What are the good points and bad points of having the baby carry the father's last name? She and her 3 children by a previous marriage all carry the ex-husbands name. She is having a difficult time deciding because she wants the new baby to have that connection with the father, even though he likely will not be an active part of the child's life emotionally or financially.
2006-12-07 18:05:43 · 12 answers · asked by simplymichelle 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
The new baby is by a different father, not the ex-husband...
2006-12-07 18:25:23 · update #1
If HE won't likely be an emotional or financial part of the child's life, why confuse the child with the emotional distance of having a different last name. I have a different father than my siblings, and my legal last name was my mother's maiden name, but after my mom got married, i went by my step-dad's name. There is enough emotional conflict because of having different fathers without feeling that you are not even part of the same family because of your last name.
2006-12-07 18:13:19 · answer #1 · answered by Cyndi Storm 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I'm confused to the question, but I'll answer the best I can. Is the new baby from ex-husband as well? Or from a new husband?
If the new baby is from the same father (the exhusband) as the other 3 children, I think it's best to give the new baby the ex-husband's last name, so all 4 children would have the same last name. It will give all the children a connection to each other, making thier sibling relationship easier to handle. It would be awkward for 1 out of 4 siblings to have a different last name and during thier lifetime, they would be asked a lot of questions that may be unnecessary because of it.
If the baby is from a new husband, it all depends on what the new husband wants as well as the wife. They'll have to work it out.
Either way, it is always for the best interest of the baby and the other children.
2006-12-07 18:16:36 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Truthfully, I would give the baby the same name as the other children. I am assuming she still is carrying her married name which is also the name of the other children. It makes for less hassles and explanations and it's nobody's business. Later if the child wants to change his name to his biological father's name then it is a simple an inexpensive legal procedure.
The guy has to pay the child support whether or not the child bears his name. As long as his DNA matches: he's the daddy.
2006-12-07 18:08:41 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I did not want my son to have his bio-fathers name, but at mediation for child support the lady said if it went in front of a judge they'd most likely give him the fathers name or at least hyphenate it. Being ignorant of the truth and beliving this lady I agreed to hyphenate the name mine first then his, and he also said he would be a part of the babies life. We have not seen or heard from him since that day (3 yrs ago) and the lady lied. My sons name has never been legally changed to what the court papers say it is to be mainly due to him not doing it himself since he's not around. I wouldn't suggest giving the baby that mans name, and unless absolutely neccessary i wouldn't get child support either at least not thru the attorney general. I guess it really depends if you're not needing assistance from the state, cuz if you do then they'll wanna know who the father is and make him responsible. not always a good idea but they don't care. so really when it all comes down to it, it's just a name but i'd really want my baby to have my name or least my maiden name.
2006-12-07 18:15:08 · answer #4 · answered by mom_a_Joy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the father isn't going to be an active part, don't give the baby his last name. Give the baby the same name as the mother, since she we likely be doing 110% of the work!
2006-12-07 18:13:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Who's the named father on the birth certificate? And is anybody married to the mother? I understand where you are coming from - of course your want your baby to have your last name, but it sounds like you will have to petition the court. Do you have a lawyer? You as the birth father have rights, but she's married to him, then he is the legal father and he has rights.
2016-05-23 05:49:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
father's last name proof the heredity. As the father likely will not be an active part of the child's life both emotionally& financially. the baby must be given his/her mother's last name.
2006-12-07 18:24:20 · answer #7 · answered by amit 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He does not have a choice as to whether he wants to be financially responsible. She can take him to court and have the courts garnish his wages. Most states do this now to cut back on the amount of deadbeats. Also, she can make it so he has to carry medical insurance on the baby through his job (If he has insurance), so that might require the baby to have his last name.
2006-12-07 18:12:23 · answer #8 · answered by Ryan's mom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's up to her. This child obviously has a different dad from the others. I would say to give the child the father's last name so that he won't feel left out while growing up with his other siblings. If he doesn't like it when he gets older, she can change it for him, or hecan wait and change it his self.
2006-12-07 18:16:34 · answer #9 · answered by U Think U Know Me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give the baby the dad's last name. My mom went thru the same thing with me. When I was in 6th grade I had it changed to my dad's name because that was rightfully my name.
2006-12-07 18:50:32 · answer #10 · answered by vanessac2006 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋