If someone cheats you for money and that experiene haunts you, what is best way to recover from it?

Question

Someone's got me into a legal agreement for a service and by concealing some details about the service and now I am not too very happy with his service. The money I paid was a huge one and I feel like cheated

I have been overwhelmed by the number of answers I got so far, Many thanks for everyone for their answers as I still keep looking for new answers. There surely are more good people in this world than bad people and that makes this world still livable. As for some more details the huge sum of money was equivalent to my 2 months of income in my own country which is India.

Answer 1

Sue them. Stand up to their Illegal behavior, if possible.
Misrepresentation is Illegal. If you think you can prove this person was misleading or lied, I'd talk to a lawyer. Most Lawyers will allow you to give a brief summary of your situation for free, then together, you both can determine if there is a case, and if it is wise to proceed. Even a policeman, lawyer, doctor or judge may be untrustworthy. Most are trustworthy, but occasionally one slips through the cracks. So also as well, be careful in choosing a lawyer.
If you don't have a case, learn from your mistake. Yes,"Your". You allowed this person to mislead you. Trust is earned, not freely given. By agreeing to the deal without researching all the facts, you allowed this sales person to pull the wool over your eyes. Unscrupulous sales people are very prevalent. Remember that old saying, "Buyer Beware".
Then ask yourself. How do people learn?
Answer: by making mistakes, remembering the experience, and not doing it again. This means doing your homework before handing someone a big chunk of change. Always wait a few days before making a major purchase so you have time to reflect on your own reason for making the purchase, research the company, product, service, warranty, etc.... If the company is reputable they will want you to do so. If they push push push to sign up now now now there's something not right. High Pressure sales as it's called, is where they get you so wrapped up in their spiel you keep saying yes over and over until you've said yes to the deal. This may or not be your case, but be informed before you hand over the money, or sign the papers. Just remember, visualise, or get the stack of money, and look at it before you sign, and ask yourself, Is it worth it? do I really want, or need to part with this much money?
Lastly, if you end up with no way to sue, then as above learn.
Next, forgive. Being mad, or resentful at something you can't change only hurts yourself, emotionally and mentally, and most important, forgive yourself. Making a bad decision is something that happens in life, If we dwell on it, the resulting feelings are harmful. You were uninformed and unaware, Kick yourself emotionally once or twice for being a fool, we all are from time to time. Then let the self resentment go. Do your best to separate the facts from the feelings, in time you will remember the event, but the feelings of the situation will be less intense. Don't forgive and forget, forgive and remember, this way you won't have to learn this lesson over again.

Answer 2

Well I don't know what you paid the money for, but if you signed an agreement and weren't aware of all the facts I suggest you seek advice. A good place to start would be Citizens Advice Bureau. They usually have a list of solicitors that give free advice (usually half an hour). If you have already seen a solicitor and they have told you there is nothing you can do, then you will obviously feel cheated. I think that people who hoodwink others into thinking they are getting something which they are not, never prosper. They will nearly always come unstuck at some point in their life. Just make sure you are around when it happens. It won't help you in the short term, but it may give you some comfort in the long run. Good luck and I hope things work out for you.

Answer 3

1. This is the way of ordinary life which we all live. See yourself , are you not selfish ! Are you not making situation in your favour and not thinking for other who has suffered from your selfish act !
2. Life is based on give &take , so this time you have been cheated by other , next time you will certainly cheat other , so do not worry , celebrate this cheating with your friend.
3.If you understand & act as above I am 100% confident that you will be recovered from this pain.

Answer 4

If you believe that you were cheated, consider discussing this with an attorney. You may be able to get your money back through legal means. As for emotionally coping with your righteous anger, direct it into a stern, serious, clear-headed review of what happened . . .exactly . . . what YOU did that contributed to the offense, and what about you need to change about yourself or your world so that you are a stronger person who will be less likely to be victimized again. In this case, I would direct my anger into 1) separating the goodness of trust and the goodness of caution, 2) a conviction to read every contract CAREFULLY and then to do the mature, thorough effort of UNDERSTANDING every single thing about whatever I ever signed again. I would also, to reinforce my learning, would review with the same acuity and clarity every single previous contract or legal document I had so that I begin to feel more competent and confident about my ability to conduct adult affairs of business, and 3) I would further investigate this man, his previous business activities and reputation. I would ask my banker about him and the police. I would want to know his weaknesses for future reference.

Answer 5

I was cheated out of a large sum of money by a "so called friend" years ago. I have tried to move forward with my life, thinking that eventually this person will have their comeuppance soon or later. Karma is a thing that has taught me to forget and move on. I had a lesson to learn, and he had one to teach. Next time round it will be his turn I hope.
Good luck, the only positive thing that comes out of this type of experience is that it makes you very wary of others and more careful in the future.

Answer 6

Well it depends what contract it was, if you are not happy because they did not tell you all the details, then you need to oppose the contract. If you are talking of a phone contract, then contact them and ask to speak to the highest manager in the place (this may take about an hour) and say that the contract you entered into was not the one that is listed, therefore making the contract nill and void. contact me if you would like to tell me some more, maybe I could help.

Answer 7

Try the CAB. Also many solicitors offer a free legal advice service. that may help.

Answer 8

I was cheated out of 25% of my net worth by my best friend some years ago.
In my experience, every dollar you are cheated out of, comes back to you tenfold in a few years.
Just don't make getting cheated a habit :-).

Answer 9

If crucial details were concealed from you,you should take legal advice.

Answer 10

read the smallprint : there should be a time limit stated for you to cancel your agreement and get your money back