i had sex with my korean friend and she got pregnant what should we do?

Question

we were having sex with condoms but she got pregnant! what should we do.. i'm 16 and she's 18 what should we do??????? - -'

Answer 1

WELL FIRST OF ALL U REA TO YOUNG TO BE HAVING SEX.SECOND OF ALL IS TI UR BABY? IF IT IS I GUESS U HAVE TO GROW UP REAL QUICK AND TAKE CARE OF YOUR RESPONSIBILITY.I DONT THINK ITS FAIR TO KILLA BABY BECAUSE U DECIDED TO HAVE SEX BEFORE U WERE RESPONSIBLE ENOUGH TO TAKE CARE OF THE CONSECUENSES.OR U CAN GIVE IT UP FOR ADOPTION, THERE ARE SOME PEOPLE IN THIS WORLD THAT WOULD GIVE ANYTHING TO HAVE A BABY

Answer 2

Well, no one can give you the answer. You have to figure that our on your own. You have choices but I suggest having the baby. I wouldn't go for an abortion. If you guys really can't handle a baby then give it up for adoption. Even sex with a condom can result in pregnany...I know because my husband and I had a condom break and well, I've got a wonderful 4 year old son now. At the time it was scary because we were both 18 but well, we delt and are fine now. Things have a way of working out..remember that. Try to calm down and think logically. Good luck.

Answer 3

Congratulations! I know that everything probably seems scary now, but babies are always a blessing--no matter what the circumstances surrounding their conception! It is still a blessing to be able to have children--many people go their whole lives and never get to experience this!
You two have a lot of options. Today's adoptions are more flexible and are based on the parents' desires--there are closed adoptions where the children do not know who their parents are and cannot contact them and open adoptions where the parents will get to visit and know their children as the kids grow up in their new adoptive parents' home and there is everything in between these options as well!
Of course, raising the child is also an option, as is abortion. Many people consider abortion the "easy way out," but it always seems to come back up later and haunt the parents--especially once either of them have kids in the future. What's more, statistically, 90% of couples who abort break up with months of the abortion. It drives a wall between them.
Confidential testing and free counseling is available at your local Pregnancy Resource Center. You can find your local one by looking online here: www.pregnancycenters.org. They will be able to provide more information about all of your options there--but they do not provide or refer for abortions--but they certainly have a lot information about it. They also will have in-depth information about the support systems and options that you and your friend can take advantage of in your local area.
I will keep you both and your baby in my prayers. Please repost sometime and let everyone know how you are doing. God bless!


P.S. Condoms are only 85% effective in preventing STDs and pregnancy. They are not the best way to avoid pregnancy or contracting a disease. Would you hop onto a plane if you knew that it had a 15% chance of crashing?

Answer 4

well hun, I'm from the south and I'm going to tell you what my granny told me. If u are grown enough to play grown up then u have to face up to grown up business. What means is that you have to do what's the best for the both of you. The thing is I'm not an advocate for abortion, but I know that people do it. For me when I was 19 and got pregnant, I had made my decision to keep the baby. Sure it was hard and frustrating at times, but my reward is she's a beautiful productive young lady at age 10. I know friends that had abortions and some say it was the best for them at that time, but some have said that because they did it and they are now trying to have children its caused problems for them. Its like this hun weight it out. Go to a doctor or her doctor weight out the advantages of all avenues and choose the one that's best for you. Abortion isn't all they tell u it is. There are risks and you won't find it all on the net either or parent hood clinics. There are huge risks that I found out from my friends. That's why with me abortion wasn't an option. I have friends that bled for months from what they did. I had a friend that had gyn problems associated from that. They most common side effect is when they went to have a baby on purpose, they had trouble. Some minor, some major. Scarring and damage to the uterus happened and wouldn't let the fertilized egg attach causing often a miscarriage. To some they would get pregnant and carry to 4 months or close to term, then all of a sudden something happened. They went into pre-term labor. The cervics sometimes would be weakened and wouldn't carry the baby's weight. Open up and caused a miscarriage. Some would next time have to have their cervics sewn and bed rest for the entire pregnancy. For others they would carry the baby and for some reason like the lining of the uterus got thinned the placenta would start to separate and causing problems. Hun, do extensive homework on abortions, its not just a moral issue its a health issue as well. If u aren't ready for caring for the baby think about adoptions. Its a way for couples to have a child that can't. Beside if u want u can request they keep in touch with u about the baby. Or let a family member on your side or hers adopt the baby. it works. But do your home work for the both of u. Pray it works out. WIll pray hard for you.

Answer 5

ok hun for starters are you sure that it is yours because she is a "friend"? if you arent have a DNA test done. Also are you ready to be a father in my opinion you are not. Sure im pregnant but the baby's father is two years older than me so hes ready too. I dont believe in abortion unless the child is going to have a poor quality of life, the mother is in danger, or the parents are too young. A friend relationship for parents is not a good example for your unborn child. You should only have sex with someone if you love them and you know that you want to spend the rest of your life with them not for kicks. But you must decide be a father way too young and miss out on the rest of your childhood or you mutually agree to an abortion as you are too young and i would not be fair on the child as you would not be able support it financially.

Answer 6

Well condoms are dont always work out. If you love your friend, then you guys should get marreid. But if you dont, and this is going to ruin you life, then I think that you should think about abortion, or adoption. I know that abortion is a cruel thing to do, but it's your life, and hers, and the only people that need to make that decision is you two. Dont have a baby is you guys dont love each other, because then when the baby grows, he will find out that hes parents really dont love each other, and are only there because of him/her. Talk to her, and see what is best for you.

Answer 7

She could get arrested because you're a minor and she isn't. The best thing might be to put the baby up for adoption after the boy or girl is born. I'm going to say should NOT get an abortion, but it's not my decision.

Answer 8

First things first, please please please PLEASE get a DNA test done. Once that comes back and you know the results.... you can make a decision.

If by the chance the baby is yours, then you both need to make decisions. there are plenty out there, you just have to find the right one! Having a baby is a huge step, so please don't take it lightly. Just support her too, she is probably as shocked as you are!

No one here can tell you what you should do. It boils down to what you feel in your heart, and what is right. Whether that be abortion, give baby up for adoption, or have the baby, the choice is yours. You both have to live with the decision.

Best of luck to you and your friend.

Answer 9

You both need to step back and take some time to think and explore your options. The ultimate decision will be with the young woman but you should be supportive and offer ideas do not abandon her. If anything go with her to her doctors appts. talk with her doctor, planned parenthood could also provide all options. Have you discussed this with your/her parents? No one on this or anywhere can tell you as new parents what to do that is for you two alone to decide.

Answer 10

your choices are: support the child and do your best. I suggest you go to both parents and ask them for help (on your hands and knees) Or put child up for adoption knowing that the 2 of you wont be able to give the child what it will need. Abortion is NOT an option. Which ever you choose it will not be easy.