2006-12-07 23:16:17 · 14 answers · asked by Endless 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
i am staying @ his house we knew that we love each other alot deep in our hearts but its juz some small matters that we quarrelled daily making me mad.Was wondering y i became like dis like to argue with him?Recently,had an abortion and my emotions aren't good.
2006-12-07 23:23:13 · update #1
If the arguments dont end, maybe the relationship should!
2006-12-07 23:38:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anarchy99 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every couple goes through periodic sessions throughout of their relationship in bouts of quarrels. It really boils down to whether there is the feeling there to keep the relationship together.
To stop, dun make every quarrel session into a shouting match. Most people make no sense when their angry and end up having lost of miscommunication and words that cannot be taken back.
Its up to you to decide if you think the relationship is worth it. If it is, be the first to back off. No use trying to proof you are right if the quarrel is not getting anywhere. Just give each other time to cool off and then get together. If he wants to act like a fool and keep shouting, let him be the idiot. Dosent matter if the problem needs to be resolved immediately. When both are angry, nothing can be resolved in a short time and certain issues are just there when you are angry, not because it is really exists. Just relax and talk.
If you already tried the above, and he is still the idiot. Then let him go. Not worth multiple tries.
2006-12-07 23:24:18 · answer #2 · answered by Bomberman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could spend time and effort finding out your underlining issue within the relationship. But life is to short for that. There are Billions of people in the world, find one that makes you happy. If you force yourself to feel the pain of being alone "getting rid of a boyfriend who is not healthy for you" you will learn that you do not have to have anyone therefor you will learn exactly what you want and not settle!
2006-12-07 23:22:23 · answer #3 · answered by lifeis2short30 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's probably the aftermath of the abortion. Subconsciously, you could be blaming him for the abortion. You need to reconcile on this otherwise your relationship isn't going to progress positively.
2006-12-07 23:44:40 · answer #4 · answered by citrusy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suppose that depends on what you are quarreling over, wouldn't you say? To put it in general terms: compromise, understanding and trust are what you need.
2006-12-07 23:18:07 · answer #5 · answered by DJL2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it does depend on what you are arguing about, but never the less, you should seek counseling if you are serious about your relationship, that is both of you need to go, if he does not want to go and refuse to work with you on this then it might be for your best interest to move on Hun, be smart and keep yourself safe, physically and mentally
2006-12-07 23:22:54 · answer #6 · answered by jryan1957 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If yous fight over little things, just try to overlook some things that you know will cause an argument. If yous fight too often, or there is way too many things that you can't overlook then maybe he isn't the one for you.
2006-12-07 23:20:50 · answer #7 · answered by Nikki 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the answer is with you
you should try and find out what causes the quarrels
2006-12-07 23:20:47 · answer #8 · answered by frandy4u 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
is it worth fighting for the relationship? if you are fighting so much now, how will it be at a later stage? Do what you know is the right thing for yourself.
2006-12-07 23:18:46 · answer #9 · answered by Sweetie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you probably love this guy til death, so...
I say make him be willing to talk to you about all of the problems you are having with him, and the same for him.
as long as you talk it out im sure it will work.
2006-12-07 23:19:50 · answer #10 · answered by ThisSongsForYou 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋