Me and my Husband have been together for almost for 4 years married for almost 2 months i thought that his mother was as sweet as she wanna be because i lived in cali he lived im memphis i moved to memphis 6 moths ago i came down to help his mother with her with her bed ridden mother i felt bad that she "didnt have any one to help her" so i left everything in cali my car EVERYTHING to move down there and help i moved in with her and unknown to me she was talkin real bad about me and my 2 kids spreading rumors and i was puttin at least 3 hundred dollors worth of groceries in hour house cookin everyday for free she spread the most ridiculous rumors i mean crazy that i had crabs lmao i was cheating and all kinds of devious wierd thing i think she has some real bad spirits i try so hard to forgive her but i really want to hate here sometimes its not bad now because we love on our own and i dont have to answer when she call please give me some advice on how to cope
2006-12-07 21:14:18 · 16 answers · asked by sweet_sensation1_2000 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
wow what an ungrateful b*i*t*c*h!
I wouldnt do another thing for that woman!
Secondly, who ever is running and telling you all those things, to me is just as bad as the mother in law! Tell them you dont wanna hear it!
2006-12-08 02:08:34 · answer #1 · answered by Lace 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would confront her, ask her why she is spreading rumors about you like a high school kid. Obviously, you went out of your way to help her and it's really hateful of her. If you don't feel comfortable, ask your husband to talk to her. Odds are you will never get along because some people are just really hateful for their own reasons, but it doesn't mean you have to allow yourself to be bullied. The next time you hear a rumor about yourself, tell your MIL where you heard it and ask her why she would say that.
2006-12-07 21:18:16 · answer #2 · answered by ashley b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did she call for help or this was given without permission? You need to understand that you invaded her space and broth insecurity in her life. Also, that she still the mother of the man you love. Remember that "she made him the way he is" and good enough to be loved by you. So, she can not be so this bad. Live a part, not in her house. Do for her what you like others do for you. The most important: do not pay attention to gossip. A lot of time, people want your sympathy and exaggerated thinks to be appreciated. If someone start, cut off and tell" I will keep the good and you will keep the garbage for you".
Sorry for my poor English.
2006-12-07 21:30:51 · answer #3 · answered by tereza g 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I could confront her, ask her why she is spreading rumors approximately you prefer a prime college child. Obviously, you went from your method to aid her and it is rather hateful of her. If you do not consider relaxed, ask your husband to speak to her. Odds are you'll in no way get alongside in view that a few persons are simply rather hateful for his or her possess explanations, nevertheless it does not imply you have got to permit your self to be bullied. The subsequent time you listen a rumor approximately your self, inform your MIL wherein you heard it and ask her why she could say that.
2016-09-03 10:26:54 · answer #4 · answered by kernan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Help grams not the mother in law. Confront mother-in-law about the rumors; and get dates of when rumors are being told. If she wants to be a pain about it then have nothing to do with her.
2006-12-07 22:49:40 · answer #5 · answered by Drojan W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
most mother-in-laws can be that way.my ex husband's mom was a total ***** and treated him like crap,and he took it. she was always asking us for money and we were just starting out as a family with newborn twins and we were strugglin our own selves. i finally had enough and told her off and what i thought. and if she wanted to call my house or come over she better get an attiude adjustment real fast. i knew she was bad mouthin me too.but after that she was really nice or i told her off again. i felt alot better and u know what some mother-in-laws r always goin to be a *****,no matter how good of a person,mother, and wife you r aslong as u and your hubbie r happy that is what really matters. and he should stick up for u,because her abuse can put stress on your realationship with him
2006-12-07 21:21:57 · answer #6 · answered by jennafurluv27 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only way to stop her behavior is confront her and tell her to stop. I had the same problem last year with my mother in law and finally told her off and she has stepped back and been ok since then. Good luck
2006-12-07 22:19:48 · answer #7 · answered by kelsey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you took her boy she now has to compete for his attention thats why shes doing all that caus she feels obscelete
try and involve her with the family make her feel like ab important person with a role and hopefully it will stop all those rumors im sure your husband knows her pretty well so i wouldnt worry about weather or not he believes it
good luck..
2006-12-07 21:19:15 · answer #8 · answered by Bazil 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move out of her house, get your own place, tell her to kiss your rear end, and stop helping her. Why is your husband not addressing this horrible issue with his own mother? You don't have to put up with this garbage out of her.
2006-12-07 21:35:57 · answer #9 · answered by slick chik 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you confront her be prepared for her to lie. They never admit to doing anything wrong. happened to me. Or they have a reason for telling people things. First I would move out, then I wouldn't bother to help her w/ anything anymore. period
2006-12-07 21:49:43 · answer #10 · answered by uknowme 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋