what do u think?

Question

People tell me, when u r 27 yrs old and married, yet the marriage is so boring, no outings, nothing special, everything is the same thing always, hubby not romantic at all, doesnt beleive in birthdays and valentine, has never bought you a gift, has never said i love u,

i feel bored, unappreciated and uloved, yet i meet people who are intruged by me and who wud love to date me, but i cannot do this coz i will be unfaithful to hubby.
is it bad to wonna feel liek going out with these people or?

Answer 1

It's sad that you are so young, and you feel the marriage is boring and unromantic. Of course you feel bored and unappreciated and you feel that there should be more to life and your marriage. I would, too.
I wouldn't give up, just yet. Do you love him? Do you have kids?
If so, there is alot to consider before making any decisions about what to do next.
You should tell him that you want to talk, then discuss these things with him. Maybe when he knows how you feel, he'll try to change, if he loves you. If you get the feeling after that, that nothing has improved, then maybe you'd like to have some social life with friends. Girlfriends...not dates! Just being out, and talking to others can help with the boredom. When your husband sees this, he just may re-consider being a bit more enthusiastic about the marriage.
You are just 27, and marriage is usually for along time, so you have to thoroughly examine your heart, and ask yourself if you can live this way forever? Maybe he just needs to see that there's some life in you, and that you need more. You said you feel "unloved"...so it sounds like you need to spice up your own life, and make him realize that you have needs and want to be loved.
God Bless you and good luck.

Answer 2

It all comes down to communication. You need to make your husband aware of the things you need in a relationship to keep you happy. He isn't a mind reader so be clear about your needs but also be aware that there are things that he may need and want from you in return. Many couples go through a phase where things become mundane and the husband and wife stop "dating" each other. With clear and open communication, you can change that.

You should start doing little things for him and taking him out on occasion too. If he sees how nice it is to be on the receiving end of romance he'd be twice as likely to venture to the giving side. Men love to be wooed too!

It is never a good idea to go outside of your marriage to fix or find the things that your lacking within it. It might seem like a good idea or innocent at the time but it never really is.

Answer 3

Don't listen to what people tell you. You should feel happy that everything is OK and going smooth in your family. Compare to those whose family is on the verge of breaking up and you will feel that you are a lucky one. Don't do something which will make you regret in future.

Answer 4

No, it is not bad to feel this way, but you should tell your husband straight up how you feel and if he hasn't changed, tell him you want to have a trial separation. You could still date other people or what not and if you find that you want to move on with your life, leave him.

Answer 5

Why did you marry this man? Certainly, he did not become this human being over night. Did you not pay attention to who you were marrying? The two of you obviously need to have a talk, you need to express these things to him, before it is to late. Good luck and God bless****

Answer 6

Of course that is fine!! Women are more likely to stray on their husbands because they become dissatisfied easier.

Pursue your needs, wants and desires. It is your responsibility to ensure you have your needs met. Men can not hide behind your commitment if they are inadequate.

Answer 7

Regrets happens always at the end.

Answer 8

should i say you rush into it with considering what will happened later. if you are not happen then divorce to find your happiness