I need suggestions on how to talk to my wife and make sure she listens and understands what I am trying to say. She is always telling me that she is but I ask her at a later time what I said and she just mixes it up into something she wants to hear.
2006-12-07 17:43:43 · 14 answers · asked by Max Warhawk 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Age old problem you have. 1. Tell her you have something important to tell her. 2. Make sure she is not trying to accomplish something else that will distract her. 3. Timing is everything. 4. If you are trying to tell her something that she doesn't want to hear, she'll blot you out. 5. Many people often "translate" what they hear into something they understand in their own words - accept that. 6. Tell her twice, and be patient about it.
2006-12-07 17:50:11 · answer #1 · answered by Isabel 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ask her to listen. Remember, true listening is an art. It requires total concentration. Few people really know how to listen. Do you truly listen to her? Ask her if she thinks you are listening to her. When she's talking do you start thinking about what you're going to say in response...or do you continue to listen and focus on what she's saying? Ask her to do the same for you. It's surprising what one can hear if one truly listens. Great Christmas present...a promise to listen.
2006-12-07 17:59:17 · answer #2 · answered by judgebill 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmm this is a bit of a sticky issue for me since I too am a selective listener but only when my husband rambles on and on about complete nonsense or such. I'd say evaluate what she is not listening to and go from there if it's just meaningless stuff about work and such then it shouldn't really matter but if shes not listening about your personal feelings and such then you may have a problem. Maybe sit down and explain to her how your feeling about her not listening to you...have a good heart-heart about the situation and go from there!
2006-12-07 17:54:29 · answer #3 · answered by nkkidw040602 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I think that when you want to talk to your wife about something,why don't you wait til the kids settle down if you have any, and maybe run her a nice bath and say honey I need to talk to you about something.oh yeah fix her a nice little drink just to relax her and if that don't work I don't know what to tell you good luck.
2006-12-07 17:55:06 · answer #4 · answered by carolstar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Write her a letter . Maybe tell her when you all are relaxing together or out to dinner. I think people absorb more when they dont feel like they are being attacked . So make sure when you talk to her tell her in a nonconfrontational way . Good Luck
2006-12-07 17:46:34 · answer #5 · answered by niknak 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the terrific thank you to resolve it fairly is to gently attitude her with the subject. women people do unlike being advised they are incorrect lol, so attempt to adhere some effective issues in there. consistent with danger tell her which you do take excitement in listening to issues approximately her, you like understanding what's going on yet which you think of she ought to do a sprint greater listening to you. tension to her how significant you think of that's which you hit upon a stability someplace in there.
2016-10-05 01:04:51 · answer #6 · answered by geddings 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all I'm not sure what you're saying here. Do you really expect her to remember word for word what you've said earlier? I doubt anyone could do that. I'm sure she really listens to the important stuff.
2006-12-07 18:46:38 · answer #7 · answered by frustrated 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is new. usually the men are the ones that don't listen. maybe she has too much on her mind. let her know how you feel about her on that, maybe if she realizes how you're seriously affected by it, she'll try to focus more on what you say next time.
2006-12-07 17:49:02 · answer #8 · answered by Bubuchachum 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe its bad timing when you tell her things?
I suggest you find a time when shes not stressed or enjoying any of her own personal time. Approach her when shes not distracted.
2006-12-07 17:50:02 · answer #9 · answered by enticingmind 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Welcome to the Jungle , (we 've got fun and games).lots of people do that , they hear (and see) what" they" want to hear and see . She hears you, but she's telling you what she " wishes" you were saying. (smile).
So, until you say what " she" wants to hear you say, she'll just keep pretending not to understand and having "Fun and Games".
2006-12-07 19:14:35 · answer #10 · answered by CLAIRE KC1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋