Would you call the other guy??

Question

My wife has been having an emotional affair with another man that lives in a different city, so the sex has not happened yet, I am pretty sure. This has been going on for as long as three years now and honestly I am sick of it. I have talked with her about ending it, but would you call this guy and or his wife and put him on notice also?

Answer 1

that sucks!! personally i would think of ending things with her. emotional affairs are usually much more detrimental to a relationship than physical affairs because you're giving your heart to someone else. sorry to say that, good luck to you.

Answer 2

As much as you would want to confront this guy,it really is between you and your wife. I was involved in that sort of relationship where I though I wanted out and found comfort in a friend who had comforted me during an illness. The friendship became more of an emotional affair and I actually separated from my wife for over three months until the reality of what I was doing slapped me in my face. We got back together had another child since and although not perfect, our marriage is actually stronger than before. I know this will not comfort you but she won't make a choice until forced too. The relationship can only go on in it's present form if you accept that you are sharing your wife with another man in the most intimate way. Since I highly doubt that you intend to do that I suggest you force her hand.Make it her choice to be 100% yours or not. Let her know that you will move on with or without her but that she is the only one who can make that decision. Don't let her drag it out, make it clear a decision to continue her relationship with another man(sexual or not) is a decision to stop being with you. Good luck with all of this, it can still work if she truly loves you. Sometimes people just need to be reminded what the stakes are and to realize what is truly important... I did and I hope your wife does too.

Answer 3

I had this same situation and I was promised time and time again it would end. Ending just meant trying to conceal it better, but I re-discoved the affair 3 or 4 times. Finally I had it and I was filing for divorce and only then did my wife stop the 'emotional affair'. I have since put spy software on each of our computers and a phone wire system to see if she ever tries to contact him again. I did contact the guy and if I had the chance I would have beat the sh*t out of him. I say call him and call his wife (if he has one) and if you have proof in writing or anything then show it to his wife. Lastly, divorce your wife she may take that as a sign to stop the BS or she'll accept the divorce because she's not interested in you anymore.

Answer 4

Absolutely! It is only a matter of time before the sex takes place and then your chances of repairing the damage will be even less than it is now. Of course she will be angry because for some reason she is addicted to this side relationship. Contact that guys wife. All is fair in love and war. He doesn't seem to have a problem with disrespecting you and your wife. Perhaps he will have a different perspective when he realizes that there are consequences to his actions. Also, in some states there are alienation of affection laws because the law recognizes that a 3rd party can be destructive. Good Luck!

Answer 5

Absolutely! Make your presence very clear to this other guy. She's your wife and you have a right to be upset with this. Something similar happened to me. My husband was at our local bar and gave his business card to a woman who said her husband would be interested in his services (he’s an electrician). I wasn’t aware at the time this woman and her husband were near the brink of divorce. She ended up texting my husband late one night, he was sleeping so I picked up the cell phone (thinking it was one of his buddies) and instead saw a text from her asking what he was doing. I know he’d never think of doing anything with her since she was a fat beast, but she knew we were married and still was texting him obviously for something other than business reasons. So I called her from his phone. I ended up getting into a very heated argument with her, and told her if she were to ever try to call or text my husband I would physically beat her ***. Well, needless to say she never contacted him again. I won’t care if she was a platonic friend, but she was on the outs with her husband and figured maybe she could get a piece of mine. People should respect other people’s marriages. If I were you I would call this other guy, and or his wife. And if your wife still continues then I’d suggest kicking her to the curb, obviously she doesn’t respect you.

Best of luck

Answer 6

Yes, I would. I know the situation and basically tell the other guy to worry about his own life and stop getting in your's. Next I would try to resolve things with your wife. Really get in and unserstand why she is doing this and not putting that effort into your marriage. The only way to work it out is if you are honest with your wife and yourself. She needs to invest her time and effort into saving her marriage with you otherwise it will be over.

Answer 7

Go to his wife first and tell her. I'm sure she would really knock some sense into his cheating but. Then I would get a divorce. Obviously your wife has no regard on how you feel about this situation, so she is simply not worth it. I wish you a lot of luck.

Answer 8

You could, however, this is her responsibility. She needs to be the one to end it and you could be sitting there while she does. Although, if she ends it with this one, she can easily begin with another. The two of you should get some counseling and get to the root of the problem. As far as you telling the other man's wife or significant other, that i would not do. Why would you want to cause this other women as much pain as you are in. Good luck to you and God bless****

Answer 9

I DID call the Husband when my Husband was pulling this **** with another woman for 3 years.
It was hell and gave me a freaking breakdown.
The Husband also knew what was going on and he and his wife ended up getting Divorced.

Answer 10

Yep...and his wife too. You've put up with this for 3 years? Glad to see you decided to stop being a doormat. Just make sure your facts are straight before you make your move.