Me and my partner are a young, loving couple, we keep our selves to ourselves, we are not outragiously camp and we abide by the law! So why is it that so many people feel the need to abuse us when we are mearly living our lives in peace?
2006-12-07 20:52:26 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Homophobia...ignorance..people are cruel..its that simple !!
2006-12-07 20:57:11 · answer #1 · answered by dadacoolone 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Our society has a long way to go my friend. I am gay an live in a NW rural Pennsylvania community. I hosted very large parties here with gays and lesbians coming in from 3 states. We never had any problems BUT I know what people thought. I think we can gain strength by letting it roll off your shoulders and maintain personal strength. I am 33 and have learned to endure a great deal. I was a police OIC in a small conservitive community. It was very difficult. Tv programs such as Queer as folk, didnt help the cause either. It made us out to be lust and drug using weirdos which most of us are not. My partner lives and works 7 hours away and we have difficulty seeing each other. We stanbd together though. I hope the best for you and your partner and may God bless you
2006-12-08 06:53:01 · answer #2 · answered by punxsyparty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because many straight men (and women) somehow do not want to believe that gay people are just like them, so in their eyes you confound and confuse them when you don't fit the stereotypes.
The camp guys are easy targets in their own way.... but they're also 'safe' as they don't stop on the 'straight world's' toes too much. But you, you're more dangerous and powerful in a way because you're saying "I'm different, but I'm also the same as you and I deserve the same respect and dignity as you do." Many women are in the same position when they try careers in the 'male world.'
Of course, somehow they can't wrap their redneck, white trash, overpriveleged heads around this simple concept and small penis syndrome rants ensue. You're a bit different but mostly the same. Huh? You're an enigma to them! They might even insist you're girly when you're not, right? All because they refuse to understand. They don't GET that the only thing being gay means is that you're well, gay. It has nothing to do with masculinity or femininity. They're only seeing what they want to see.
But, take pity on those people. Think of all the life energy they've wasted focusing on something that isn't any of their business. Those people might not have much of a life, hmm?
2006-12-08 05:17:01 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
2 reasons I'm aware of.
1. there is a minority of gays who push it too far with thier lifestyle, and it get's bloody irritating, and hey !.... you get tarred wth the same brush.... But then I know several pagans and vegans who are the same and feel the same way about people who abuse them, But they (the vegans etc) feel the need to mention thier diet, belief or sexual preferance about once every fifteen minutes.... Hey ! I never tell anyone I'm am onmivore, or a crossdresser... and frankly it get's boring hearing about it.
2. People in general are "average man" they read the sun, drive a 4x4 and resort to aggression about once every 12 seconds. Ignore them. it's not thier fault they can not think, they were born that way. All you can do is remember youre in the minority, keep your head down and ignore them.
2006-12-09 14:43:05 · answer #4 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because mainstream society is too narrowminded and self centered to allow people to be different. they fear what is not "normmal" in their eyes and feel they need to ridicule and persecute those that are different. belive me i know i am a cd and i have run into some very mean spirited and downright rude people. you just have to ignore these jerks and remeber that not everyone is like that. and eventually the more of us "different " people there are around the less un normal it will seem. its not gonna happen overnight, but in time attitudes will change. just think of how much they already have, it seems at times like nothing has changed . but if you think back to a time just 50 years ago gay peopel didn't come out.and cd stayed behind closed doors so no one would know their secrets.
2006-12-08 10:34:35 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you might have phrased you question differently.
Some people (many people) still have problems with homosexual relationships and although you may think you and your partner are not camp, there are signals which make your sexuality clear to others. I'm a heterosexual female. I have a lot of female friends, but if we're in a restaurant together, I don't feel it necessary to make it obvious that I'm heterosexual.
Acceptance takes time. Sometimes I think that people who are violently against homosexual relationships are not altogether at ease with their own sexuality.
Last Christmas Eve my heterosexual daughter and I met up with a young woman, whose mother, a good friend, had told the world that her daughter was lesbian. This didn't stop my daughter saying to me, 'She's a very attractive young woman.' Which , it has to be said, she is.
There's no clear answer, but I wish you and your partner all the best.
2006-12-08 05:13:32 · answer #6 · answered by cymry3jones 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Because they are bigots that is why. Try not to rise to them and carry on being happy with your partner. Obviously if you are openly affectionate in public, you will get more abuse. But that has to be your choice, there are arguments for and against this.
But you have what a lot of people don't, and that is a happy relationship, so just enjoy it, and metaphorically stick 2 fingers up to the rest of the world.
Good luck x
2006-12-08 04:57:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
I agree, some people are morons. I'm 100% hetero but don't have a problem with homosexuals at all. In fact I have three girlfriends and have never questioned my sexuality at all (morals? now that's a completely different question!). I think some people are worried that if they are friendly - or to put it another way - not abusive - to gays then that means they must also gay, a scary thought if you're not very bright. Anyway, take care.
2006-12-08 04:58:44 · answer #8 · answered by A True Gentleman 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
People are afraid of something that's different I imagine.
When someone outed my in my home town there was one occasion where I was walking to work and a friend of mine (who I knew knew about me) crossed the road and carried on walking.
Goes to show who your so called friends are.
Now that I'm older I just think people like that are not worth my concern.
2006-12-08 06:53:46 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is sad isn't it but i do think it is becoming more acceptable to live as a gay couple, there are always going to be some idiots who think its big to be cruel to people who are diffrent to them, its like mixed relationships years ago, people could not walk down the street without someone shouting something at them, (i have had it as my daughter is mixed race and i'm now in a relationship with a woman!!) now its loads more excepted, there will always be someone who does not like what you do, but hold your head up high and ignore them,
2006-12-08 06:20:55 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think its because other men find it a threat to them, i suppose they just don't like to see it, which is fare enough! shallow minded people, they have obviously got nothing better to do than worry about other peoples sexuality, if i was you, i would learn to ignore it, because thes sought of people will always be around!
i will admit, when i say a couple of the same sex, i looks strange to you because its not something you see every 5 minutes, where as you do see the opposite sex togeather more.
its just different , don't worry and enjoy yourself. merry xmas xx
2006-12-08 05:39:08 · answer #11 · answered by sweets 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋