but what about when he loses his erection and after exhausting himself gives up, where does that leave me? The women understand how humiliating this can be, he says it's not you, but you can't help but feel responsible in some way, hell, obviously something wasn't good enough. This is something we all put up with and pretend doesn't matter, but when it happens every other time you have sex and you only have sex once a week.....this is too bloody much. Why do they always have to "perform" and not "participate"? And it would be really nice if they would bloody well be honest about why it happened maybe we'd be better equipped to deal with it next time, because let's face it, we can control how the sex is with a man. We participate, it's great, we don't and it's not. A little insight there....hmmm
2006-12-07 21:03:01 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It is you again! Find yourself another man! Somebody who would be sensitive to your needs.Call me! LOL
Now it is quite clear where you are heading. Men like these should be dealt with properly-they are selfish-plain and simple!
When I said,men like to be heroes, I meant that we love to think that I got you aroused and satisfied with the act. Now it seems that it is a one way street-he comes and you say it is good! All the time?! That is way too much!
There's no use pretending there. Your man has a problem and you have to try to be the aggressive one. Play that he is sick and invalid and cannot move and you do your thing -stay on top and make yourself come first,then tell him how does that feel?LOL
I mean you have to be in control and make him feel really good. Guide his hands to where you want it and ask questions if you are making him feel good all the time. He SHOULD participate. This is something that you both should enjoy.You are not a whore that he will just bang all the time w/o getting anything in return.Right?
I am wondering why do you do it only once a week? You are heading for splitsville coz that figure is only for people who have been married for twenty plus years.It is not you,my dear,it is my arthritis!LOL
2006-12-07 21:21:46 · answer #1 · answered by wolfass 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's happened to me and as far as I'm concerned, it is a product of not being prepared. Either I was trying to please her and wasn't really "in the mood" or had something on my mind, or didn't feel like she was into it as much as I was. Either way, my penis usually has a mind of it's own. If you can get his attention, he'll be at attention. It's that simple.
When that happens to you guys next time, instead of ignoring the issue or forcing the moment, try a simple thing like relaxing and enjoying the love you share and have sex without intercourse. Sometimes that is even more pleasurable.
2006-12-08 05:20:24 · answer #2 · answered by Concerned parent 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
From reading this and your other question, it seems you are a selfish, narcassistic, self-centered piece of shlt. And if I was your husband, I would want to have an erection either. Your attitude is a complete turn-off. I think he is saving his good erections for other women. I hope he wises up and leaves your sorry-@ss. Grow up.
2006-12-08 05:22:47 · answer #3 · answered by Lothario 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I suspect he has no idea why it happens, so how can he share it with you?
He should be seeing a doctor. This is a medical problem, not one that either of you should be feeling guilt over.
2006-12-08 15:41:13 · answer #4 · answered by kheserthorpe 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it could be blood pressure or signs of a other serious health problems and nothing to do with you,or he could just be disintrested,either way you need to get him to the doc for a physical,msg me if you need to talk
2006-12-08 05:29:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you're talking his d!ck down.
2006-12-08 10:35:52 · answer #6 · answered by L Jeezy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋