He leaves the front door unlocked, leaves lights on all over the house and last night, for the third time, left the cooker on all night. It's driving me mad. My other housemates laugh at him and say it's just him being scatty, but I'm getting really frustrated with it - would they be laughing if the cooker caught fire?! Should I speak to him alone or call a house meeting and address it with everyone at once?
2006-12-07 18:58:01 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
i have dealt with this type before. it is best that u speak to this friend of urs alone, involve the group only when he doesnt bother to ammend his ways after the one-to-one chat. the most likely result is that he will not mend his ways. so what u can do is that check on the doors and lock them after him, switch off the lights and see to it that the cooker is not on.
2006-12-07 19:31:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is really dangerous, leaving the cooker on all nite. Confront him again and if it doesn't change, ask your other housemates for help. If they keep laughing, then it might be a time for a change of houses for you. They won't be laughing when their house catches fire, or a burglar takes their computer or what not. These are serious questions and you have a right to be concerned, especially considering the part of town you are in, etc.
2006-12-07 19:02:18 · answer #2 · answered by kaliroadrager 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We call that Dangerous Habits. Anyone that does these things do not care about themselves let alone others in the house. Those are very dangerous habits. Call a meeting ASAP. If there is no resolution, or the situation does not turn a 360 literally overnight, you may have to go through the proper procedure depending on the state or town you live in and evict him or her. You have a decision you must make, Living with someone's carelessness or the well being of yourself.
2006-12-07 19:11:21 · answer #3 · answered by Vivian 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LOL i have the same problem! NEVER locks the door, never throws out the garbage, he's messy, leaves dishes in the sink for a week, barely takes showers,smokes inside the house, leaves:lights, tv, air conditioner, fan and somtimes the oven on. and has 4-6 people over every day! I've been living with him for 6 months and told him millions of times but people don't change. Luckily the apt. is under my name. Had to kick him out. He's moving in 2 weeks. Speak to him alone since you're the only one with the problem.
2006-12-07 19:11:20 · answer #4 · answered by BRN305 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
losten you gotta tell em ,if a roomies wrong then a roomies wrong.If you dont talk with him then your wrong to how can he fix something if he dont know its broke.I wouldnt tell him around anyone else sounds like you might be the only one with issues concerning him ,so keep it between him and you,dont forget it helps to throw in a few things u like about him if theres not make something up its easier to hear the bad if its mixed with a little good.anyway express yourself ,ifmfor no other reason you can chaulk it upto a good practice of the kind of expressing yourself u should get used to doing without haveing to think about.itll make for a much happier uncluttered life ahead.goodluck remember right is right and when your right your standing in the light and when you stand in the light no one can tpuch ya ill tell ya,so go clear the air
2006-12-07 19:07:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whose name is on the rental agreement? If it's yours, of course you should speak privately to him first. If that doesn't work, perhaps you need to replace him. When people share a home, each one has an obligation to contribute to the care, upkeep, and reasonable rules of the home such as locking doors, turning off lights, keeping safety issues a priority. When one doesn't contribute, they contaminate the relationship of housemate.
2006-12-07 19:04:23 · answer #6 · answered by missingora 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Suggest house meetings,,like once a week or every two weeks or once a month.Keep it peaceful & to the point.Be polite.Those should be the rules of the meet before going into it.Say that these meets are so everyone can vent or talk about anything they want,,big or small.Then,,address your issues & the importance of them.
2006-12-07 19:03:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds as if my son has moved in with you.
Speak to him alone..that is the right thing to do. You wouldn't want to be called out in front of everyone. Don't treat him with any less respect as you would want to be treated. Yes, he is frustrating, but give him some dignity when you lay out your complaints.
2006-12-07 19:01:53 · answer #8 · answered by maamu 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
duty rooster is da best solution for all of u.give him da most hatred job in his life like supervised da house after everyone leaving, pay for da electricity so then he will be more concious about that..so what r u waiting for?briefing with all of them on saturday night!it will make them suffer!
2006-12-07 19:07:38 · answer #9 · answered by n 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes i think is better to call a house meeting because i think this isn;t just your problem.
and with that thing with the oven u could die... u can't play with that things.
he must be more careful because he isn't living alone!
2006-12-07 19:03:17 · answer #10 · answered by Elena 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋