My friend is in a wheelchair and meets people online. She always up front about the fact that she's in a wheelchair but upon meeting people, she often gets turned down for dates. Would you date someone in a wheelchair? What should she do?
2006-12-08 00:57:06 · 22 answers · asked by lovelee1 6 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
Personally, I would date a person in a wheelchair. They are normal people too, and something like that wouldn't turn me off. As a matter of fact, my boyfriend is blind, so I guess there's your answer! As for what she should do.....one day a man will come along that will love her despite her disability. And she should ignore all those guys who are too shallow to look at what's inside instead of what is on the outside!♥
2006-12-08 01:12:19 · answer #1 · answered by dyingatwork 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Of Course what does the wheelchair have to do with it. The only problem I have is many people in wheelchairs have been hurt buy rude people and so they are a little on the shy side. I usually smile and say hi to people in the mall or coming down the street who are in a wheel chair just as I would anyother person but rarely do I get a response. Maybe her being forthright in telling people she is in a wheel chair is backfiring. Maybe they think it is a way of her getting sympathy from them. Try not telling the ones online until she has really gotten to know them and they are hinting about meeting her face to face. Then tell them that before they meet her she must tell them that she is in a wheelchair so there are no awkward feelings when they meet. If the person disappears after that they have a problem with this there is nothing wrong with her. For normal everyday meeting of people she needs to be more bold. Talk to people just like you would if you were not in a wheelchair. Would you smile to a passerby and say hi? Non handicapped people do not know what to say to break the ice. They feel somehow like they are staring when they talk to you and are being rude in someway. Intruding on your lifes problems. I have a friend who is blind, he has the same problem people do not talk to him because they figure he cannot see who he is talking to so he won't know whether you said hi or not. The wheelchair is not the problem it is the feeling it gives people. Put the feelings of awkwardness aside for them right off the bat and they will feel more at ease.
2006-12-08 01:12:02 · answer #2 · answered by curiosity 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would date someone in a wheelchair. Because they can't walk doesn't mean there is something wrong with them. I would still need to be attracted to the person though.
I have not been in that situation so I don't know what you can recommend for your friend. It sounds great that shes is putting herself out there, she can't let it get her down if there are shallow guys out there.
She is being upfront with them, which is good, I think she just needs to keep putting herself out there, and not let these guys get her down. SHe will find someone.
2006-12-08 01:06:49 · answer #3 · answered by strtat2 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I haven't dated anyone in a wheelchair, but I have dated, lived with and gotten engaged to a legally blind man. He needed a lot of help to get around and while I was up to the challenge, we eventually broke up because of his stubborn personality and all the other traits that came from it.
2006-12-08 01:31:23 · answer #4 · answered by kitten lover3 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It might be that the turn-down is not wheelchair related. She should get out there, meet people, and realize that date requests have a high failure rate unless you're utterly hot.
2006-12-08 01:00:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, I went on one date with a handicapped guy or woman approximately 6 years in the past because of the fact i became into my cousin's wingman. He became into bodily handicapped from the waist down, yet he ought to stroll (ha). He became into lovable and superb yet no, i did not like him because of the fact i do unlike anybody. No, i'm not into that ****.
2016-10-17 23:40:50 · answer #6 · answered by lander 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I beleive I would, someone in a wheelchair is no different of a person than someone who walks, it really depends on personnallity and attraction.
2006-12-08 00:59:27 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I GUESS IT DEPENDS ON THE SEVERITY OF THE DISABILITY.
I'M AN NO WAY HARD UP FOR A DATE BUT I WOULD HAVE NO PROBLEM DATING A GIRL IN A WHEEL CHAIR. I WOULD HAVE NO PROBLEM DATING A DEFF GIRL EITHER. I COULD NOT DATE SOMEONE BLIND THOUGH. I JUST DONT THINK I COULD HANDLE IT.
I THINK AS LONG AS YOUR ATTRACTED TO THE PERSON, YOU GET ALONG GREAT AND YOU REALIZE THAT IT MAY BE DIFFERANT THAN HOW YOU HAD ALWAYS PICTURED IT AND YOUR OK WITH THAT THAN THERE SHOULD BE NO PROBLEM WITH IT.
BTW: IS SHE CUTE???
2006-12-08 01:02:14 · answer #8 · answered by Steven Colbert 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its not about the wheel chair ,, its about the person sitting in it.I think it is hard to meet people online regardless of who you are most people are not completely honest ,Tell her to not loose hope there is somone out there just for her that will love her unconditionally
2006-12-08 01:22:16 · answer #9 · answered by Tara 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah! Just because they're handicapped doesn't mean they're different on the inside too!
2006-12-08 01:00:57 · answer #10 · answered by Arya Dröttning 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋