2006-12-07 19:29:33 · 16 answers · asked by paul p 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Yeah, this one also makes me quiet.
However, I try to be discreet and tell them that I'm sorry for the loss of their father.
And send them a condolences card via mail.
If it was a close friend of mine, I would tell them that I am always here for them if they need to talk or a shoulder to cry on.
2006-12-07 19:38:52 · answer #1 · answered by Nikki 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him which you're sorry for his loss. tell him which you're there for him, if he desires to talk. deliver a Sympathy card. deliver vegetation in case you like. once you're a non secular guy or woman, tell him that he's on your concepts and prayers. provide him some time to handle this. He has pals and kinfolk interior sight. He desires to grieve with them as a kinfolk. he is going to be in ask your self, and affected by grief. this could all sense like a blur to him precise now. he's numb. something you're saying to him precise now could desire to no longer sink in. In a week or 2, deliver him some short emails to enable him understand which you're thinking approximately him. in case you probably can, in some weeks, provide him a telephone call, and supply him a guess to talk. i'm sorry for the inability of your pal's father.
2016-12-18 09:44:16 · answer #2 · answered by ottwell 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When my father died it was nice to hear condolences from them, but what I needed most was for them to just be there for me...to listen. Someone that has just lost a parent feels lost and needs to reach out. Just let them talk so they can begin the healing process.
2006-12-07 20:03:42 · answer #3 · answered by slick chik 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm here if you need me.
if they do come to you to talk about their feelings, grief, and what's going on, validate their feelings and do NOT offer them advice, or tell them to just cheer up and move on....this is an invalidation of the feelings theyre experiencing. you really have no idea what's going on with them. allow them as much time as they need to grieve. this could take years, or they may never fully grieve the death of their father. for now, tho, i think the most important and only thing you need to tell them is that you are here for them, and if they want to talk, you will listen (key word: LISTEN!)
2006-12-07 19:34:21 · answer #4 · answered by christina rose 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
say nothing.be there with the friend,wait on the friend to start talking about the memories of the father.just be a good listener.
2006-12-07 21:20:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There really isn't anything you can say to make it better... Just let them know that you will be there to support them and you will give them your shoulder to cry on.. just let them know that you are there if they need you. I wish I had that sometimes.. it really does mean a lot to hear it from someone you are close with.
2006-12-07 19:32:08 · answer #6 · answered by Amber 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him/her that no matter what happen you'll just be around when they need you or they need someone to talk to that simple things will lessen the burden he/she is carrying
2006-12-07 19:35:29 · answer #7 · answered by beng_ganda25 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him that you are there for him. Not much can be said at a time like this . .
2006-12-07 19:31:44 · answer #8 · answered by ginger13 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is nothing much u can say. it is ur presence that is importanat. at times like these it is the support that matters and not words.
2006-12-07 19:35:08 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No need to say anything if you don't know what to talk. He will talk to you if he need someone to talk to.
2006-12-07 19:33:33 · answer #10 · answered by Tan D 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋