2006-12-07 18:13:42 · 14 answers · asked by fm_aqua 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Get rid of your faults or get rid of your husband (and by get rid of him I don't mean to kill him, so don't say I gave you any ideas).
2006-12-07 18:16:19 · answer #1 · answered by marklemoore 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let him know he married you for better or for worse, in sickness and in health, so he's going to find faults and you will find some in him as well. He is not humanly perfect either. Tell him to not only point out your bad points but your good points too. Tell him that you both have things to work on but you have to help each other and not crush or put each other down in a negative way. But if a person does not truly love you they will always be fault finding. If they truly love you, they would be willing to help you overcome or correct your faults without hurting your feelings. You can feel love and you can feel when it's not love. If after talking to him things do not get better, LOOKOUT! he might be cheating. That is a common sign of a cheating man I have been through it all, so I'm talking from experience. At the age of 37, I have been through some things with marriage. Please be careful and stay watchful. Fall in love with God, he won't discourage you or nit pick you in a discouraging way. He loves you for real. Consider what I say, seek salvation for your soul if you're not saved. God can give you his peace, and nothing your husband says will affect you because God is with you.
2006-12-07 18:58:00 · answer #2 · answered by Denise W 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Find faults in him.........soon he will realize what youre going through all the time when hes finding faults in you(youre only human). And hopefully stop.
Maybe the two of you should speak about this matter, and get this sorted out.(who wants to be in a unhappy relationship)
rather work on youre problem together
2006-12-07 18:18:10 · answer #3 · answered by Candy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is something else behind his findings!! If he loved you the way a husband should love his wife, he would see no faults! (Unless there really is, like serious stuff). Sit back and watch, the truth in him will be revealed.
Be prepared for anything....expect the worse, hope for the best!
2006-12-07 18:20:41 · answer #4 · answered by DREAMY 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sit down and try to understand what is the root of this. Ask hi, what his feelings or memories if any that come to mind when he fnds fault. Perhaps it is related to an incident in his childhood, or he is comparing you to his mother. If he wants to change your behaviour, let him know that positive feedback is a better motivator than negative feedback. Discuss if this change is really that important to him, perhaps he just needs to feel in control and criticising you gives the appearance of it. There are other ways to give him this sense of control without making your life hell.
If that does not work try counselling from an independant therapist.
2006-12-07 18:19:40 · answer #5 · answered by Chris C 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Some men have the same question for women. It is not about men and women. It is about individual personalities. There are many couples that don't have this problem. Try to have effective communication with your partner.
2016-03-28 22:57:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's just trying to help to make you a better person. You should listen to him with an open mind. It's typical for a husband to be a little harsh but that is because he is very comfortable with you. Try to look at it as a good thing and thank him for his caring help.
2006-12-07 18:16:52 · answer #7 · answered by m-t-nest 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Find fault " in him ". That 'll deflate his Ego and he'll stop bothering you. Some people actually believe they have no flaws, and I guarantee you, when you point out to him that he does, he will leave you alone.
There is something about you that makes him feel inferior to you, and he criticizes you, to make himself feel superior.
2006-12-07 19:33:04 · answer #8 · answered by CLAIRE KC1 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
first of all dont leave any loop hole for your husband to point out.if the fault is your than say sorry,accept your mistake and try not to do it again.if its not your fault,than to accept it everytime.after sometime the husband will automatically start realizing that he he shouting unnecessarily.remember never ever argue.just dont repeat what he doesnot like.wait for few days and see the result.
2006-12-07 18:22:57 · answer #9 · answered by khushi 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Nobody is perfect in this world. I think he has insecurities about himself and he's trying to make u feel bad about urself so he can then feel good about himself (hope i make sense). either that or thats his way of telling u things that he doesnt like about you. either way communication is the key so talk to him and tell him why is he always picking on u.
2006-12-07 19:12:53 · answer #10 · answered by gonzalezleon3022 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋