Everyone walks around thinking that they are entitled to any and everything they want without earning it. Where did this come from? Nice answers only please. I only want honest, open and fun discussion, thanks!
2006-12-07 21:17:24 · 5 answers · asked by Dawn 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
it's a generational thing... as generations grow up with hardships, they tend to shelter their own children from facing the same hardships. When you get a kid that gets everything they've ever wanted from their parents, they tend to grow into an adult believing the same. Look at the wealthy people, for as long as you can remember, they have always had a sense of entitlement, this comes along with always getting what they want. Even schools are getting involved, now any child can play on a sports team, whether they are good or not, to promote self esteem and to be fair. The kids now are not learning how to deal with rejection, they are far less creative (they don't have to use old cardboard boxes as houses, cars, etc.) they get whatever toys they want, and they spend far less time outside with their friends. Unfortunately it seems that it is only going to get worse from here.
2006-12-07 21:25:39 · answer #1 · answered by Michele A 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first thing that comes to mind is spoiled children. I was an only child and the youngest in my entire family by at least 10 years. Everyone gave me everything I wanted and I didn't have to follow many rules. If I broke a rule, I wasn't punished. If I was punished, I threw a fit and tortured my mom. When I got older, I told my mom to "f*** off" and I wouldn't listen to her. Now, I'm almost 30 and though I feel really bad about what I put her through, I still have a hard time accepting things when I don't 'get my way'. I get really angry and hold grudges against people that keep me from getting what I want. The funny part is that I hate people who act like I do! I at least try not to be obvious that I'm brat because it's really embarrassing. I don't 'act out' in public or take it out on innocent people. But I still feel like a spoiled child inside.
*I'm actually not sure if my family can be blamed because I threw horrible tantrums no matter how hard they tried. I became a violent teen who still threw tantrums. I remember feeling angry as a toddler and I don't know where the anger came from. I was definately not neglected or abused.
2006-12-08 05:34:57 · answer #2 · answered by Pico 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A total lack of parental involvement when the child is between 1 year old and 5 years old. When the parent(s) should have been setting and enforcing limits, they indulged the child. Instead of saying "NO!" and meaning it, they let the child have their way. Now that they child is older, they have no sense of boundaries -- nothing is off-limits in their world. They can have anything they want because that's the way it's always been. As they grow up and become adults, they don't mature beyond this mind-set. It's very much like their brains are stuck at 2 years old and their body has grown-up.
Now, if you can find a way to undo this, I would be interested in it for my step-daughter. They mother was and is totally uninvolved in her daughter's lives, these two girls practically raised themselves. The younger one (now 11) has lived with hubby and me for the last 2 years. Prior to that she lived with her mother, and the mother allowed my husband very limited contact with the girls. My step-daughter doesn't understand limits or boundaries at all. If she sees something at home, at Grandma's at the store ... then it's hers to use, sell or trade. If she gets caught with things her father or I didn't buy for her ... then it was somebody else fault or she "found" it. If she gets caught lying ... she's always got another lie to try to cover the first one. She doesn't connect the dots between her choices (like stealing) and the consequences for her actions (like getting caught). She has zero respect for the rules of our home or the laws outside our home. She has yet to take responsibility for any of her actions. It is a constant battle to keep her on the "straight and narrow", and I feel like we're losing the war. I hope she reaches 18 before she ends up in jail and my hubby feels like he "screwed up".
2006-12-08 05:29:12 · answer #3 · answered by kc_warpaint 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lack of emotional maturity and the desire media and advertising puts in people's hearts and minds.
2006-12-08 05:18:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's a common prob nowdays, it's a bit like window shopping in an expensive shop, you like what you see but you wish you had it.
2006-12-08 05:20:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋