should i report my friend to social services?

Question

my friend has 2 sons who are 10 and 8.I am very concerned about their well being, i know my friend their mother loves them very much,but she never puts them 1st.

There have been astring of incidents lately, myself and anotherfriend have tried to talk to her about how she is screwing up those poor childrens life but she just says i know,and doesnt do anything about it .

these kids walk to and from school on their own, its a good 1/2 walk.its dark and they walk alone separately .They dont even have coats .
When i asked my friend why they didnt have coats she said she was going to get them one.This time of year its freezing and wet .

They are left alone at night on their own, and recently the youngest asked one of his friends mums to ask his mum if he could have breakfast in the morning .

Can you believe it ! THE MOST IMPORTANT MEAL OF THE DAY,and they are not getting it .

I am veru concerned, she is my friend, but im scared if i report ,it will go further.

Answer 1

You HAVE to report it, that is the law. I am not trying to scare you but you put it out there, the fact that you know these things is enough reason to report that,at the very least , they need help.

She may just need some serious help and that is what the system can offer her. They can educate her and help her know better and thus, with god wiling, she will do better.

You gotta make the call, you have to, imagine if you were one of those kids, she may not thank you for it today, but if she is a good person and just messed up right now, eventually she will. These calls are allowed to be annonymous...so you can just help her if they do take action...you gatta call...now...do the right thing.

Answer 2

First and foremost there are a whole list of people who are mandated reporters and should probably have already reported her (ie, doctors, teachers, school counselors, the principal, etc.). Ask yourself a few questions. Can she afford the coats? Why doesn't she take them to school? Why does she leave them alone at night? Is this all because she is working and trying to make money to take care of her children or is it because she is partying and spending the money on herself? If your answer to that question is that she is trying then see what you can do to help, after all you are her friend. If she is just neglecting her children then you need to report her, after all you are her friend. They may not just take the children, they may get her some help.

Answer 3

You need to have a sit down with her and have a family intervention, immediately! You need to let her know your concerns and those for the children - Remind her that you're coming from a place of love and caring. She will no longer be your friend if you call social services and in all likelihood they will scoff at these charges (unless she's into substance abuse).

Ironically, I have two sons (ages 8 & 10) that always leave their coats at school or their dad's house, then when I drop them off at school people think I'm a bad mom - remember there are two sides to every story.

Answer 4

Yeah report her! This is neglect plain and simple. She needs to be reported and it is supposed to go further. Friendship be hanged! These children could be in real danger and they need attending to. They need a friend also. So get yourself and this other friend and start helping these kids. It's not like you are being malicious or vengeful in doing so either. You should be scared if you don't report this. You would regret it too if something bad happened to them. Your friend may be having some sort of difficulty. She may be overwhelmed somehow and in need of some help herself. Whatever the cause, staying silent is no longer an option.

Answer 5

There are way too many Charity's that will give those children coats for free. So there is no excuse for that. Let me guess, boyfriend first then the kids? Give her an ultimatum. tell her to at least call charities and get them what they need. That way you don't get her into legal trouble without giving her a chance to make a wrong right. Stories like this are sad. Good Luck!

Answer 6

of course it will "go further", but if it's in the best interest of the children, is going further all that bad?
social services are there for the children first and for the family second. they can help your friend learn better parenting skills and she may also qualify for financial aid. being as the kids don't even have coats i feel the financial thing would come into play.
if you're that concerned for the well being of her children, then yes, you should report her. it will only benefit the family in the long run.

Answer 7

once you've been acquaintances with this individual for 2 a lengthy time period, possibly you need to communicate this which includes her first! it kind of feels slightly harsh to be taking into consideration procuring a lengthy-time pal like this with out even giving her a probability to do the right situation first. you want to have a good communicate with your pal about this. tell her you're stressful about the outcome that's having on her baby, and likewise the outcome this could have on the subsequent baby. in case you quite are her pal, you'll attempt this. it really is what acquaintances are for. acquaintances do not call Social amenities on one yet another after 2 a lengthy time period of friendship.

Answer 8

Yes, if you do report it, it will go further .. and for the childrens sake .. DO IT!

They need to be taken away to foster care until the mother wakes up and realises that its not about her, but about the well being of her kids!

Someone needs to take action now.

Report her

Answer 9

I know she's your friend, but there's times when all of us need some kind of help. I think she's at her time. As for the no coats and no breakfast, that's child abuse. I don't care what anyone else says. It'll probably be hard for you but I think you need to report her.

Answer 10

Definitely report her . It's for the childrens well being. And don't worry about losing her as a friend. More important then such a friend is that you are saving two children. Good luck.