Hi :)
My husband has wonderful characteristics, he is responsible, loving, trustworthy, and so on, I fell in love with him because of all his wonderful charactersitics. The only problem is that I was raised to be very family and friend oriented, but he was raised to be more individualistic, I get bored lots of times cause he stays at home most of his free time, he never even mentions getting togheter with a group of friends and have fun. I just moved to this country a year ago so I counted on him to connect with friends, but he has none :(
Is it kinda an american thing to be individualistic, or is it my husband's personality?
2006-12-07 17:31:49 · 27 answers · asked by Alejandra 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
In the old days, men married into his wife's family. If you're seperated from yours; make some close friends and surrogate family where you are and bring your husband. He seems pretty introverted and may resist some, he'll likely complain, but thank you for getting him involved with other people.
2006-12-07 17:41:53 · answer #1 · answered by AnswerGuy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's the way he is. As an American living in a community that is almost entirely brand new immigrants from Mexico I can tell you that the people I live with are MUCH more active than what I am used to. Someone is always going to someone's house, there is always a party somewhere. I love my neighborhood, but I can tell you that NONE of the ones I grew up in were anything close to how active, friendly etc this place is.
Make some of your own friends. There is no law that says you have to, or should live vicariously through your husband.
2006-12-08 01:36:28 · answer #2 · answered by Star 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
People are kinda difficult and spending time with them is usually a pain in the *** so..... I'm kinda like your husband. But I do not think this is an American thing, I think it depends on the life experience thing. Maybe your husband has been screwed over as many times as I have and that is why he prefers to be alone. You can find friends of your own to hang out with, it's good that you two have separate lives anyway so that things don't get boring. Have a nice day.
2006-12-08 01:35:10 · answer #3 · answered by RockabillyBanana 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I thinks it just him.
He sounds like a nice man, And I think he would like to go out and have fun. But I think it's him, and he doesn't know how. He might have some kind of thing were he doesn't connect to people alot, like others do.
Or he might just not care for going out. He might just want to stay home and do nothing. Only he knows, so ask him!
But to answer your question more, NO!!!! Not everyone in America act like he does. But we are raised to be on your own, but have fun with others.
2006-12-08 01:41:28 · answer #4 · answered by SYDORAS 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a guy thing, but I do find it strange that he has no friends. Seeing how you're able to get to the internet check online and see if there are clubs you can get involved in. Better yet check your local paper for activities you can get involved in. It never hurts to volunteer. Oh by the way do you go to church, it is a great resource for comfort and love, and a wonderful way to meet people in your community. God Bless
2006-12-08 01:42:40 · answer #5 · answered by moniiluv17 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just his personality.
Maybe suggest some kind of hobby that you can both do where you can meet other people.
A couple I know started playing poker in a local pub poker league (legal and for points not money). My wife and I met them there and became good friends. I've met some new friends there other than them too. In fact I've been playing there for about a year and have made three good friends, and numerous acquaintances.
Now I am not suggesting that you play poker, but there has to be plenty of other activities out there that couples can do and meet other couples.
2006-12-08 01:34:04 · answer #6 · answered by ZCT 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Hears what you do. Go out by yourself. Get wasted. Have strange men drop you off at 4:00AM. When he asks what is going on. Tell him you just came from a Tupperware party. If he asks any other questions. Just say "what the ****". He'll be up your *** in no time.
Trust me.
2006-12-08 02:44:39 · answer #7 · answered by poopy pants 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its probably cultural, his personality, and gender (I think women tend to be more 'friends' oriented).
Just be up front with him, plan social events whether at your place or others. If that bothers him, he'll let you know. For my part, I don't care what I'm doing after work, as long as I'm with my wife.
2006-12-08 15:47:16 · answer #8 · answered by kheserthorpe 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My friends and I all enjoy spending time together, so I would assume it is simply your husband's personality. Some people enjoy spending time with friends, and others do not.
2006-12-08 01:33:58 · answer #9 · answered by moochwaller 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i thing that's your husbands personality? but i feel you two shouldd talk about it you shoul tell him not to let go to much that rope that frees you to much to be by your self?
we are Mexicans girl you now whats up OK?
talk with him make some agreements one week for what he wants to do? and next week what you want to do.
2006-12-08 01:52:43 · answer #10 · answered by sandysexy_4_fun 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋