Now that I have told my family, wife, children and friends, how do I start being who I really am? I have been with several guys and it feels natural to have a man hold you in his arms and kiss.... and what ever comes next........ Any advice that you can give me would be appreciated.
2006-12-08 00:45:21 · 9 answers · asked by beachguy_41 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Okay, let's try and answer the question rather than trolling...
Since you have a family already, that complicates matters, I hope they're fine about it, most of all I hope your wife isn't feeling upset about it. You do need to think of the family, staying together for the kids' sake. I suggest you and your wife discuss a sort of 'open relationship' where you are free to sleep with other people, otherwise it's just going to be an end to your marriage.
After keeping it a secret for a long time, it's built up and the floodgates have burst. You are likely to find that the occasional bit of sex with a man on the side will suffice after the flood period is over, so it needn't mean the end of your marriage.
If you are going to divorce, for the kids' sake, stay friends. However, your family has to come to the realisation that it's a realisation of what you always have been and that it's not their fault.
I wish you luck.
2006-12-08 02:01:23 · answer #1 · answered by Modern Jesus 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
well you will probably go through a divorce, How will your children take it? Will you decide after about a year that you want your wife and children back? you have a lot of decisions and a lot of things to look forward to and do. Good luck in what ever you do and enjoy the gay relationship if that is what you decide is best for you.
2006-12-08 03:32:21 · answer #2 · answered by jumpinjackdw 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My sister is married to a black guy. And, my nephew from my different sister is courting a black woman. I only imagine maximum anybody is getting over it. I also imagine it really is because the segregationists are turning out to be previous & lack of life out. actually, the haters that were of their 40's in 1960 battling civil rights & such are of their ninety's now in the journey that they are even nonetheless alive. and each and each and every technology is extra tolerant than the finest. So slowly yet really we are transferring in the route of a extra equivalent society. Its nonetheless mushy in elements. & race playing cards look to fly like wild on party yet i'm so satisfied that it truly is compared to is became at the same time as i turned right into a baby. at the same time as i became 8 I were given overwhelmed & kicked interior the tummy by four white teenage boys because both little acquaintances i became playing automobiles with were black. the different 2 toddlers were given overwhelmed as a lot as boot. A white woman ran out & stopped it. No police were called. The black moms and dads reported it became my fault for taking area in with their toddlers & I apologized, by bleeding lips. This became in 1980 so...So, yeah its a helluva lot extra perfect than it became once.
2016-11-24 22:52:32 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well congratualtions! I hope you find a happy and healthy relationship soon. Continue on your venture and experience things naturally. It is something you hasve to experience. There is no road map to this. There will be some rough times as with any relationships but sort them out and enjoy--you'll be fine
2006-12-08 00:53:57 · answer #4 · answered by punxsyparty 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I'm not sure what kind of advice your looking for, it sounds like you have covered all the bases and started being who you are.
2006-12-08 00:52:03 · answer #5 · answered by buldawg 5 · 2⤊ 2⤋
whatever you want man, see where it takes you, yno go to the bars meet a nice bloke you enjoy spending time with, and i mean quality time not fukking and the like and enjoy life.
what an idiot do u think she knows what section she in!
2006-12-08 00:50:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
This is not the place to sort out your sexuality. You are going to get some hateful responses here--not too much support.
There are people who are going to be affected by this and they are going to be terribly hurt .
You,...your wife and kids need the help of a professional....and maybe for quite sometime. You and your family will be going through some major changes.
I wish you all the best of luck.
2006-12-08 00:49:21 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 6⤋
See, it IS a decision to be a homosexual. The only correct thing to do is keep your relationship with your wife and kids.
Why should they suffer just because you like guys?
2006-12-08 01:06:23 · answer #8 · answered by i hate hippies but love my Jesus 4 · 2⤊ 5⤋
just go with it....everything will come natural .....
good for you.... i bet it feels so good to finally let your feelings out
2006-12-08 00:54:44 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋