My friend got engaged and fixed marriage within 2 months from now...Her parents selected mate for her..but in India like countries love marriage is v.difficult...In this situation how could she verify the selected person is okay r not to live with?
2006-12-07 20:27:59 · 20 answers · asked by Rjn 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well as long as she is not worried about penis size and butt curvature and such physical things she will eventually start loving him and then become possessive and jealous like all other wife's
2006-12-07 20:32:05 · answer #1 · answered by nice guy 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hi there,
Arranged marriages are still quite common in India. In some very strict communities still the decision of selecting the partner is still left in the hands of the elders who decide the faith of their children. Even if the girl or the boy if they are not happy with their partners they do get married to their partners, its kind of a compromise and the learn to live with it and may be they even start to love their spouse. Sometimes even if they are unhappy with their married life they still continue to live with for the rest of the life.
Than there are arranged marriages where the girl and the boy are not forced into marriage only if they feel compatible than they would agree to it. And ofcouse there are love marriages too. Its not like India is a conservative country who would not accept love marriages.
As far as your friend is concerned you haven't mentioned weather she has been forced to marry someone if yes and she does not have to courage to say no than i guess she will have to get married. But if she is not forced for the marriage and has a say than ask her to say no if she is not interested in the boy.
This is just an outline i have given you. Its not that everything i have said is 100% accurate this is what I feel and what I have seen living in India ... but in Mumbai which is one of the most advanced cities of India.
Good Luck & God Bless
2006-12-07 20:48:25 · answer #2 · answered by Blueberry 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i'm feeling undesirable approximately this yet being an Indian Male i will say that's no longer because of custom ! terrific is to then make certain that He does not drink and you consult with him whilst he's sober that this habit isn't proper. If He nevertheless does not strengthen then i'm particular you will possibly desire to take be counted on your hand and settle on. If acquaintances at the instant are not helping then could be you will possibly desire to even check out that ! with the help of how there are regulations each the place which safeguard such abuses. might God supply your companion information to determine lots Love nevertheless in you for Him.
2016-10-14 06:23:29 · answer #3 · answered by juart 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey there is always arranged married that turned in to love before getting married. All I m saying is that you should trust ur family, but also trust ur guts. Meet the guy, go on dates and all l have to say don't get married until you do fall in love with each other. I did love marriage, which my parents didn't approve, but I'm happy with my husband, so my family started to talk to me again. So the main thing is that you are happy.
2006-12-07 21:35:40 · answer #4 · answered by Hrushali 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all..............good question
Yeah, it is damn bad that in india love marriages r considered crime
I do love my India but this old custom is really bad.
Your parents make u marry a guy who is totally a stranger! I mean u r supposed to spend the whole life with him and what if he turns out to be not-so-good.
Why not let us do the selection!!!
2006-12-07 21:02:08 · answer #5 · answered by jasmine 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As your friend has 2 months time you can seek matrimonial enquiry through some detective agency to make sure the boy is a gentleman.
2006-12-07 23:21:29 · answer #6 · answered by rams 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
SORRY (atleast in india)
there is no fixed funda of getting the right partner
but i would like to advise take as much time before marrige as possible ,and spend most time with your spouse in the meantime .
also dont overreact while being with him/her show the real you
2006-12-08 03:07:34 · answer #7 · answered by antaryami001 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hi Mr RN
u know Wat ... u have been a troubled soul from past 6 months .. u have been through one nose surgery and u have prob with ur eye brow and u want nose correction surgery ... god damn thing ur getting over conscious of urself ... any girl should like u for wat ur and not wat u look like ... almost all the time u have nagging that ur fiance is not liking u due to some reason ... u keep asking hell lot of doubts ... why don't u ask her directly .. i am sure u will get the answer
listen buddy .. don't worry how u look .. think wat ur .. if u keep thinking of improving ur looks that will end up no where .. please follow ur heart that girl is not worth u if she doesn't know ur worth and ofcourse she might have many other things in mind since it is arranged marriage .. it is only seeing and looks that count in that heart is never known ... so kool off ... give jump start to ur life
may god be with u
with love ur
friend
2006-12-08 18:38:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't have deep idea but i can give you advise that if both are really made for each other so first try to convince the mother after mother can solve your problem in batter way and specially in India mother is best friend that's my opinion and if you have a elder sister so that is also better....
2006-12-07 20:54:17 · answer #9 · answered by nav143 m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK your friend is got engaged.wish her a happy married life.
Now comming to your point, Are you in love, if yes tell to your parents and ask them to marry you to him. If you are not in love and your parents are looking then trust the choice of your parents. Yes belive me all guys are same apart from physical apperence.
2006-12-07 20:57:36 · answer #10 · answered by anand_gib 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
U see
family background- should be strong
rate of separation in the family-should be less
No of Bride dead in the family atmosphere & their reason of death-should be natural death & less nos
No of unscheduled marriages.-should be less
u need not to see the person , he will be the result of those above cultures
2006-12-07 20:41:00 · answer #11 · answered by sk 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋