should i stay with my wife if i dont love her?

Question

We have two children and i feel i am only staying because of them

Answer 1

yes, you should, until they are out of the house

u should discover what originally drew you to her, and pick up there, and dont give up yet

Answer 2

hi there i wonder if you are reading all these answers as you are now getting no 28 ?.........im sorry that you are feeling like this but you have to sit down with youre wife and start talking .....when you are in a marriage and kids are around and you are working you both end up ignoring each other and even when its not meant it can just happen .......i bet it must be ages since you both sat down at night and had a cuddle with out one of the kids going ....mum..dad??can i have or he is doing this or that ??!!!! i know ive been there ,you need to find a away to work this out and if you really do not love youre wife anymore there will be a lot of tears and upset but you will all come out the other side as long as you all keep talking .....im not going to tell you that you should stay in a relationship if you are that unhappy......the whole lot of will suffer and its not worth that at any price at all,......i hope you can get this sorted for all youre sakes good luck and take care xx

Answer 3

It would depend on the situation of your house. If you and your wife argues and fight a lot, then leave (always be available for your kids though). My Dad stayed with my Mom just because of his kids and let me tell you it really hurt worse than if he would have just left. they were always fighting, and children really do not need to hear all that. If you two get along pretty good, and there is some feelings there then I would suggest going to Marriage counseling first. Then if it does not work out then, it would be better for you to go your separate ways, you all deserve to be happy.

Answer 4

Love is an action, not necessarily a feeling. Love is when you are prepared for the long haul. Don't confuse falling out of love with boredom, tiredness of the same old person, or a lack of pizzazz. Perhaps you have met someone who makes your partner look old and boring..., well that's a deception because that person will eventually become the same.
The road may seem uphill at times, but if you take the time and effort to hang in there, sacrifice and return things to the way it used to be, I believe that is when you can say you have loved.

Answer 5

If you do not love her anymore, why not? a family is not a home without love and it is so hard on the kids especially going though divorce, think of the kids and also see if there is some way you and your wife can bring back that love you once had for each other at least for the kids plus talk it out with your wife maybe there is still some love surely.

Answer 6

You should be a man & fix the problem up
you loved her once so do it again
you have told yourself you dont love her!!
start telling yourself you do love her
if you treated her very lovingly I bet she would treat you in a very loving manner
you can't be mean & nasty to a woman & calling her a nag etc & then at bedtime expect her to be like juliette because her feelings are so very hurt so she will pull away from you etc
try to be nice & you just may end up loving her again
sorry if you think me a nag but no one should give up so easy
you will break your kids heart no matter what age they are because kids need both parents loving each other
even as an adult

Answer 7

DId you ever love her? If so, have you considered marriage counseling to try to help get that feeling back? Otherwise, I personally wouldn't want a man to stay with me if he didn't love me, and I think that staying with together for the children actually hurts them more in the long run than getting a divorce and having joint custody does.

Answer 8

the question you need to answer is "Why don't you love your wife anymore" and next is if you have a clear answer to that question I think it would be fair enough if you would live your wife because it would be hard for the children to see that you don't love thier mother too,,, I forgot where I read this but it says that "the best thing or gift that a father can give his children is to love their mother" well you could still continue to be their dad even if youre not with them anymore, but before making a decision that can make or break everybody in the family the best thing is to pray about it for God can hear our prayers and he is the best lover of all, he loves unconditionally,God bless

Answer 9

Really you are doing a disservice to you your wife and your kids
you because you are not happy with your life with her
Her because she either feels the same way or you will break her heart once the kids leave and shes all alone???
and the kids because you show that you are not happy even if you don't mean to, kids pickup on that stuff believe me.
Besides all that you already know the answer inside of your head thats the reason you are posting, all we can do is give you advice, you are the one that has to act on and live with it.
good luck with this hard life decision though bud.

Answer 10

You don't say much about your situation. Like how long married, if you both work, problems that you have, etc. You should do everything you can to salvage your relationship. It usually takes give on both sides. Your wife had two children with you, she has sacraficed and you owe her a chance. You don't deserve to live a miserable life, but you do owe giving it all you have before you decide to quit. Good Luck.

Answer 11

I am in a similar situation. I am currently asking myself the same question. It is not as simple as "you once loved her, so what happen?" Sometimes your life goes one way and her life goes in the opposite direction and you find yourself living in the same house, but two separate lives. You also find yourself kissing her, and having sex and doing other things that you may or may not want to do all so she want find out that you are no longer there for her. And on top of all of those feelings, you add in the kids. You don't want to be the man that hurt their mother but you don't to hurt either. Caught between a mountain and a hard place. If figure it out, let me as well.