Two of my three kids disowned me after I kicked out a freeloading, abuser for six months of Hell.
2006-12-08 00:09:36 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
My kids are over 18 and don't live with me.
2006-12-08 00:10:16 · update #1
You do not give much information about your question, but I will try to understand what your problem is, Is the abuser the father of your kids? or is it someone you were living with? First of all if this guy wasn't providing for you or the household bills, or abusing you physically,I would think you had every right in kicking him out. Now, about your adult kids, they do not have any business in meddling in your private affairs or, try to dictate how you are going to live your life, and with whom. Do not in any circumstances try to explain to them about your private life, You gave them life and for that they should be thankful that they are where they are. If they value you as their Mother, they should abide by your decision and let you live your life as you see fit. Do not worry about them if you do not bother to call them they will eventually come around to see you. Good luck and I hope everything ends well for you.
2006-12-08 01:03:24 · answer #1 · answered by a.vasquez7413@sbcglobal.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your ADULT children can not understand why you would not want to live like that, they are the ones with the problem. Why would they be angry with their parent for kicking out a freeloading abuser? There must be more to it, and if theres not, your Kids need as much help as the freeloading abuser.
2006-12-08 00:12:25 · answer #2 · answered by MommaSchmitt 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should look in the mirror and honestly ask why the children you brought into this world and have raised would choose a a "freeloading, abuser" over you.
2006-12-08 00:13:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who has the abuser there father? if so give them some time. after they realize you were going throw hell they will come around. don't push it to much. Maybe a good thing to go see a concealer to help sort things out for you. good luck.
2006-12-08 00:15:20 · answer #4 · answered by Lara <:(((>< 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call up your kids and tell them you need to meet with all of them about something really important... dont tell them what it is... (going fishing) then when you all get together, talk about whats been bothering each and every one of you. Sounds easy, but its not i know. Usually if everyone can say their piece and listen to Why you did what you did, it usually gets better. good luck.
And dont let time go by, b/c one day it will be too late.
2006-12-08 00:14:44 · answer #5 · answered by yo mama 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even at your children's ages they don't understand why parents do what they do. Prove to your children that you are happier now & made the right choice for yourself. Good luck & good job for kicking that person to the curb your better than that.
2006-12-08 00:14:23 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's hard to say, since we've only heard your side of the story, and not enough to draw any conclusion. I'm not convinced at this point, however, that butter wouldn't melt in your mouth, despite what faults your husband had (if he even was your husband).
2006-12-08 00:11:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
your kids must not support your decision. good job for kicking him out. your kids will have to see that you did what was best for you, if they can't see that then that is their problem.
2006-12-08 00:18:05 · answer #8 · answered by odd622 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
THEY WILL COME AROUND AND THERE HAS TO BE MORE TO THIS SITUATION FOR KIDS TO DO THAT...
2006-12-08 00:12:47 · answer #9 · answered by shannon c 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋