hi all.just recently i have been around people who have attitude problems,smoking,being loud etc and now i have started to act like them.i smoke,i am loud at work,i back chat to people,i swear at my mum.I used to be so nice,i used to be bullied myself and have been thru self harm and anorexia.so why am i suddenly like this? i want to change,please don't get angry as i am ADMITTING i have a problem here and i am NOT going on jeremy kyle either.
2006-12-07 23:43:25 · 11 answers · asked by Jessica D 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
One of the things we humans all have in common is a need to belong to a group. It can be difficult to be yourself, but the good news is that you CAN do it.
You've already overcome the first hurdle.. congratulations! Pat yourself on the back!
Now, the next thing you must do is to make a conscious decision to be the person you want to be... you've developed some habits that will take some time to break, but you will overcome them.
Best wishes to you as you become the fabulous person you want to be!
2006-12-07 23:53:49 · answer #1 · answered by Kallan 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The people we spend time with are the ones we become most like. A change in your social network may be a solution. Find a new group of friends, try volunteering in a nursing home, join an active church ( any denomination) with smaller groups appropriate for you age. Get counselling to help you with the past. I too was bullied but I don't let that influence who I am and how I treat people. We have control over our own actions. There is an old saying what goes around comes around. So if you treat people with respect they will treat you That way. Hope this helps. None of this was said in an angry tone.
2006-12-07 23:56:36 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I think you are very brave, and the first step is realising you have a problem, and the second is wanting to do something about it! So well done, on step two already by yourself, with no help from anyone. This tells me you have the strength of character and self respect to be how you want to be, and not succomb to peer pressure.
You know how you should behave, try that for a while, I bet everyone(esp you) is so much happier you wouldn't ever wanna go back to how you are.
Good luck honey.
2006-12-07 23:47:28 · answer #3 · answered by CHARISMA 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well done for coming this far - it's a big step. If you notice yourself behaving in a way you're not proud of, just bring your attention into your own heart-centre (heart chakra) - it's really calming and a great way to find inner-strength. It will help you to be able to decide what to do next. There are lots of other centering and grounding techniques - loads on the internet.
2006-12-08 00:04:46 · answer #4 · answered by Melanie D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey honey, you seem to be 'easily led'. Maybe it would be best for you to align yourself with people who can be genuine, caring friends to you rather than those with an attitude problem who will drag you down with them. You sound very sweet to me and you realise you are being out of order so maybe now you can take the first step in turning yourself back around, I hope so, be proud of yourself and I think you know you should be good to your mum, she's the only one you will ever have. I hope it all gets better for you, good luck!
2006-12-07 23:50:25 · answer #5 · answered by Flossie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
families are particular complicated, I comprehend your dad and mom in simple terms to correctly. My family individuals is snarled too. persist with your dad and mom needs and your brothers. He would not prefer to be acknowledged as a family individuals member the only component you're able to do is go away him by myself as he has asked. Your dad and mom have for some reason written him out of their lives and that i will inform you one component they maximum probable will in no way tell what befell. Going there may well be to painful to them. there's someone I too do not prefer to be stated as quickly as I die, i don't choose them to even comprehend if my well-being starts to fail i don't evaluate them family individuals. My significant other and daughter is generally happening with why nevertheless is the difference between your loved ones and mine, whether it may well be an incredibly sturdy rationalization to your dad and mom too. If I wasn't in the comparable difficulty i would not probable comprehend them, yet i'm, and that i do. appreciate your dad and mom needs, and enable your siblings see this answer.
2016-12-13 05:05:01 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They are obviously no good for you and you need to make new friends, if that isnt easy then be loud and fun when your out, but when your at home have respect for your parents.
2006-12-07 23:48:37 · answer #7 · answered by scragette2000 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just have to be determined not to do those things. It's all about will power and self control. It won't be easy but you have to keep reminding yourself ALL day EVERY day why you don't want to be that way. You can do it.
2006-12-07 23:47:46 · answer #8 · answered by Kelly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all, you have self awareness. which is good. you're conscious tells you there's something wrong at what you do.
now you have to make a choice: change or stay the same
read more motivation books and self-help books
2006-12-08 00:09:03 · answer #9 · answered by Paladin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow you're brave girl.just don't hang around with people like that,u seem 2 me 2 hav the willpower so from this day forward try your very best to change,it sounds to me like you WANT to so go for it girl.all the best and smile...it confuses people :)
2006-12-07 23:53:50 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋