How come change is so hard?

Question

I am 13. In my class the girls are in two groups. Popular and not so much. Last year I was in the middle. I have two best friends, one in each but most of my better friends are in the not so popular group and I like both groups for different reasons.

The problem started a couple of weeks ago. I was spending a bit more time than I normally do in the popular group and one of my good friends in the other group got very jealous. She said that I didnt like her or anything. We had a massive arguement and weren't speaking for days, she turned half my friends against me spreading rumors.

Now we have sorted things out but she's really clingy. She keeps asking me whether she's still one of my best friends. I don't have the nerve to say no, I cant stick another arguement and I'm worried if I say anything she'll turn the rest o the group against me. Im happy to give her up but not the others. How can I subtely say leave me alone without a massive arguement?

Answer 1

For being 13, you are very articulate.

In my opinion I don't think there is a way to control how she will react to your decision. That's on her.

Be friends with who you want to and be true to yourself.

Answer 2

I agree you are very articulate. Thumbs up to you.
You are in a bit of a stitch and sadly there is no perfect answer. Groups and popularity are a lot of what school is about. Sure its stupid and doesn't mean much later in life but when you're going through it....its rough. The only thing you can do is tell her the truth. If your friends are really your friends then they will understand. Be true to yourself.

Answer 3

You actually are a sandwitch type and timid one...so you have to face the music.

Answer 4

guess, wouldn't hurt if you be more patient and loving to all, esp to those who need it most, right?

Answer 5

i am a girl