2006-12-07 21:18:18 · 12 answers · asked by montumanish 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You should never choose something you love so much. You should get both. Talk to your parents and ur wife and find a middle path, that will help forget the past and start a new future. Hey I'm a daughter-in-law and live in a joint family, and there are some disadvantage but there are also the big advantage of family's love and togetherness.
2006-12-07 21:30:29 · answer #1 · answered by Hrushali 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can afford rent 2 small apartments side by side. Your wife may do the cooking for all of you if your mother is too old or sick. Make sure both the parties have space and dont have to bear the presence of each other all the time. This will solve your problem.
2006-12-08 05:49:39 · answer #2 · answered by rams 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
see that you clearly allocate duties and do not allow your wife to interact with parents for quite some time--too much of interaction-- may be extremely friendly in the beginning- will give rise to friction. generally women are potential trouble- makers-- their emotional thinking and possessiveness cause a number of problems. another area is the kitchen where trouble starts. let two people never work together in the kitchen - clear allocation of duties is needed. you take decisions if any' or allow father to take the position of authority --NOT your mother. try and have a good understanding with your father
2006-12-08 05:36:16 · answer #3 · answered by artqueen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh dear,
Such situations are tough ones and the its a difficult call to make. But you have to decide. Have you tried solving the problems between your wife and parents? But am sure both will be right in their own ways. In such cases it's better to move out and buy a house close by so that you can visit your parents often.
But before you move out speak to your parents and tell them that this was one of the toughest decisions you have made. And to maintain peace in the family you have decided to move out. Your parents will be very hurt but you have to convince them and make them understand.
Good Luck & God Bless
2006-12-08 05:31:55 · answer #4 · answered by Blueberry 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your future is with wife. You can not antagonise your parents too, you have to find a via media depending on your situation. Depending on the gravity of the situation you can compromise with you r wife that she doesn't meet your parents and you don't meet her's.
2006-12-08 05:21:22 · answer #5 · answered by Meeto 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just go into a new house in a walkable distance to your parents' house. Its not advisible to stay in a joint family these days. yaar your parents also need some privacy. so do your wife. understand and act now.
2006-12-08 05:23:56 · answer #6 · answered by sona_d 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask them to sort their matters out within them. don't come in between their arguments otherwise you'll be a sandwich ;-). On a serious note if you care for them all then tell them that if they also love you equally then they should stop dragging you into their fights. Also separately listen to both of them as they should feel heard but don't take decisions for them or side any one of them.
2006-12-11 05:19:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First priority to wife and then parents. Tell yoyr parents to adjust with your wife and ask them to help her in all the works at home. Tell your wife you have to stay with your parents and it is must. she will listen.
2006-12-08 05:30:46 · answer #8 · answered by lan 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well let them hav separate timings for all things at home...save up then move out-ask ur wife to get a job...then u can earn better to leave sooner!
2006-12-08 05:52:09 · answer #9 · answered by El-rene 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sona_d and rams .. great answers. those who say wife first or parents first are totally screwed up.
2006-12-10 01:46:03 · answer #10 · answered by hepsi_babe_23 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋