What specific questions could you ask a man to find out what he really likes sexually...?

Question

without making him feel like he's on the spot, or being nagged about it, like, how can I ask him in man language so he feels in control, what he wants from his women in the bedroom. Is there a way to find out without making him feel threatened or inadequate? I want him to feel comfortable talking about this with me, because I feel if we don't resolve it I will have to leave him and I love him so much. We've been together 5 years, and I'm afraid I'm losing him

Answer 1

hi there you have been with this guy for 5 years and you do not know what pleases him ......ok maybe you took youre time together before it got really serious in the bedroom ......this is easy .....ok woman work on feelings touch smell etc .....stay with me on this it will all make sence ......men on the other hand need visual to stimulate them thats how they work ......so say his favourite colour is red as it is for most men .....then you wear red nightie that is slightly shorter than usual,and the reat will fall into place they have to see things that are happening around them .....and if you are not talking about what you both like .....why dont you start talking about it when you are kissing and then there is no pressure ....if nyou need a couple of drinks first then do that this is a important part of any relationship that you can sort out and anyway if you have been in a relationship for 5 years there has to be something really good about it .....take care of each other xx

Answer 2

You say youve been together 5 years?How ,in all this time have you two not learned how to talk about what you like? This should be easy by now,but maybe he is shy or whatever! It doesn't really matter,you need to take things into your own handsQuestions you can ask...well just ask! I mean while you are into it just suggest different things as you are trying them and watch how he reacts.He may not be able to tell you in words,but if you do something he likes A LOT ,he'll surely let you know with his body and the sounds he makes,Another thing you can try is get a video or an erotic book.Look at these together and again watch for a positive reaction to certain things.This may even help him to open up and talk.Maybe he feels like you won't do the things he likes or wants to explore,so you show him you are ready ,willing and able!

Answer 3

The best love making is when you communicate well to each other. You tell him what to do and guide him where you want and when you want it. It will have an explosive ending-for both of you!
I have made love to so many women and whether she is in control or I am we communicate what we want.And it has worked all the time.

Now a man's inadequacy can be solved by you sometimes faking it,it will take some sacrifice on your part-but hell if you love him you'll do anything,right? Men have this macho feeling that they are superheroes in bed so everytime you finish pretend that he is like the Hulk and you want to try it again. Sooner or later you both will get the hang of it and you'll be sharing liquid flows all the time.

ASk if you must,be a ***** if you have to,loosen your inhibitions and assure him all the time that he is good.Now if he wanders that is man's nature but if he enjoys he will keep coming back for more.

Answer 4

if you cannot come right out and ask him straight up, especially since u have been together for 5yrs,then u two have a promblem.
most men i would think usually tell u what they like. u most being doing something right since u r still together. sex is a major component of a relationship and the both of u need to sit down and talk about what you both like together i'm sure if he loves u too,then he wants to be aware of what pleases u sexually also. not unless he is selfish in the bedroom, and then u need a major sit down talk.

Answer 5

"what can I do to make you happy tonight?"

But seriously, if ya'll have been together for five years and you feel uncomfortable (or he does) talking about what pleases you sexually you need to evaluate the level of intimacy (not sexual) the two of you have. Seems communication outside of bed is lacking, which can have a negative effect on what is going on in between the sheets.

That's quite shocking to me! You both need to be able to openly discuss sex and everything else for that matter, especially to share something so intimate!

Answer 6

Why would he feel intimidated by you asking what he likes? I mean, if you're telling him what YOU want and he feels like he's not been providing it, that's more sensitive.

I don't know. Make a date, tell him he can do absolutely anything he wants with you. Anything. See what he does.

If that doesn't work, try watching porn with him, see what turns him on.

Answer 7

ask him straight- why pretend?
and after 5 years u afraid of him leaving? then there something really wrong-that u still so scared...he definitely aint the one for u....

Answer 8

Hmmm. If u don't know after 5 years, you will never know. Sorry I didn't answer your question, but don't be suprised when he dumps u. sorry to say

Answer 9

if you've been together 5 years he obviously likes you the way you are

Answer 10

not sure but u can try by showing some blue films to him & then observing reaction on each activity