Okay, so my ex and I broke up like 2 years ago, I broke up with him and he's now with another girl...they started dating like 2 weeks after we broke up..hmm but anyway. Here latley I've been dreaming about him. In the dreams I guess I'm cheating on my current b/f...but its not like sexually. In the dream last night I was in his arms and it felt good, like I was happy to be there with him. And then all of a sudden my boyfriend and his parents show up. So its me, the ex and my fiance' and his parents all in the same house and the ex understands that my fiance' cant know who he is. *they've never met* In the dreams its always like I want to be with the ex, when in reality I dont, I cant wait to marry my fiance'. He's a great guy and loves me to no end. I could see having these dreams if i had been thinking about him, but I havent. I just want to know why I'm having these dreams...any ideas??
sheesh i'm one skrewed up individual...my wedding is in 3 months...oh god
HELP ME!!
2006-12-08 00:13:04 · 16 answers · asked by Angie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
and how do i get them to stop??
2006-12-08 00:14:14 · update #1
You are probably experiencing anxiety from your upcoming wedding. Since wedding signify eternity with this one person, it's natural to visit the past. lots of folks are freaked out by the thought of "Forever"
You'll be fine. If you love your husband-to-be...marry him and forget about your ex. He's your ex for a reason.
You're not screwed up!!!!
2006-12-08 00:17:48 · answer #1 · answered by Wife~and~Mom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not screwed up at all. You say your fiance is a great guy and loves you to no end, but you DON'T say you love him! Not that you don't love him, I'm sure yo do in some nice little way, but the fact that it is not the first thing you say makes the point. Screams of a rebound relationship.
For the sake of your pending marriage, and your own personal well-being, you really, really need to sleep with your ex one more time and find out your true feelings. Just make sure its the dirtiest, nastiest, wildest sex possible, just to be sure.
2006-12-08 00:19:38 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're just getting cold feet. Happens to everyone. You're sub conscience is letting out you're anxieties in dreams. Years ago you had a good relationship with someone but it ended. I think you're just a little worries that this relationship could end to. The best thing to do is talk to your fiance. Tell him about your dreams and how they make you feel. That will most definitely get of your dreams and your feelings of doubt. If it doesn't help, maybe you and your fiance just weren't meant to be. But talk to him before you make any big decisions. Good luck!!!!
2006-12-08 00:23:27 · answer #3 · answered by tammi_alley 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dreams can sometimes just be random memories and thoughts that can pop up in your mind and even recall old feelings. Ask yourself this. If you had to hold your ex-boyfriend right now would it still feel good of would you feel guilty and unfaithfull? If it feels good you going to have a marrige build on untrue feelings and deception. You have no contol over your dreams so don't let them control you. Sometimes dreams can give you private pleasure and should just be enjoyed as much as a fantasy. Does not mean you have to act on it. Good luck, when you see your fiance, give him a hug and feel how good that feels and of top of that, it's real and in the now.
2006-12-08 00:25:47 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dreams mean nothing. Love is not a feeling it is a choice. If you want to love and have a working marriage with your current man then you will. If you don't care or are selfish then you will not. Try telling yourself that its not all about you and that should help you some.
2006-12-08 00:19:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I totally believe in the power of dreams.Dreams reveal our most deepest thoughts,wishes,fantasies.No matter how hard it seems to be,u have to make a decision.If that dream appears over and over again,it's obvious to me that ure not over ure ex,even though u do not want to admit it.My suggestion is that u should think twice before u get married,cause u might regret it.Take care!
2006-12-08 00:19:53 · answer #6 · answered by n 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to take one deep look into your heart and decide who it is that you truely love is it youe ex or the man u are about to marry.....i know its is really hard 2 decide but there is no point in marrying this man if u dont love him now is there....have u asked ur ex how he feels....how long were u wi ur ex....u need to ask some urself some serious questions....just follow your heart and it will set u free......all the best Colm
2006-12-08 00:18:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your very normal. Your stress levels are running high like crazy right now. Don't read nothing into it but they do say that if your having dreams like that then your not getting enough attention from your present love??
2006-12-08 00:35:41 · answer #8 · answered by wyattj23 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should tell your BF what is going on and allow him the opportunity to leave because I have a feeling that you will probably cheat on him at some stage.
Better to be upfront now.
2006-12-08 00:23:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A dream is a dream and thats it. Its happened to me too a couple times but it passes.
2006-12-08 00:16:09 · answer #10 · answered by korines 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋