In the last year a lot of my close friends have walked from my life since discovering I am gay. I have developed new relationships with a new close-knit group of friends but I would like to hold onto my relationships with my other friends also. Is this possible?
2006-12-07 20:29:32 · 17 answers · asked by Johnny! 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Thats really tough, Im sorry that has happened to you! People here are saying why would you want them to be ur friend if thats the case but its hard to let go of someone you've known a long time and had close connections with. And heartbreaking that they would react in this manner. I suggest approaching them and try to make them see you were always gay and nothing has really changed. You are just being more honest with them in order to have a closer bond. You ARE the same person as before, you are just trying to be you and they really should support you. I do!! Love you Johnny!!! "The Dyke" hahahaha
2006-12-07 20:48:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
They walked out on you and you want them back? Well, that is noble of you but you need to snap out of it and appreciate the close knit friends you have now. They like you for you and didn't leave you in the dust because you didn't fit their "idea" of normal. The only way you should consider reforging these lost friendships is if the other party makes the first move.
2006-12-07 20:37:56 · answer #2 · answered by Whatev' Yo' 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know it hurts to lose good friends, but honestly, were they really good friends if they rejected you because of your sexual identity? Why in the world would you want to reforge friendships with people who would do something like that? Just give yourself some time to heal from the hurt they caused, and then go out and find real, quality friends.
Rev. Jim Cunningham
GayChristianSurvivors.com
2006-12-08 00:12:29 · answer #3 · answered by hmghosthost 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If people are not bendable and are not able to accept the fact that you are as you are (and there' snother they can do about it), then they were not your friends in the first place.
It's possible with some friends.
They'll come back eventually a few years from now (or months) and be like "Hey, I'm sorry I haven' tbeen able to talk. I realized that I didn't care about your personal preference."
But until then, they're all rediculously stereotypical.
<3
stranger.
2006-12-07 20:33:56 · answer #4 · answered by Stranger 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry to hear this. It is a sad thing. I am 33. I had a great deal of " friends" who walked out. As time went on, I discovered they really werent friends to begin with. It is a difficult thing. As time went on through my life, many of them came back in. It was more apparent when they finally became more comfortable and confident in their own sexuality. I hope the best for you and God bless you and be with you on this difficult journey
2006-12-07 22:46:10 · answer #5 · answered by punxsyparty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No concerns. human beings come and pass. in case you pass experience on my own, make some new acquaintances! possibly you should chat to somebody in a single of your instructions like an elementary smile or remark approximately homework or some thing. As on your different acquaintances, provide it time. shop asserting hi, and faster or later a minimum of considered one of your friends in all likelihood will communicate with you. you should on no account have too lots acquaintances[: good success!
2016-10-17 23:35:16 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey don't even try. I tried so hard and it finally worked. But then I found out they were just being friends to be nice. So save yourself the hurt, and stay with you close friends that you have.
2006-12-08 01:24:09 · answer #7 · answered by jessecolten 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If those people really were your close friends, you wouldn't be asking this question. A close friend wouldn't have walked out of your life like that.
2006-12-07 22:29:38 · answer #8 · answered by Eat At The Y 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well actually you should see the good side of you coming out. It just shows who your "true/real" friends are. If they're really your friends they should accept and love you just because you're you not because of your sexuality. If they're really your friends they will make amends... you don't have to do anything else.
2006-12-07 20:34:03 · answer #9 · answered by sk97us 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry to tell you this. but homosexuality will never be accepted by heterosexual people.They liv in a different world and they are afraid ov anything that might spoil there perfect lives.They refuse to sympathize because they are having so much fun and donte see us segregated people.But still I donte think heteroes giv a damn. They smiled when AIDS was realised.
2006-12-07 20:42:43 · answer #10 · answered by zyp_john 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋