut and dry. Other times it is NOT so cut and dry. You could spend your whole life being attracted to one or the other gender and then feel yourself preferring being with the same gender somewhat more or vice versus. Do you have to have a "label" or identify yourself? Only you can answer that. If you would really like to know more and feel a deep feeling of wanting closure, check out some of the links below:
2006-12-08 02:31:44 · answer #6 · answered by Nuttie Nettie 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I think at your age this can be a problem but it passes usually. It's just a curiosity or maybe you are attracted to certain female body parts but that doesn't make you a lesbian. It's how you react to this urge.You don't have to take it any further,
2006-12-08 02:15:00 · answer #7 · answered by Brianne 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Dude this is the Internet don't you worry about perverts and so on . All I can tell you is get off of here at your age and time will tell i guess Good luck and God Bless as you grow life will get better i hope Good luck..
2006-12-08 02:15:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
i felt exactly the same as you when i was at your age
I'm 17 and still think about it
there is not thing wrong with it
do what i did get a gf and if she likes 3somes then have another man to fool around with while having fun with her as well. you are not evil and you should not consider asking y you are like this just accept it and learn how to live with it
2006-12-08 02:29:11 · answer #9 · answered by college stud 2 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Just be yourself and if you feel you are gay or bi it's ok don't listen to the people who say it's wrong b/c it's not.
2006-12-08 03:18:43 · answer #10 · answered by ihgirl_2005 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋