Any suggestions on how to fight a depression over the holidays. I lost my father and brother when I was 14 and ever since, each holiday I get very sad and mopey. A lot plays into it now, with dissatisfaction with my current living situation, melancholy over Christmas songs, and a mad rush of the season. Any ideas on how to shake the gloom would be most appreciated.
2006-12-07 22:20:32 · 9 answers · asked by Arlene06 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Holidays ➔ Other - Holidays
My current living situation is a marriage I'm not happy to be in with a very dominating spouse who runs the holidays the way his family always did it with little consideration to any of my childhood tradtitions. Makes my loss seem more keen that I can't even have the Christmas Eve we had when I was a child without a fight because it has to be his way. And I hate Oyster Stew!
2006-12-09 23:31:20 · update #1
I think most adults have this problem one way or another, even if they don't have your memories. The problem is we feel so much pressure to be happy and our expectations are higher than we can usually meet. In your case, I'd visit your father' and brother's graves during the holidays Talk to them. I think it's easier to mourn, if you can admit you're mourning. Then, try to resist the internal pressure to do too much and wear yourself out. Play some games with the kids. Go to a caroling concert. Play some carols on the guitar. Write to your friends. Make hot chocolate for yourself and the kids on cold winter afternoons. Sleep late. Believe that others care about you, because they do.
2006-12-08 07:39:38 · answer #1 · answered by AnOrdinaryGuy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, first step is to not feel it. Then comes the distraction. That sounds too simple for me, so I'll explain. All right, you look around you, and it is that time of year, no matter where you are at, you know what you lost. Well, you have to accept the lose, embrace it, all so that you can control it. That is only half the step, the next is the distraction. I usually take up a hobby, or I read something interesting, but friends are the best way, but not the usual run of friends. You have to make a new one and make it exciting. go to a new hangout, and don't be afraid to have fun. I wouldn't suggest a completely out of the way hangout, you'd want to go to a place where it is likely that someone you recognize hangs out.
Then the rest is simple, hang out!
Develope the friendship, and don't forget your other firends, they will see the good mood you are having, and they will be more friendly with you, feel confidence.
Good luck,
Scott and Friends.
2006-12-07 22:27:41 · answer #2 · answered by Scott and Friends 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So what is the dissatisfaction over the current living situation if I might ask? (If you don't want to type it here,.. email is fine)
But That certainly might be palying into this..
I am sorry for your loss btw, I know its hard to lose people you care about.
I would suggest sharing the time with the rest of your family and friends this holiday season, and look for all the good things in life instead of focusing on the bad.
2006-12-07 22:38:40 · answer #3 · answered by Z 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is always difficult when you lose a loved one, especially at this time of the year, you will never forget them but believe me the pain will lessen, time is a great healer.
I lost both my father and mother within 6 months of each other and i think of them every day, it is not so painful now but it still hurts at times, a favorite song, a poem or a film can still make me sad.
Think what they would have wanted you to do with your life and do it, make them proud of you and in doing this it will help.
Hang in there, i promise it will get better.
2006-12-07 22:28:26 · answer #4 · answered by Bladerunner (Dave) 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Church, Salvation Army, Soup kitchens, Marine Corps League, Nursing Homes, Hospitals could use volunteers at Christmas time. think of others and by bringing joy to them you gain more for yourself.
2006-12-08 01:05:21 · answer #5 · answered by Marvin R 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
many people forget the true meaning of celebrating
Christmas, CHRIST . Try to remember the true meaning of CHRISTmas & know that God cares about you.
Try to be w/ a good friend if you can & know that even
though your Father & brother are not w/ you they would
want for you to be happy . (sorry to hear about the loss)
2006-12-07 22:34:24 · answer #6 · answered by start 6-22-06 summer time Mom 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
xmas blues seem to be quite common dont they? this year im in sweden with my bf and so therfore over the otherside of the world from my family in australia. nice one
2006-12-07 22:30:46 · answer #7 · answered by Euro 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lexapro.
2006-12-07 22:25:33 · answer #8 · answered by adrianne 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
keep busy.. hang out with as many people as you can..
2006-12-07 22:24:57 · answer #9 · answered by LokoLobo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋