How long is long enough?

Question

I believe in letting people run their own lives and learn at their own pace in their own way, but how long should you give your spouse to realize recognize and attempt to solve a known problem in the relationship, before you declare a times-up! and throw his butt out the door? What if he refuses to even acknowledge there's a problem. I'm told I'm dreaming if I wonder if he's growing apart from me, and this does nothing to assauge my fears that he doesn't love me anymore. It's always something that gets ignored and never fixed and I get more unsure everyday, and very unhappy as well. I need to know one way or another.

Answer 1

i can relate to your dillema,because my wife was like your husband and all I can say is that it takes two to make a relationship work and if one party doesn't reconize there is a problem and doesn't want to change then we have to detach in order to keep our sanity and manage our lives in a healthy way,even though it hurts ,sometimes it is for the best,Good Luck and God Bless

Answer 2

What is the problem? Who throws the garbage on Saturdays? Leave him!He is outta there !LOL

I am a man and I could have shared better if you shared what the problem is,because there are some things that a man can readily face and resolve and then there are things that are left ignored. Why? It is man's nature! We are from MArs.

It is not often that a couple, who lived in the same roof for a long time grow apart. Reality bites they do! It is also not a reason to start thinking who goes out the door first. Communicating well should be the norm. If you have childen get them involved,if there's none try your local church or somebody to mediate-make sure it is somebody who is an authority as far as good marriage is concerned,not a close friend of yours or else he will feel you are just ganging up on him.

It is quite vague to really attack your issues so pray,and keep negative thoughts off your head. Your husband loves you but some men lose their magic in faster than the others. Don't let that make you unhappy. Try to find ways to bring tht magic in your relationship.

Answer 3

It depends on what the problem is.If he's cheating ,then you are a fool to wait ,or try and work things out.If he is in any way abusive to you or (children,if applicable),forever is not long enough.Hopefully it is nothing this severe,but if so,that would be an entirely different category all together,now would'nt it?

Answer 4

Talking is the only answer I can give you. I've been married 29 years and if a problem arises I tell him about it. He isn't a mind reader you need to be very direct men don't take hints very well.

Answer 5

Girl its time you move on with your life. Just tell him you're not happy in the relationship. You know very well what you have to to but sounds like you just need assurance from someone else. Do whats right, what you head tells you to do...it'll hurt, but you'll get over it in no time.

Answer 6

you are needing reasurance. he is comfortable in love, and doesn't tell you. Two symptoms going in opposite directions. Is it that he doesn't love you. Or is is he isn't loving you the way you are needing love right now?

Answer 7

so why don't u tell him the same exactly as u just told to some people who really don't care about u? he is the one u should be talking to asking questions and putting ultimatums

Answer 8

Maybe you should do a test. Break up with him, your unhappy anyway, and if he begs you not to leave, tell him he needs to make it up to you.

Answer 9

You can't change someone else, you can only change yourself. Maybe you need to change your perception about what the difficulty is.

Answer 10

well, address all out standing isues one last time-if it works out,great ! otherwise show him the door.