Is spousal abuse common for women vs men?

Answer 1

were they stolen from their homeland, locked and chained in a boat and sold to the highest bidder?Everyone faces discrimination. And not all black people say the N word. I don't. So, don't use the ignorance of others to try to justify why you should be able to say it too.And, being that there is an actual thing called a "paddy wagon", it would be kind of hard to ban that term.
Does the word paddy really insult you? I have Irish ancestory and don't feel any pain over it. If you want to be insulted than go for it. Sure seems like a waste of LIFE.
are they going to throw you in jail for saying the N word?I admit the N word is horrible, but come on PEOPLE WAKE UP!!to its low rating Hide the Irish also were the main black face actors also. the Irish were still treated better than the blacks, there is no comparison. why do you wanna say the N word? why do y'all hate us so much? we didn't do nothing to y'all. you started it. we just deal with it .♥ You're absolutely right. They call each other the N word & that's OK. How about other ethnic groups? Wops, Kikes, Spics, Wetbacks, Beaners, Krauts, Ragheads, not to mention Crackers? I think it's time to get it all out in the open & deal with it rather than suppress the language. Who says "paddy wagon" anymore?Who said it was o.k. to use the words "paddy wagon", I never heard anyone say it was proper to say those words.It's not proper to use cultural or "racial" slurs about anything or anyone.Everybody knows that. Just like why is it not racist to say you are going Dutch on a date? You are implying your date is cheap, and when you say Gyped..it refers to gypsies ripping you off.Its just ignorance..when people realize that words mean things, maybe the world will be a better place..but for now we have to deal with the whole sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will not hurt me,but I'll sue and get lots of money and say that they did.A paddywagon is a slang word for either a police car, or a police vehicle used to transport large groups of people who have been arrested. The word is of American origin.The precise origin of the term is uncertain and disputed, though its use dates back to at least the 1930s.[1] There are at least three theories as how the phrase originated.[2]The most prevalent theory is based on the term "Paddy" (a common Irish shortening of Patrick), which was used (sometimes as slang) to refer to Irish people.[3] Irishmen made up a large percentage of the officers of early police forces in many American cities. Thus, this theory suggests that the concentration of Irish in the police forces led to the term "paddywagon" being used to describe the vehicles driven by police. An alternative theory is similarly based on the term "Paddy" but states that the term arose due to the number of Irish being arrested for spirited behavior and hauled off in the vehicles.[4] The final theory holds that the name almost certainly originates from the padding used on the inside of police horse-drawn carriages to prevent injury.[5]These vehicles were usually painted black. Archaically in the United States, Ireland and the United Kingdom, a police wagon was also sometimes called a Black Maria (using the archaic pronunciation i.e Mariah). The origin of this term is equally uncertain. The OED lists the first usage as the Boston Evening Traveller from 1847 which mentions them as a new type of wagon. Brewer's Dictionary of Phrase and Fable suggests the name came from Maria Lee, a large and fearsome black madam who the police would call on for help with difficult prisoners. The term is still used today in parts of Britain for the vehicle that transports prisoners from gaol to court, appearing in the song "Guns of Brixton" by The Clash. Frequently, screened-in buses are also used for the same purpose. [1]The term is often used in some areas of Australia,specifically New South Wales[2] and Queensland[3] to refer to a general duties vehicle with a prisoner cage on the back. Australian paddywagons are typically based on small utility vehicles such as the Holden Rodeo or Toyota Hilux. In other areas of Australia the term Divisional Van (or Divvy Van for short) is more common."
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/paddy_wagon.
I've never heard that term, and if its offensive then its not okay to say it. I agree with you. The Irish didn't really want to be here. They had to either come to America, or face starvation. They weren't welcomed with open arms either. Irish people just aren't as uptight as blacks I suppose.
They say it to each other, but cry and whine when white people say it. WDF!!!!! Its not right either way.
And why can they call whites crackers? Same damn thing.
People getting mad cause somebody abused the word for black in another language. I think they all need to grow up and get a life, I hate to say it. It's just words, they're not supposed to hurt remeber.
Everybody is discriminated against one way or another. Just because one person says something wrong doesn't mean you should say somethin back wrong. The n-word is not okay. And if paddy wagon offends you then don't say it either and tell people you hear saying it that you would appreciate them not saying it. But how many people say paddy wagon these days anyway? Can't say I've heard it.
Usage of the "N" word is the biggest social double standard that clearly is ridiculous; it's OK for blacks to use the word amongst themselves---but God forbid they hear whites speak it.
Irish are offended by the spoken term "paddy wagon"???? Maybe such folks should limit their coffee drinking and try decaf.
"Paddy wagon" is a simple term, coined by an prominent Irish police officer in New York, for padded wagon--which was standard police equipment during detaining groups of criminals; I don't find use of the word racially offensive--neither do any of my friends of Irish descent.
Until the new black generation gets that im a victum mentality out of their head it will never go away. I didn't haul them here and I didn't persecute them. I went to school with them and I live in the same town and breath the same air as them. Yet somehow i am supposed to tippy toe around the fact that I talk a certain way and they talk a certain way and my ancestors get blaimed for something that they might or might not have done. I don't see color. What I see is a bunch if whinny @ss's
Nuggah's just like calling each other that,but when a white person says it they get offended just because the person wasnt a nuggah saying it, sort of like a catch 22 situation.
Because the "N" word is applied in a derogatory manner to people.
THE "N" WORD JUST SOUNDS HORRIBLE. DO U THINK IF YOU WERE BLACK U WOULD EVEN BE ASKING SUCH A ??
I AM WHITE AND REALLY COULD CARE LESS IF I HEARD SOMEONE CALL ME A CRACKER FOR EXAMPLE, BUT THE "N" WORD IS DIFFERENT. I JUST FEEL THE REASON PEOPLE SAY IT IS JUST WRONG.
Y IS IT O.K. FOR ONE BLACK TO SAY IT TO ANOTHER? THE SAME REASON YOUR SISTER OR BROTHER OR FRIEND CAN SAY THINGS TO U THAT NO ONE ELSE COULD GET AWAY W/SAYING IT JUST WORKS THAT WAY. WHAT IS THE BIG DEAL ANYWAY DO U LIKE USING THE "N" WORD AND HAVE OFFENDED SOMone?
Why? Do you want to say the N word?
I don't think it's ok for anyone to say anything that negatively depicts a race or a group of people. Everyone needs to get past the superficial things that divide us (skin color, hair color, ethnicity, etc.) and see others as INDIVIDUALS. I do not want to be judged by the actions of others that happen to have the same skin color that I have. Just like you, I'm sure, don't want to have judgements made about you because you may happen to have red hair.
Those terms were created to divide races and to perpetuate racist beliefts. It's time we all (EVERYONE) stop the madness. I can't believe that my son will have to deal with skin color and racial issues when he's ready to face the world in 18 years. It'll be 2024 for God's sake!!
its TOTALLY hippocritical for black ppl to be able to walk around calling each other nyggers and not let anyone else do it. Why not make every race stop using the word? You are living in the past every time you bring up slavery and use the nygger word, why not act civilized instead of making yourself sound like you belong in chains or picking cotton? If you dont want white ppl calling you a nygger then dont use it when you talk ebonics to your "homies". lol. bottom line is that its hippocritical and just keeps the hatred and separation alive. Black people are just sustaining the racial devide by using it and helping keep races segregated when intelligent black people like R. Jackson are doing just the opposite.
YOU ARE ******** STUPID. AND ANYWAY BLACKS DO NOT USE N*GGER, THEY USE N*GGA AND THE WORDS ARE 2 DIFFERENT WORDS. N*GGER WAS USED TO BELITTLE AND STILL IS USED TO BELITTLE BLACK PEOPLE. N*GGA IS USED IN A FRIENDLY MANNER, IT SIMPLY REPLACES THE WORD BRO. AND REMEMBER BLACKS CALL EACH OTHER BRO AS WELL.
It's not OK to insult anyone because they are either African American or Irish American. It's not OK to insult anyone, for that matter. It's just BS how people talk a load of crap about each other.
Why does the "n" word have to be associated with a certain group of color. Isn't it presumpuous to think this? Sometimes the "n" word can mean other things. I personally think the use of the "n" word is rude, derogitory, slang, but I have noticed that people of the african american or black race tend to use it as a terms of endearment towards each other...but yet the caucasian or white person is ridiculed or persucuted for saying it to the other race. It seems that within our own races people can use it as an "endearment term" to mean friend, (in a majorly cool way?)
Now paddy wagon...you have me here...I do not know why it is ok to say paddy wagon.....maybe this term was not used as much? Is paddy wagon an Irish term? It just did not get the negative attention as the "n" word has.
Lets think outside of the box first. While predjudism is real, we can come close to eliminating a lot of it by not "assuming" that the actions of the opposite race are always because of racism. Sometimes people just do or say things within their comfort zone...has nothing to do with being white or black or red or green. It is all about our comfort zone. If I were to go up to 12 black women and call them all the "n" word. I would probably end up very beat up.
If I were to go up to an all white womans group and say the "n" word to all of them...I would probably get wierd looks, maybe ignored...maybe a few odd looks or a few laughs. If a black woman went up to a group of 12 black women and called them all the "n" word..she would be accepted...that would mean friend or "hey there cool person" in his/her comfort zone.
So in a way it has to do with our heritage, color of our skin, etc but it is all about our being in our own comfort zone. We are most comfortable being around people who we are most like, people who we have the most in common with. We like to stay inside the box.
So it is ok for some to say the "n" word...as long as they are within their own group or comfort zone...just as any group of possibly teenage friends of any color can get by with calling the other rude names such as "dog", "retard", "assh****", bit** or biat**. But if we were to go up to our parents and call either of them a "bit**"...I think we might be slapped down. Groups of comfort.
All in all to end this answer.....I think the "n" word is a rude word for anyone to say. I just wonder if the world someday will think outside of the box. Then and only then will we be able to end racism and prejudism...and be able to accept all other people for who they are...then maybe some of these slang words can be either shared by all groups or just be forgotton.
because blacks are special and they can do whatever they please. Everybody should feel sorry for them and feel sensitive to their feelings no matter the circumstances.
afterall blacks are the only ones to face hardship in history. every other race had it pleasant throughout the years of history.
I don't get it Mick? Can't you call a person from Niger a Nigerian, or a group of Nigerians a bunch of Niger's, and what do you call a drunk of Nigerian descent from Ireland, a typical Irish Niger?
In my opinion, there's no difference between the N word or cracker (notice we have to use 'N' for the word but its okay to say cracker). I've never heard anyone call a white person a cracker who actually meant WELL by it. e.g 'hey cracker, nice to see you' and white people don't call each other crackers, its normally black people who call white people crackers unlike blacks who use the "N" word among themselves. I'm white, and Italian and my family has only been in this country for about 53 years. We had nothing to do with slavery, and as italians, in the area i live in, my own grandparents and uncles and aunts were beaten and verbally abused by jews, english police officers, etc. I don't hold anything against any of them.. Those were the times and now its time to get over it. In fact, its time to get over the ignorance of blaming all white people for everything.. aside from getting over it, everyone has to understand that for the most part, most white people accused of making slavery happen aren't even part of the descentents that WERE part of it. Most of us come from southern and eastern europe and had nothing to do with it. Also, black people hunted black people and sold them to white people for money who in turn brought them back to the americas as slaves so if we're gonna put GENERAL blame on white people then EVERYONE should accept blame.
i had fun reading all of those answers!wow... its like reading a short story there is so much!can i help pick the best answer? i'll bring suction cup darts and we can toss one at the screen Haha!Errm. Probably because "paddy wagon" is short for "padded wagon" which is what they use to haul crazy people away?See, the inside is padded so that the special people can't hurt themselves.IRISH RACISM FTW.

Answer 2

Yes it is very common

Answer 3

its very common!

we used to have a couple live at the back of our house, and she used to batter him!!

I remember him coming for help one time pouring with blood!!!

Answer 4

my wife beats me she has emotional problems and she knows I wont hit her back she is on tablets for her mood swings but she still has bad days where she will walk me into a corner and bash me

Answer 5

well most abuses are commin in men then women

Answer 6

yes it is